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The narcissist will refuse to discuss…

The narcissist will refuse to discuss what triggered you, but they'll gladly demonize how you reacted. They'll twist the narrative to shift the focus away from their own harmful behavior and onto your emotional response. They'll gaslight you into believing that your feelings are the problem, that you're the one who's too sensitive, too emotional, too crazy.

They'll use your reaction as evidence of your supposed flaws, as proof that you're the one who's broken, who's defective. They'll tell you that you're overreacting, that you're being too dramatic, that you're making a big deal out of nothing.

But they'll never, ever take responsibility for their own actions. They'll never acknowledge the hurt they've caused, the pain they've inflicted. They'll never validate your feelings or apologize for their own behavior.

Instead, they'll continue to manipulate and control, using your emotional response as a weapon against you. They'll use it to silence you, to shame you, to keep you in line.

But don't fall for it. Don't let them convince you that your feelings are the problem. Don't let them gaslight you into believing that you're the one who's crazy.

You are not crazy. Your feelings are valid. And the narcissist's behaviour is not your fault.

"It has never mattered to me that thirty million people might think 'I'm wrong.'

The number of people who thought Hitler was 'right' did not make him 'right.'

The same principle should be applied to anyone who has an individualistic attitude. Why do you necessarily have to be wrong just because a few million people think you are?"

Frank Zappa.

The Seer (for my dear Friend @buckhead1111 ).

13 BEST WAYS TO DO WHEN YOUR WIFE REFUSES TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU

1. PREPARE HER

Sometimes it is not that she does not want to make love to you but that all you have to do is prepare her with foreplay to get her in the mood

2. DO NOT FORCE HER

Do not force yourself on her in the name of demanding for your conjugal rights. Forcing an adult to have sex is demeaning and disrespectful

3. CHECK IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURTING HER EMOTIONS

If you have been hurting or ignoring her emotions, she will struggle to be sexually attracted to you. Women make love with their heart. If her heart is bruised, she will struggle to give you her body

4. CHECK IF LAST TIME YOU WERE TOO ROUGH ON HER

If last time you were too rough on her leaving her vagina, clitoris or nipples sore; she might be uncomfortable about letting you have her. Learn to be gentle

5. CHECK IF YOU HAVE UNADDRESSED ISSUES

If there are matters in your marriage that are not being concluded, intimacy will suffer. Stop ignoring the issues. The sooner you solve them the better

6. CHECK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU OF CHEATING

If she knows of or suspects you are cheating, it will be a barrier between you two. If you have been cheating, stop it and win back her trust. If she suspects but it is not true, allay her fears and make her secure

7. CUDDLE HER

Sometimes this means more to her than love making. This goes a long way to show her she is not a sex object. This secures her and in doing so, she will enjoy making love with you

8. GAUGE HER MENSTRUATION CYCLE

Know your wife's monthly period cycle. Not every wife lies they are on their periods

9. FIND OUT IF SOMETHING IS STRESSING HER

Maybe there is something outside of your marriage that is disturbing her, maybe it is work issues, financial issues, her health, the children, her parents, a past trauma. Hear her out and show her that you are on her side

10. DON'T CHEAT ON HER

Just because she is not in the mood today, doesn't mean you cheat. She might come around tomorrow depending on how you two treat each other, but if you cheat on her you might lose her for good

11. BE PATIENT WITH HER

Life is fluid, with ups and downs. Sometimes she may not be in the mood just as you are also sometimes not in the mood. Understand her

12. PUT HER ABOVE YOUR PENIS

Show her that she is more important to you than sexual pleasure. There is more to marriage than an orgasm. Once you make her a priority, intimacy will be richer

13. GENTLY ASK HER WHAT IS WRONG

Don't assume or get furious that she is denying you sex. Simply ask her if she is OK, she will open up and you two will grow closer

Remember: Sex is the gift of marriage from our Creator. So, these are the best tips to all marriages to eliminate misunderstanding on the sex issues for a healthy and happy relationship.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

God bless us all.

HOW TO TURN ON WOMEN

1. Display confidence in yourself and your actions.

2. Pay attention to what she says and show interest in her thoughts.

3. Compliment her focusing on both physical and personal attributes.

4. Communicate openly and honestly.

5. Make her laugh with your sense of humor.

6. Surprise her with romantic gestures.

7. Take the lead in initiating physical intimacy, and show your manly desire.

8. Always be aware of her boundaries.

9. Be empathetic towards her feelings and experiences.

10. Use gentle touches to convey your attraction.

11. Maintain Personal Hygiene.

12. Dress in a way that makes you feel confident and attractive.

13. Share and explore new experiences together.

non sexual intimacy!!!! bathing together, washing each other, playing with each other's hair, kissing every inch of their body, writing love letters on their back with your finger, connecting their moles and freckles to create constellations on their skin, running your hands up and down their thighs, ugh just expressing physical love without it having to be about sex!!!!