Isis-of-the-moon - Miss 🤍✨

Little things that improved my life 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Accepting my sleep schedule. I'm a night owl; I focus at night, I'm calm at night, I'm motivated at night. For a long time, I tried to fight this since everyone always preaches getting up early, but since I started accepting my natural sleep schedule, I've been feeling a lot better and have become way more productive.

"drink more water". TEA. Tea is the secret here. I will be honest, I hate drinking water; it doesn't matter if I have a cute water bottle or a cute glass, I still hate it. TEA.

Replying quickly. I used to be one of those people who get a text message and think, "Oh, I'll reply to that later", and then just forget about it entirely. Now, I text back as soon as I see the message. This has not only improved my texting anxiety (which I cause on my own by now replying and then feeling bad) but also deepened my connection to my friends. <3

Keeping my circle small and being okay with that. Over the past months, I've had this sudden urge to expand my social circle and get to know more and more people, especially after I moved in August. However, this quickly ended in what I like to call my "social burnout". I was tired, annoyed, and overwhelmed. It took a few weeks for it to settle, but I've come to the conclusion that I would much rather have a smaller circle of people who I trust and love deeply than a huge group of friends, and that's totally okay.

Wearing what I like. Even though I live in a big city, I'd still say that my style can sometimes be a bit more extravagant than what most people wear, another point is that I'm very uncomfortable with pants so I only wear skirts, which is also considered a bit odd where I live. But over the past years, I've come to accept that and have become so sure of myself and found such comfort in my style that I now just wear whatever I like, and it makes every day a little bit nicer.

Reading and writing for pleasure. Reading books outside of my studies and spending time researching topics that simply interest me is such a great way to calm your mind. Same for writing, I always like to say that to write is to think; putting your thoughts on paper in cohesive and well-crafted sentences that you can then reread and think over again is such a liberating thing to do.

Reaching out more. fuck the whole "double texting" and "no contact" thing. If you want to speak to someone because they mean something to you, then just do it. Unless they specifically asked for space, you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to be in touch with them. Many even really appreciate it when you show that you truly care. Let's stop the nonchalant act, and instead, let's face deep emotions and true vulnerability. <3

As always, please feel free to share your own little insights and things that helped you improve comments! <3

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💗 A Healthy Relationship Should:

Boost your confidence

Encourage you to achieve your goals

Elevate your happiness

Bring you peace

Provide stability & security

Cultivate experiences

Nurture emotional and physical intimacy

Inspire you to take care of yourself

Enhance your life

💗 A Healthy Relationship Should Not:

Undermine your self esteem

Hinder your independence

Limit your growth

Create stress

Promote jealousy

Neglect your needs

Isolate you

Manipulate or guilt you

Be overly dependent

Ignore boundaries

𝐻𝑂𝑊 𝑇𝑂 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊 𝑈𝑃- 2𝑁𝐷 𝑄𝑈𝐴𝑅𝑇𝐸𝑅

𝑁𝑜 𝑀𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝐸𝑥𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑒𝑠. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑇𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝐺𝑒𝑡 𝐼𝑡 𝑇𝑜𝑔𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟.

𝐿𝑒𝑡'𝑠 𝑏𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙, 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑙𝑦 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒, 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑤𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒. 𝐴 𝑔𝑙𝑜𝑤-𝑢𝑝 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑔𝑜𝑜𝑑 ; 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑖𝑛 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑎𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡- 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑, ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ, 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑟, 𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑠, 𝑒𝑛𝑣𝑖𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑡ℎ, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡.

𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑎 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟. 𝑇ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑛𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑛𝑜 𝑒𝑥𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑎𝑡 𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑡 𝑡𝑤𝑜 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑒𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ𝑠. 𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑖𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡, 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑐𝑘.

𝐴𝑃𝑅𝐼𝐿-𝑀𝐴𝑌-𝐽𝑈𝑁𝐸

𝐺𝐸𝑇 𝑆𝐸𝑅𝐼𝑂𝑈𝑆 𝑂𝑅 𝑆𝑇𝐴𝑌 𝑇𝐻𝐸 𝑆𝐴𝑀𝐸

✰ 𝐶ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒 2 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘 (𝑦𝑒𝑠, 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑐ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒).

✰ 𝑆𝑒𝑡 3 𝑐𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑒𝑎𝑐ℎ. 𝑁𝑜 𝑣𝑎𝑔𝑢𝑒 "𝐼'𝑙𝑙 𝑇𝑟𝑦" 𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑒.

✰ 𝑇𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠 (𝑎 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑒𝑟 𝑜𝑟 𝑗𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑡!)

✰ 𝑆ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑢𝑝 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑑𝑎𝑦. 𝑁𝑜𝑡 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑.

✰ 𝑅𝑒𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓- 𝐵𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑦 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝐸𝐴𝑅𝑁 𝑖𝑡

𝑇𝑖𝑝: 𝑇𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑙𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑔𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑢𝑝, 𝑎 𝑣𝑖𝑠𝑖𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑖𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑡. 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑎 𝑟𝑒𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑡𝑜 𝑘𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔!

𝐶𝐻𝑂𝑂𝑆𝐸 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅 𝐴𝑅𝐸𝐴𝑆 𝑂𝐹 𝐼𝑀𝑃𝑅𝑂𝑉𝐸𝑀𝐸𝑁𝑇

𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑡𝑜 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑑𝑒:

𝐶𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑟 𝐺𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠 - 𝐿𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑙 𝑈𝑝 𝑃𝑟𝑜𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦

𝑁𝑒𝑔𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑎 𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 - 𝑆𝑒𝑡 𝑢𝑝 𝑎 𝑚𝑒𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑜𝑠𝑠.

𝑈𝑝𝑔𝑟𝑎𝑑𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠 - 𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑑 𝑎 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑝.

𝐽𝑜𝑏 𝑠𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑐ℎ - 𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑟 𝑢𝑛ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑦, 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑙𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑤 𝑜𝑝𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑒𝑠.

𝐸𝑥𝑝𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑛𝑒𝑡𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘 - 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑜𝑟𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑢𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑦 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙𝑠.

𝑆𝑒𝑡 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘-𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑠 - 𝑃𝑟𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑙 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ.

𝐹𝑖𝑛𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑠 - 𝑆𝑒𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝐵𝑎𝑔

𝑅𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑤 𝑙𝑎𝑠𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ'𝑠 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑒𝑠 - 𝐾𝑛𝑜𝑤 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔.

𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑎 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑐 𝑏𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡 - 𝑆𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢.

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠/𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔.

𝐵𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠 - 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑦 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑.

𝐵𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑.

𝑆𝑎𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡.

𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑆𝑎𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔! - 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑎𝑚𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟.

𝐶𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑙 𝑢𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑎𝑟𝑦 𝑠𝑢𝑏𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 - 𝐶𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑢𝑠𝑒.

𝑃𝑎𝑦 𝑏𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠 𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 - 𝐴𝑣𝑜𝑖𝑑 𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑠.

𝐶𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑎𝑡 ℎ𝑜𝑚𝑒 - 𝑆𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑦 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑒𝑎𝑡 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑒𝑟.

𝑃𝑅𝐴𝐶𝑇𝐼𝐶𝐸 𝐺𝑂𝐴𝐿 𝑆𝐸𝑇𝑇𝐼𝑁𝐺 - 𝑇𝐻𝐸 𝑅𝐼𝐺𝐻𝑇 𝑊𝐴𝑌

𝑆𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑔𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠 𝑐𝑎𝑛 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑠𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑖𝑐𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑘𝑒𝑦.

✰ 𝑃𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 2 𝑓𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟 - 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑙𝑜𝑎𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓.

✰ 𝐵𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑖𝑡 𝑑𝑜𝑤𝑛 - 𝐶ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒 2 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝𝑠 𝑝𝑒𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ

✰ 𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑎 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑟 𝑜𝑟 𝑗𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠.

✰ 𝐶ℎ𝑒𝑐𝑘 𝑜𝑓𝑓 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑖𝑠ℎ𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡 - 𝐶𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑏𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑠.

✰ 𝑅𝑒𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑞𝑢𝑖𝑡!

𝑅𝐸𝑊𝐴𝑅𝐷 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅𝑆𝐸𝐿𝐹 𝐵𝐸𝐶𝐴𝑈𝑆𝐸 𝑌𝑂𝑈 𝐷𝐸𝑆𝐸𝑅𝑉𝐸 𝐼𝑇

𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑑, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑐𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑏𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛! 𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑎 𝑓𝑒𝑤 𝑤𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓:

𝑆𝑝𝑎 𝐷𝑎𝑦 : 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑥, 𝑢𝑛𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑑, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑔𝑒.

𝐷𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑁𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡 : 𝑆𝑜𝑙𝑜 𝑜𝑟 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑎 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑛𝑒, 𝑒𝑛𝑗𝑜𝑦 𝑎 𝑛𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑙.

𝑀𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑒 𝑁𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡 : 𝐶𝑜𝑧𝑦 𝑢𝑝 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑓𝑎𝑣𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑒 𝑓𝑖𝑙𝑚.

𝑆ℎ𝑜𝑝𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑆𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑒 : 𝐵𝑢𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑛𝑖𝑐𝑒 (𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛 𝑏𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡!)

𝐹𝐼𝑁𝐴𝐿 𝑅𝐸𝑀𝐼𝑁𝐷𝐸𝑅

𝐺𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑡ℎ 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛- 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠. 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑚𝑏𝑒𝑟 : 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝑎𝑑𝑑𝑠 𝑢𝑝 𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑏𝑖𝑔 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑠𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛.

WHY AREN'T YOU DATING YOURSELF TOO?

As I sat sipping my morning coffee, I couldn't help but wonder: why do we often wait for someone else to take us on a romantic date when the perfect partner has been there all along—ourselves?

We get so caught up in chasing love from others we often forget that sometimes that you can give yourself the love you need too.

There’s something soooo empowering about falling in love with your own presence. I mean why wouldn't I want to hangout with myself? I'm amazing, fun and smell good too.

When you take yourself out, you're not just spending time alone— you're setting the standard for yourself everytime you get dressed up and go to that fancy restaurant, everytime you grab your tote bag and favourite runners and go exploring in your city, or even monthly spa visits to pamper yourself. make your solo dates pop so you don't settle for less when it comes to romantic partners and platonic friendships

Physical Solo Date Ideas

Sunset Beach Walk: Slip into your cutest sundress and wander along the beach as the sun sets. You could even pack yourself some of your fave sparkling drinks and some fruits! and everybody always feels better after they spend some time by the water.

Picnic in the Park: Pack a basket with your favorite snacks, a cozy blanket, and a good book. Find a shady spot under a tree 🍓📖

Yoga in the Garden: Roll out your mat in your backyard or a nearby garden. Breathe in the fresh air and stretch your body 🧘‍♀️🌸

Gallery Hopping: Spend an afternoon exploring local art galleries. Take your time admiring each piece and journal about it after 🖼️

Stargazing Night: On a clear night, lay out a blanket in your backyard or a quiet park and look up at the stars ✨

Food Solo Date Ideas

Café Hopping: Spend a day exploring cafés in your city and act like the main character in a sitcom or romcom. My fave thing about cafe's is people watching and making up storylines about people. ☕️

Gourmet Dinner for One: Dress up and take yourself to that fancy restaurant you’ve been eyeing. Put on that dress you've been "saving for a special occasion" and order yourself the whole bottle! 🍷

Baking Adventure: Try out a new baking recipe and create some new sweet treats, whatever you have leftover you can share with your girls 🥮🍪🍰

Farmers’ Market Feast: Visit a local farmers’ market and pick out fresh, seasonal ingredients. Then, head home and cook a delicious, wholesome meal just for you.

Ice Cream Parlor Indulgence: Treat yourself to a visit to an ice cream parlor.

Remember, darling, you're the star of your own show. Every moment spent with yourself is a chance to fall head over heels for the fabulous person you are. So, slip into that cute outfit, step out with all the confidence of a city girl in stilettos, and let the world bask in your glow.

After all, the greatest romance you'll ever have is the one you create within yourself.

Overthinking is a choice. Taking everything personally is a choice. Being ruled by fear is a choice

but so is,

• Being serene and grounded

• Remaining unbothered

• Seeing opportunities in everything around you

Why You Need a “Hot Girl Reset” Every Single Week

by Soleau Club

If you’re trying to look good, feel good, and live a life that’s giving main character on a yacht in Capri—you need a weekly reset.

Not want. Need.

Because no matter how hot, healed, or high-functioning you are, life gets chaotic. Your skincare piles up, your inbox is scary, and you forget who you are mid-week (been there, babe).

That’s where the Hot Girl Reset comes in.

So, What Even Is a Hot Girl Reset?

It’s not just cleaning your apartment or doing a face mask. That’s maintenance. A Hot Girl Reset is a full system recalibration. A ritual. A vibe. A weekly ceremony of self-devotion.

It’s how you become that girl—again and again.

Step 1: Detox Your Space (and Energy)

Start with your physical environment. Because if your room looks like chaos, your brain is chaos.

Strip your bed and do fresh sheets

Open the windows, let the light in

Wipe down everything (even your vibe)

Light incense or palo santo like you’re banishing demons (aka last week’s stress)

Then detox your energy:

Sage your aura with sound bowls or Beyoncé

Take a long, borderline indulgent shower with body oil and scalp massage

Delete those texts. You know the ones.

Step 2: Reorganize Your Life Like It’s an Aesthetic TikTok

Hot girls don’t run on chaos. They run on calendars and rituals.

Plan your week in your cute planner (yes, stickers allowed)

Make a grocery list of bloat-free, glow-boosting foods

Set 3 goals max—because overwhelm is not chic

Put your vitamins in that little pill organizer (we’re grown)

Bonus points if you color-code. Double bonus if you film it for content. Triple if you romanticize the whole thing with a matcha latte in hand.

Step 3: Do a “Look Good, Feel Good” Ritual

This is where it gets juicy. Reset your beauty, baby.

Dry brush, exfoliate, and oil your body like you’re a Greek goddess

Wash your makeup brushes (yes, you’ve been putting bacteria on your face)

Put on a hair mask and pretend you’re in a spa commercial

Pick your outfits for the week that scream rich, rested, and unbothered

We’re not just resetting—we’re rebranding. Every Sunday.

Step 4: Mentally Clock Out of Chaos

Hot girls protect their inner peace like it’s Prada.

Journal: “What am I releasing this week?” + “What am I calling in?”

Meditate—even if it’s just 4 minutes in silence with your hand on your heart

Listen to a podcast that makes you feel elevated, not overstimulated

Sip a sleepy girl mocktail and go to bed early (beauty sleep is a business strategy)

Why This Actually Works

When you reset weekly, you:

Reduce anxiety (because your life’s not a mess)

Boost confidence (because you’re in control)

Show your nervous system it’s safe now

Reconnect with your vision board self (the baddie you’re becoming)

Your Hot Girl Reset is your anchor. Your power source. Your soft armor.

It says, “I respect myself too much to stay in chaos.”

Final Thoughts from Soleau Club

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being intentional. It’s about saying: “I deserve a life that feels like a Pinterest board—because I built it that way.”

So light that candle. Put on your spa playlist. Romanticize the mundane.

And remember: A Hot Girl Reset is not a luxury. It’s a lifestyle.

Follow @soleauclub for daily hot girl health, aesthetic wellness rituals, and biohacks you’ll actually want to try.

STUDY SYSTEM : DAILY STUDY ROUTINE ( EXAM EDITION)

hii looves so this blog is all abt how to optimizing your day for peak academic performance. This four-part daily system is the exact routine used during exam season especially finals to consistently achieve top grades with minimal stress. While the routine may appear complex at first glance it is built upon simple, intuitive principles rooted in human biology and psychology. It is not only practical but highly effective when followed consistently. You’ll learn to structure your day around ur natural energy cycles, use tools to boost focus, and incorporate essential periods of rest and release to maintain motivation and productivity.

SECTION 1: UNDERSTANDING UR ENERGY RHYTHM

The routine is built around the concept of the circadian rhythm, your body’s natural energy cycle throughout the day. On a standard day for example :

Energy peaks shortly after waking typically around 6:00 AM.

Energy dips mid-afternoon often around 2:30 or 3:00 PM.

A secondary energy peak occurs in the evening approximately around 7:00 PM.

Energy tapers off as bedtime approaches.

This predictable fluctuation is key to optimizing your study schedule. The two energy peaks will be your core study sessions, while the dip will be used as a rest period, and the late-night wind-down becomes your release period or bedtime .

SECTION 2: THE MORNING STUDY SESSION (STUDY SESSION #1)

◜⁠✧ Start Within One Hour of Waking Up

Your goal is to begin studying as soon as possible after waking, ideally within the first hour. Use the high energy of the morning to tackle your most challenging subjects.do ur morning routine quick as possible don't do intense workout or stuff like this cuz u will waste ur energy so always have a specific morning routine for days like these ! And u can workout go to the gym or whatever at the rest period !

Pre-Study Essentials:

1. Set Your Daily Goals (5 minutes)

Before starting, sit with a notebook or your computer and write down what you intend to accomplish. Be specific. Define exact tasks e.g. which past papers you’ll solve, which topics to review so u will be more organized during the day

2. Activate Focus with Three Optional Tools:

Caffeine — coffee, yerba mate, or tea to boost dopamine and adrenaline.

Cold Showers — a physiological wake-up that increases alertness (personally I don't do that lmao but if u can that's good !)

Focus Warm-up (1–2 minutes) — pick a point in your environment and concentrate on it intensely. This warms up your cognitive focus system before you start.

◜⁠✧Deep Work Sprint Format

Commit to a 2–4 hour study block.

Use timed work intervals: e.g., 25–30 minutes of focused work followed by 5-minute breaks.

Use a visual timer to create urgency and focus. This serves as a “deadline generator,” helping you push harder and maintain hope by offering visible progress.

─ ⊹key principle: work Like a warrior

Study in focused sprints. The more intense your focus, the less time you’ll need to study. The idea is depth over duration not 12 hours of mediocre attention, but 2–4 hours of deep concentration.

SECTION 3: MIDDAY REST PERIOD

Timing: After First Study Block Ends (~Early Afternoon)

At this point in the day, your energy naturally dips. It’s essential to give yourself permission to rest. This period is not for distractions like Netflix, YouTube, or social media.

◜⁠✧ Approved Activities:

Exercise or light sports

Socializing with friends/family

Taking a walk, especially outdoors

Napping (ideal: 20 minutes)

The goal here is active recovery choose activities that contrast focused work. Avoid anything with dopamine stimulation that mimics your “vices” or release behaviors.so this break allows your mind to reset, preventing burnout and increasing productivity in the next session.

SECTION 4: EVENING STUDY SESSION (STUDY SESSION #2)

Timing: During the Second Energy Peak (~6:00–8:00 PM)

Return for your second battle. This session is similar in structure to the morning study session, but with a few differences:

◜⁠✧ Change Your Environment:

Consider studying in a different location e.g., library, a new room, or another productive setting. (Personally I move from my desk to the guest room cuz it's far from family chaotic activities ifykyk )

This provides novelty and reduces boredom, which helps counteract distractions that are more likely to arise in the evening.

◜⁠✧ Eliminate Distractions:

If possible, leave your phone behind take that shit in another room

Create a space where your brain associates the environment with productivity.

◜⁠✧ Study Format:

Continue using timed sprints.

Session length: 2 to 3 hours, depending on your focus reserves.

The goal is to extract one final productive effort from your remaining focus reserves for the day.

SECTION 5: NIGHTLY RELEASE PERIOD

Timing: 1–2 Hours Before Bed

This period is crucial and often overlooked. It functions as your psychological release valve a scheduled time for indulging in your “vices” or desires.

◜⁠✧ why it matter

Without a controlled release period, distractions tend to creep in throughout the day. When you tell yourself you’ll “resist” TikTok or YouTube for three straight weeks during exams, it almost always backfires. You end up scattering distractions across the day, killing momentum and u will feel like shit

◜⁠✧ so solution:

Contain those activities to this specific window. Give yourself full permission to indulge whether it's gaming, scrolling, or Netflix. The only rule: Only do it at night.

◜⁠✧ psychological benefit:

You’ll find it easier to say “no” to distractions earlier in the day when you know you can give in later. It reduces the mental burden of constant suppression.

Caution:

This is not a prescription to develop new addictions or deepen existing ones. If you don’t feel the need for this release, skip it . But if you’re honest with yourself about your impulses, this structure helps you keep them in check.

◜⁠✧ ADAPTATION AND FLEXIBILITY

✧ Everyone has a unique biology. Some wake up at 5:00 AM, others at noon.

✧ Adjust the energy curve and study blocks to match your personal circadian rhythm.

✧ This is a template, not a strict prescription. Principles stay constant, execution varies.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

🗝️ Two deep-focus sessions aligned with your body’s energy peaks yield greater results than dragging your mind across a 12-hour marathon.

🗝️ Midday rest and nightly release are components of a sustainable routine.

🗝️ Use tools like caffeine, timers, environment changes, and goal setting to maintain momentum and focus.

🗝️ Structure breeds freedom. When your day is mapped with intention, your brain is free to focus trust me with this one

✧ This daily routine is not about rigid hours or perfection. It’s about aligning your habits with your biology and respecting your mental bandwidth. When implemented consistently, this system transforms exam season from a stressful grind into an enjoyable and productive challenge.Now take what you've learned and design your daily routine with intention ✧

@bloomzone

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"a mouth without lipgloss is like a cake without frosting"

A Mini Guide For : How To level Up Your Confidence

1. Reframe Your Fails into Fuel - Instead of letting setbacks crush you view them as training moments. Everyone messes up but confident people use those experiences to learn and improve. Next time you face a challenge tell yourself "This is an opportunity to grow" and watch your confidence soar.

Celebrate Your Strengths - Don't wait for someone else to pat you on the back. Recognize and appreciate your own talents and accomplishments. Make a list of things you're good at big or small and revisit it whenever self doubt creeps in. Remind yourself - I am awesome at speaking and doing conversations and that's something to be proud of!

Fake It Til You Make It "in the Right Way" - This one gets a bad rap but here's the key don't pretend to be someone you're not. Instead act confident even if you don't feel it completely. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak clearly. This outward projection can trick your brain into feeling more confident and over time it can become genuine

Compete Against Yourself, Not Others - Ditch the comparisons! Social media and societal pressures can make us feel like we're constantly falling short. But true confidence comes from focusing on your own journey, not someone else's highlight reel.Track your progress and celebrate how far you've come and set goals that challenge you to be a better version of yourself.

Focus on "what you can control," not the rest: Can't control others' opinions? Let it go. Focus on your strengths and actions and how you want to show up in the world Be your own boss.

Be patient with yourself and know your self more so that you can know in what areas you need to develop more , Message me if you guys want that sheet to know about yourself more 🥰