A Mini Guide For : How To level Up Your Confidence
1. Reframe Your Fails into Fuel - Instead of letting setbacks crush you view them as training moments. Everyone messes up but confident people use those experiences to learn and improve. Next time you face a challenge tell yourself "This is an opportunity to grow" and watch your confidence soar.
Celebrate Your Strengths - Don't wait for someone else to pat you on the back. Recognize and appreciate your own talents and accomplishments. Make a list of things you're good at big or small and revisit it whenever self doubt creeps in. Remind yourself - I am awesome at speaking and doing conversations and that's something to be proud of!
Fake It Til You Make It "in the Right Way" - This one gets a bad rap but here's the key don't pretend to be someone you're not. Instead act confident even if you don't feel it completely. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak clearly. This outward projection can trick your brain into feeling more confident and over time it can become genuine
Compete Against Yourself, Not Others - Ditch the comparisons! Social media and societal pressures can make us feel like we're constantly falling short. But true confidence comes from focusing on your own journey, not someone else's highlight reel.Track your progress and celebrate how far you've come and set goals that challenge you to be a better version of yourself.
Focus on "what you can control," not the rest: Can't control others' opinions? Let it go. Focus on your strengths and actions and how you want to show up in the world Be your own boss.
Be patient with yourself and know your self more so that you can know in what areas you need to develop more , Message me if you guys want that sheet to know about yourself more 🥰
From now on, whenever I catch myself thinking about a man, I’ll replace these thoughts with positive thoughts about me !
I’ll get over this phase over centering my life around men. They’re not worth it.
I have my own imaginary world where everything is right as I like it. Imaginary doesn’t make it fake, it makes it fun.
I live there :))
Hot Summer Dayz: Jammin n’ Jamica!! ☀️🛍️
Dolly is typing…..💬🎀….(1) NEW FROM; Dolly!🛍️
HI DOLLIES!! Welcome 2 My Next Summer Post where i cover how to not only have the best summer vacay/staycation but also give some useful tips on beating the summer heat!!
> Planning + Shopping !! 🛍️
> Knowing ur Location !! 🏝️
> Fun Summer activities to maximize ur Staycation !! ⭐️
> How 2 Beat the Summer Heat!! 👙
When shopping 4 outfits 4 vacay/spring/sumemr we wanna make sure we not only make sure we’re comfortable in out clothes but also make sure they’re breathable and not too heavy or baggy!! bc obvis were gonna be in harsh sunny weather!! you pick up pieces that wre stylish nd serene!! here are some pieces i definitely recommend!!👙
Halter Tops
Cami Tops
Daisy Dukes
Flowy midi skirts
colorful platform shoes
strapless mini dress
miniskirts!!
jellyfish dresses
croptops
cute open toe shoes!!
stylish sunglasses!!
swimsuit tops
if its a stay in day or you don’t feel like dressing up an oversized white t-shirt but dress it up more!!
if you want to try to stray away from wearing darker/black color palettes bc they can absorb more heat
When Traveling 2 a New city,state,country you always want to be mindful of where you are,how this place operates and how to be like the locals!! + also knowing about weather!! my tips….
If ur traveling to a new country learn some of the basics of the language to communicate properly!!
Learn how they drive,speak,how they pay etc.
always keep money on you obvii!!
SUNSCREEN.SUNSCREEN.SUNSCREEN. ik this is already bible for some people but im gonna keep saying bc its soo important when traveling to places that are closer the equator & countries that are known to be hotter ALWAYS HAVE SUNSCREEN. and not just ur regular SPF 30 try using spf 50! like for me this summer i’ll be in place like san diego,florida & saint thomas and they have really harsh suns especially in summer im gonna need a way stronger SPF than my regular 30 to always be sure to have a stronger SPF everywhere!!
always be friendly with the locals its nice to always be friendly no matter what
educate urself on the country!!
while ur there try learning some new skills
For my Girls that are staying in their home state,country here are some super fun activities for you to try so you can also join in on the summer fun!!
Make a Bucketlist
Make cute Crafts
Go to the pool or beach with ur friends!!
cut up summer fruit and make a fruit salad
take up a new hobby!!
have a movie night + sleepover
go shopping
try a fun new workout
if u have a younger sibling play outside with them!
Watch ur favorite movies
water ballon fights!
CARNIVALS!!
painting at the beach
aquariums or planetarium
karaoke!
play a new video game!
Obvi its gonna b super hot during summer and sometimes unbearably hot out but its okay bc i have some super fun way 2 beat the heat!! 👙
Go 2 The Pool!
Cold Treats ie: ice scream,icee,slushies
drink ice cold water
eat some cold fruit watermelon,grapes,pineapple,honeydew
Stay hydrated!!
eat some cold meals!!
have a water gun fight!
Itz been fun!! Dolly Signing off….💗
studying feels like a dream 🍁☕️
Accepting my sleep schedule. I'm a night owl; I focus at night, I'm calm at night, I'm motivated at night. For a long time, I tried to fight this since everyone always preaches getting up early, but since I started accepting my natural sleep schedule, I've been feeling a lot better and have become way more productive.
"drink more water". TEA. Tea is the secret here. I will be honest, I hate drinking water; it doesn't matter if I have a cute water bottle or a cute glass, I still hate it. TEA.
Replying quickly. I used to be one of those people who get a text message and think, "Oh, I'll reply to that later", and then just forget about it entirely. Now, I text back as soon as I see the message. This has not only improved my texting anxiety (which I cause on my own by now replying and then feeling bad) but also deepened my connection to my friends. <3
Keeping my circle small and being okay with that. Over the past months, I've had this sudden urge to expand my social circle and get to know more and more people, especially after I moved in August. However, this quickly ended in what I like to call my "social burnout". I was tired, annoyed, and overwhelmed. It took a few weeks for it to settle, but I've come to the conclusion that I would much rather have a smaller circle of people who I trust and love deeply than a huge group of friends, and that's totally okay.
Wearing what I like. Even though I live in a big city, I'd still say that my style can sometimes be a bit more extravagant than what most people wear, another point is that I'm very uncomfortable with pants so I only wear skirts, which is also considered a bit odd where I live. But over the past years, I've come to accept that and have become so sure of myself and found such comfort in my style that I now just wear whatever I like, and it makes every day a little bit nicer.
Reading and writing for pleasure. Reading books outside of my studies and spending time researching topics that simply interest me is such a great way to calm your mind. Same for writing, I always like to say that to write is to think; putting your thoughts on paper in cohesive and well-crafted sentences that you can then reread and think over again is such a liberating thing to do.
Reaching out more. fuck the whole "double texting" and "no contact" thing. If you want to speak to someone because they mean something to you, then just do it. Unless they specifically asked for space, you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to be in touch with them. Many even really appreciate it when you show that you truly care. Let's stop the nonchalant act, and instead, let's face deep emotions and true vulnerability. <3
As always, please feel free to share your own little insights and things that helped you improve comments! <3
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