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How to Stop Comparing Yourself & Become Obsessed with Yourself

Okay, let’s get real. If you’re constantly comparing yourself to others, it’s time to break the habit and start focusing on what you want. The key to unlocking your most confident, successful self isn’t about envying others—it’s about using that energy to obsess over your own growth. Ready to start living your best life? Here’s how to ditch the comparison game and become your own biggest fan.

1. Jealousy = Desire. Turn it into your power move. First of all, jealousy isn’t the problem—it’s how you use it that counts. When you feel envious of someone, it’s actually a sign that they have something you want. Instead of spiraling, turn that jealousy into motivation. Want their style? Their career? Their glow-up? That’s your cue to start making it happen for yourself.

Action Steps:

Identify what’s sparking the jealousy. Is it their confidence, career, or lifestyle?

Take a mental note of exactly what you want from their vibe.

Now, turn that feeling into goals. Make a list of what you want and how you’re going to get there. Start working on those goals today, and you’ll be on the path to achieving your desires—without the comparison game.

2. Make self-love your obsession. Self-love isn’t just a trend—it’s the foundation of every confident, successful “it girl” vibe. Your routine should be all about you, honey. Create a daily self-love habit that fills you with positive energy and makes you feel like the queen you are.

Action Steps:

Morning Rituals: Begin your day by setting the tone. Whether it’s writing down affirmations, sipping on lemon water, or practicing some deep breaths—give yourself a good start.

Mental Health TLC: Meditate or journal for 10 minutes each day. Focus on gratitude and remind yourself of your worth.

Body Love: Treat your body like the temple it is. Get moving (dance party, anyone?), drink water, and invest in that skincare routine. A face mask or a bubble bath at the end of the day? Absolutely.

3. Turn Your Energy Into Your Personal Brand. You’re not just a person—you’re a brand. And, like every successful brand, your vibe needs to be on point. Start channeling that energy into building a personal identity that screams confidence, ambition, and success. When you start focusing on what makes you unique, comparison will feel like a thing of the past.

Action Steps:

Define Your Brand: Write down what you want to be known for. What makes you stand out? Is it your chic style? Your brilliant ideas? Your hustle?

Create Consistent Content: Whether it’s posting on social or just being yourself IRL, curate your energy and your image. Share your passions, your story, and your journey.

Presence is Everything: Dress in a way that makes you feel like a million bucks. Stand tall, speak with conviction, and show the world that you own your space.

4. Quiet Confidence is the New Loud. The loudest person in the room doesn’t always win—quiet confidence is what draws people in. Be secure in who you are, and let your presence speak for itself. The best “it girls” don’t need to shout—they simply are.

Action Steps:

Set Boundaries: Protect your energy. Say no to things and people that don’t serve you.

Lead by Example: Be the girl who stays true to her goals without seeking validation. The more you trust yourself, the more others will follow your lead.

Master Your Craft: Whether it’s learning a new skill or becoming the best at what you do, focus on growth without the need for applause. When you shine quietly, it’s magnetic.

Being obsessed with yourself isn’t vanity—it’s self-respect. Prioritize your growth, and watch how the universe responds to that magnetic energy. You’re not just an “it girl”—you’re the girl.

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✧ Smoothies That Taste Like Vacation & Heal Your Hormones

Here are 5 pleasure-first, hormone-healing, hot girl rituals disguised as tropical treats. Think: sipping something that tastes like a mango mojito while actually balancing your blood sugar and boosting your glow from the inside out.

Whether you’re syncing your cycle, easing bloat, or just want to feel that girl energy before a date, these 5 smoothies are your new go-to.

✧ 1. Coconut Rose Glow

for glowing skin, reduced PMS, and main character softness

Tastes like: Coconut gelato kissed by a rose garden Best time to sip: Afternoon slump or post-workout chill

Ingredients:

1 cup coconut milk

½ frozen banana

1 tbsp flax seeds (estrogen balancing baddie)

1 scoop collagen peptides

1 tsp rose water

Dash of vanilla extract

Handful of frozen raspberries

Ice to thicken

Flax = hormone harmony. Rose = nervous system chill. Collagen = dewy energy.

✧ 2. Mango Maca Mojito

for libido, energy, and turning heads

Tastes like: A flirty mango mojito with zero regrets Best time to sip: Pre-date or pre-revenge glow-up

Ingredients:

1 cup unsweetened almond milk

1 cup frozen mango

½ frozen banana

1 tsp maca powder (a literal hormone-adaptogen legend)

Juice of ½ lime

A few mint leaves

Honey or a Medjool date to sweeten

Ice

Maca helps balance cortisol, boost libido, and stabilize mood. Plus mango makes you feel like a goddess on a yacht.

✧ 3. Tropical Moon Milk

for calming cortisol + better sleep = better hormones

Tastes like: Warm vacation air and dreams under palm trees Best time to sip: After dinner or during your wind-down glow-up

Ingredients:

1 cup warm almond milk (or oat milk if you’re fancy)

1 scoop vanilla protein

½ frozen pineapple

½ tsp ashwagandha (stress relief superstar)

Dash of cinnamon

A drizzle of honey

Optional: 1 tsp coconut oil for healthy fat & extra creamy vibes

Ashwagandha regulates stress hormones, and stress is public enemy #1 for hormonal imbalance.

✧ 4. Papaya Peach Goddess

for digestion, clear skin, and “that girl” gut health

Tastes like: Breakfast at a luxury wellness retreat in Bali Best time to sip: Morning or post-salty meal detox moment

Ingredients:

1 cup coconut water

1 cup chopped papaya

½ cup frozen peach

Juice of ½ lemon

1 tbsp chia seeds

Fresh ginger (just a lil' knob, babe)

Optional: probiotic powder or aloe vera juice

Papaya is rich in enzymes that help digestion, which helps hormones clear properly. Gut love = glow love.

✧ 5. Cacao Tahini Sunset

for cycle syncing, PMS cravings, and divine feminine energy

Tastes like: A dark chocolate-dipped date in Morocco Best time to sip: During luteal phase (aka when your body wants chocolate and cuddles)

Ingredients:

1 cup almond milk

1 frozen banana

1 tbsp raw cacao powder (magnesium = hormone gold)

1 tbsp tahini (healthy fat, fiber, hormone magic)

1 Medjool date

Pinch of sea salt

Optional: dash of cinnamon or cardamom

Cacao = magnesium for mood + cramps. Tahini = sesame seed phytoestrogens + glow fats. It’s sexy science.

Weekly Reset Schedule

GET IT TOGETHER

Declutter your room

Plan your week

Make a healthy meal plan

Review your finances,create a budget

SELF CARE

Everything shower

Move your body

Do meditation/yoga/pilates

At home spa day

Digital detox day

WIND DOWN

Comfy pajamas

Read a favorite book

Watch a tv show/movie

Enjoy a calming drink (tea/hot chocolate)

Self reflection/journal/diary writing

~summer bucket list~

🌷 Hi my lovess, here is my digital 2024 summer bucket list. These are all things that I want to try out this summer to make the most of it! I will continuously add more if I think of more ideas. <3

🦢Drive with loud music and windows down

🦢Go to the fair

🦢Ride a ferris wheel

🦢Try pottery

🦢Go to a water park

🦢Go on a early morning hike to go see the sunrise

🦢Go to the beach

🦢Beach camping

🦢Go fishing and cook what you catch

🦢Eat at fresh restaurants

🦢Walk around the city and shop/window shop

🦢Watch the sunset

🦢Watch firework shows

🦢Go ziplining

🦢Go to a creek

🦢Plant flowers/fruits/vegetables

🦢Have a picnic with family

🦢Self dates

🦢Daily runs

🦢Follow a Bob Ross routine

🦢Make bracelets

🦢Go to a concert/music event

🦢Try new recipes

🦢Go to six flags

🦢Rent a bike to ride around

🦢Polaroid/digital camera photo shoots

🦢Manicures/Pedicures

🦢Try out new makeup styles

🦢Try out new hair styles

🦢Game nights with family

🦢Make lots of bingsu

🦢Staying at the mall until it closes

🦢Going to the zoo

🦢Karaoke nights

🦢Back to school shopping

🦢Make a time capsule

🦢Write letters to my future self

🦢Take summer classes

🦢Take pilate/yoga classes

🦢Try out tennis or other sports

🦢Get a new piercing

🦢Take a color analysis

“One Day” or “Day One”.

It’s your choice.

Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges.