honey instead of romanticising neat little plans that live only in your head, you gotta fall in love with the mess, the challenge, the chaos of a life truly lived. it is so so beautiful but you’re so afraid of anything real and raw; you think it’s ugly and frightening. but it’s not, it’s not!
the worst thing you can do is get stuck in wanting. it’s safe and easy to stay with the longing and desire, the yearning and wishing. it’s a seductive state of mind that can feel deceptively productive. but are you taking real, purposeful, intentional action? daily? because you can keep making all the vision boards, “planning” in your head, and watching others get what you want on social media… but none of that matters unless you act. imperfectly and often, with real physical movement in the real physical world. action is an energy that will draw what you want toward you, but you have to move.
I used to do this so much when I was little , documenting my friends and me now I’m older I guess I’ve forgotten to enjoy life.
I want do it again
please document your life; take pictures and videos, keep a journal & record voice memos…the most insignificant moments will become some of your favourite memories one day
Unfortunately, the possibility of what if plays on in my mind, it’s a broken record I don’t know how to fix
— Donte Collins
so often, i notice people living online - consistently doomscrolling or playing meaningless games. i think that they forget how life is the journey. you need to make sure you don't miss it.
know yourself understanding who you are at your core is crucial. reflect on your values, passions, and strengths. this can help lead to a more fulfilling life.
set goals define what you want to achieve in life. having clear, actionable goals gives you direction and purpose. if you don't know what you want - then you have to get out and try things! experience! understand what you want and don't want for yourself.
stay healthy take care of your physical and mental health. regular exercise, a balanced diet, and mindfulness practices can significantly improve your well-being.
be present focus on the present moment. enjoy the small things. being exposed to social media and electronic devices from a young age has lead gen z to information overload and stress.
studies show that we experience higher levels of anxiety and depression compared to previous generations. try mindfulness to promote relaxation and emotional regulation. learn how to return yourself to the present moment - to be able to get offline, and out of your own head.
build relationships surround yourself with positive, supportive people. strong relationships can provide emotional support and enrich your life.
keep learning this is something that i will forever preach! never stop learning and growing. whether it's through formal education, reading, or new experiences, continuous learning keeps life interesting.
❤️nene
*ੈ✩‧₊˚ emotional intelligence
emotional intelligence (often abbreviated as ei or eq) is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, as well as recognize and influence the emotions of others.
*ੈ✩‧₊˚ time management
time management is the process of planning and controlling how much time you spend on specific activities to increase efficiency and productivity.
*ੈ✩‧₊˚ new skills
learning new skills is a great way to keep your mind sharp and open up new opportunities. some skills you might consider include coding, data analysis, digital literacy, foreign languages, project management, public speaking, or creative skills.
*ੈ✩‧₊˚ mindfulness
mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and engaged in the current moment, without judgment or distraction. it involves paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, and sensations in a non-reactive way.
*ੈ✩‧₊˚ self-care
self-care is the practice of taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being to promote overall health and happiness. it includes physical activities like regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep, as well as staying hydrated and maintaining good hygiene.
overall, it is about making time for yourself and prioritizing your needs to maintain balance and prevent burnout.
*ੈ✩‧₊˚ entrepreneurial thinking
entrepreneurial thinking is a mindset that involves seeing opportunities where others see challenges, being innovative, and taking calculated risks to achieve goals. it’s not just for business owners; anyone can benefit from this way of thinking.
Instead of shaming yourself, identify the deeper need and allow it to exist
Then get curious about a new way to meet it.
Same, Mr Wilde... same
Love everyone so they know that everyone deserves love
Jefferson Bethke
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All studyblrs out there, I just wanted to say:
CROSS IT OUT AND TRY AGAIN. THAT'S LEARNING.
Your notes CAN be beautiful, perfect, without mistakes. In fact you should be proud of them. But at the same time, crossings out do not make notes any less valuable.
"But ohh they make it look ugly" "ohh but crossing out means I got it wrong"
NO!
The crossed out section is a testament to your learning and I think you should take pride in that as well. Nobody is perfect.
I want to see your imperfect notes with little scribbles and jottings.
Capture the essence of the feverish scholar frantically noting down their ideas as they rush towards a new horizon- their breakthrough. Their ultimate discovery. The thing they've been working on for their entire life.
Capture that essence of "I must, because it has to be done."
But again, at the same time, make them pretty! Put effort into their making! It's no different to a piece of art.
Your notes can be however you want them to be. They are for you and nobody else. If you take pride in them, their purpose is fulfilled.
Thank you for listening to my TED talk.
Thoughts-> emotion -> behaviour -> action -> habits -> results
It all starts with your thoughts.
Your brain has the ability to visualize both the past and future. This means we’re not only able to relive difficult scenarios from our past but also imagine worst case outcomes that haven’t even happened yet.
Your mind doesn’t distinguish between what’s imagined and what’s real. When you repeatedly think about stressful situations or dwell on negativity, your body reacts as if those scenarios are actually happening. You have the power to turn on the stress response with your thoughts alone.
Unfortunately, our brains are wired to focus on the negative, imagining worst case scenarios, worrying, and even sabotaging ourselves.
When you’re constantly visualizing stress or living with a negative mindset, your body struggles to escape fight or flight mode. Instead of relaxing, your brain keeps releasing stress hormones to protect you from perceived danger even when no real danger exists.
However, a stressed mind and a grateful mind can’t exist at the same time.
If your thoughts can make you sick, they can also heal you. By shifting your focus to positive thoughts you can help your body relax, reduce stress, and promote healing. It starts with bringing awareness to your thoughts and consciously choosing to focus on what uplifts you.
– Yoon Cho Won
girlies, you found the law for a REASON. you found out how the universe works and how to get everything that u could ever dream about. everything that u want is MEANT to be yours! take you finding out about the law as a clear message that YOU ARE MEANT TO HAVE EVERYTHING THAT U WANT.
there are 8 billion people in the world and not everyone knows about the law, UR SO LUCKY to have found out about the law AND this side of tumblr. you literally have no excuse, go make ur dream life.
'i should draw' 'i should paint' 'i should write fic' 'i should read' 'i should embroider' 'i shou-
*stares at a wall for 8 hours*
“ There are a few things in life so beautiful they hurt: swimming in the ocean while it rains, reading alone in empty libraries, the sea of stars that appear when you're miles away from the neon lights of the city, bars after 2am, walking in the wilderness, all the phases of the moon, the things we do not know about the universe, and you. ”
Beau Taplin, And You
“ Nothing lasts, you see, not even the thoughts inside you. And you mustn't waste your time looking for them. Once a thing is gone, that is the end of it. ”
Paul Auster, The Invention of Solitude
everyone deserves to hear the words i never did, a karma of sorts
-Rumi
-Rumi
I am free and that is why I am lost - Franz Kafka
“I can say with great certainty and absolute honesty that I did not know what love was until I knew what love was not.”
— Unknown
A Burst of Light, Audre Lorde
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“i miss the old internet” “we’ll never have websites like the ones from the 90s and early 2000s ever again” “i’m tired of social media but there’s nowhere to go”
personal websites and indie web development still very much exist! it may be out of the way to access and may not be the default internet experience anymore, but if you want to look and read through someone’s personally crafted site, or even make your own, you can still do it! here’s how:
use NEOCITIES! neocities has a built in search and browse tools to let you discover websites, and most importantly, lets you build your own website from scratch for free! (there are other ways to host websites for free, but neocities is a really good hub for beginners!)
need help getting started with coding your website? sadgrl online has a section on her website dedicated to providing resources for newbie webmasters!
HTML (HyperText Markup Language) and CSS (Cascading Style Sheets) are the core of what all websites are built on. many websites also use JS (JavaScript) to add interactive elements to their pages. w3schools is a useful directory of quick reference for pretty much every HTML/CSS/JS topic you can think of.
there is also this well written and lengthy guide on dragonfly cave that will put you step by step through the basics of HTML/CSS (what webpages are made from), if that’s your sort of thing!
stack overflow is every programmer’s hub for asking questions and getting help, so if you’re struggling with getting something to look how you want or can’t fix a bug, you may be able to get your answer here! you can even ask if no one’s asked the same question before.
websites like codepen and jsfiddle let you test HTML/CSS/JS in your browser as you tinker with small edits and bugfixing.
want to find indie websites outside the scope of neocities? use the search engine marginalia to find results you actually want that google won’t show you!
you can also use directory sites like yesterweb’s link section to find websites in all sorts of places.
if you are going to browse the indie web or make your own website, i also have some more personal tips as a webmaster myself (i am not an expert and i am just a small hobbyist, so take me with a grain of salt!)
if you are making your own site:
get expressive! truly make whatever you want! customize your corner of the internet to your heart’s content! you have left the constrains of social media where every page looks the same. you have no character limit, image limit, or design limit. want to make an entire page or even a whole website dedicated to your one niche interest that no one seems to be into but you? go for it! want to keep a public journal where you can express your thoughts without worry? do it! want to keep an art gallery that looks exactly how you want? heck yeah! you are free now! you will enjoy the indie web so much more if you actually use it for the things you can’t do on websites like twitter, instead of just using it as a carrd bio alternative or a place to dump nostalgic geocities gifs.
don’t overwhelm yourself! if you’ve never worked with HTML/CSS or JS before, it may look really intimidating. start slow, use some guides, and don’t bite off more than you can chew. even if your site doesn’t look how you want quite yet, be proud of your work! you’re learning a skill that most people don’t have or care to have, and that’s pretty cool.
keep a personal copy of your website downloaded to your computer and don’t just edit it on neocities (or your host of choice) and call it a day. if for some reason your host were to ever go down, you would lose all your hard work! and besides, by editing locally and offline, you can use editors like vscode (very robust) or notepad++ (on the simpler side), which have more features and is more intuitive than editing a site in-browser.
you can use ctrl+shift+i on most browsers to inspect the HTML/CSS and other components of the website you’re currently viewing. it’ll even notify you of errors! this is useful for bugfixing your own site if you have a problem, as well as looking at the code of sites you like and learning from it. don’t use this to steal other people’s code! it would be like art theft to just copy/paste an entire website layout. learn, don’t steal.
don’t hotlink images from other sites, unless the resource you’re taking from says it’s okay! it’s common courtesy to download images and host them on your own site instead of linking to someone else’s site to display them. by hotlinking, every time someone views your site, you’re taking up someone else’s bandwidth.
if you want to make your website easily editable in the future (or even for it to have multiple themes), you will find it useful to not use inline CSS (putting CSS in your HTML document, which holds your website’s content) and instead put it in a separate CSS file. this way, you can also use the same theme for multiple pages on your site by simply linking the CSS file to it. if this sounds overwhelming or foreign to you, don’t sweat it, but if you are interested in the difference between inline CSS and using separate stylesheets, w3schools has a useful, quick guide on the subject.
visit other people’s sites sometimes! you may gain new ideas or find links to more cool websites or resources just by browsing.
if you are browsing sites:
if the page you’re viewing has a guestbook or cbox and you enjoyed looking at the site, leave a comment! there is nothing better as a webmaster than for someone to take the time to even just say “love your site” in their guestbook.
that being said, if there’s something on a website you don’t like, simply move on to something else and don’t leave hate comments. this should be self explanatory, but it is really not the norm to start discourse in indie web spaces, and you will likely not even be responded to. it’s not worth it when you could be spending your time on stuff you love somewhere else.
take your time! indie web doesn’t prioritize fast content consumption the way social media does. you’ll get a lot more out of indie websites if you really read what’s in front of you, or take a little while to notice the details in someone’s art gallery instead of just moving on to the next thing. the person who put labor into presenting this information to you would also love to know that someone is truly looking and listening.
explore! by clicking links on a website, it’s easy to go down rabbitholes of more and more websites that you can get lost in for hours.
seeking out fansites or pages for the stuff you love is great and fulfilling, but reading someone’s site about a topic you’ve never even heard of before can be fun, too. i encourage you to branch out and really look for all the indie web has to offer.
i hope this post helps you get started with using and browsing the indie web! feel free to shoot me an ask if you have any questions or want any advice. <3
e.e. cummings, from “in time of daffodils(who know” (in 95 Poems), Complete Poems: 1904-1962
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