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Me 🤝 Turning in 3 assignments late my first week back at school.
I may be shy but dont get it twisted im thinking of getting railed against a counter like 72% of the day
Is hypergamy inherently transactional, and if so, does it risk commodifying relationship?
It doesn't surprise me at all that somebody would view hypergamy to be something that is inherently transactional the way it's showcased on social media. When you scroll through the hypergamy tag on TikTok, all you're going to see is tons of videos by beautiful woman who seem to to live the life - taken on expensive trips and shopping sprees, spoiled like a princess by their so called boyfriends, and living an enviably luxurious lifestyle. Nine times out of ten, she’s either a SW, staging it for views and attention, or trying to sell you something—a course, a consultation, a book, or some other product.
The version of “hypergamy” often showcased on TikTok is inherently transactional. Many of the women presenting themselves as “spoiled girlfriends” are, in reality, engaging in SW. This dynamic involves exchanging physical favors for money, which is fundamentally different from hypergamy. Despite the narratives pushed by some SWs, the two concepts are not interchangeable.The lines often blur in online spaces, which I find quite weird but it’s particularly concerning for young girls who come across videos of women being showered with gifts, roses, and luxurious lifestyles without realizing that, more often than not, these women are offering certain favors in return and this lack of transparency can be dangerously misleading.
Hypergamy is not a new concept or a trend that has arisen in recent years. It has existed since the dawn of humanity and will continue to do so because most women will always be attracted to men who can provide them with a good life, much in the same way that men are attracted to beautiful woman, it’s just a fundamental aspect of human nature and rooted in biology and social conditioning. Does that mean a man will settle down with a woman just because she's beautiful or that a woman will settle down with any rich man? In most cases, that’s not the case—unless they lack discernment or are extremely desperate. Attraction and relationships are far more complex than just beauty or wealth.
You can’t build a healthy, lasting relationship on something as superficial as good looks or wealth alone. Yes, physical attraction and financial stability are very important factors but there are many other key factors at play and no man in his right mind is going to marry a woman just for her looks or in exchange for physical favors. A woman who has married well will keep her mouth shut about it and care about her privacy and reputation, you're not gonna catch her filming videos of a day in her life as a spoiled girlfriend or trophy wife, she's not going to give you tips on how to bag a man and what manipulation strategies to use because those tips don't work in the long haul unless you want to attract narcissists or unstable man.
A woman who attracted a quality man did it by becoming one herself. The most reliable way for a woman to marry well is by focusing on becoming the best version of herself—not for the purpose of attracting a wealthy partner, but for her own growth and self-worth. Women who have genuinely succeeded in hypergamy don’t make online videos or share intimate details of their lives. They know the power of privacy, dignity, and self-respect.
Women who marry well do so not just because of their looks, but because they have dedicated themselves to personal growth in every aspect of their lives. They invest in their education, build meaningful careers, and refine their skills, improve in every aspect of their life while also cultivating a strong, supportive social circle. I don’t believe in opposites attract; you attract who you are. The quality of the partner you draw into your life reflects the person you’ve worked to become.
Winter arc..
2025 is almost here so these next 2 months are important to me. I am even more motivated than ever since a certain someone is in office. I broke my goals up into different sections and I want to reflect on them this week.
Health & Fitness: This has been my strongest area so far. I have a good workout split that I have been following and it has been showing amazing results. As for diet, I have been pretty discipline in that area as well. On Monday - Thursday I do not eat refined carbs, fried foods, and no sugar. On Fridays I allow myself to a small snack that I may have been craving throughout the week or just wanted, but I still eat healthy. Saturdays and Sundays are my cheat days. I try a lot of new restaurants on the Weekends and this college town is very small and limited with healthy options so I do not even bother. I have such a big passion for medicine and when I go to the hospital and see how much weight is affecting the patients it honestly scares me. I also binge watch "My 600 lb Life" so I have been pretty turn off from unhealthy food,
Academic: This is where I struggled. I realized I am never strong in both areas. If I doing well with my health and fitness, I slack in the academic department and vice versa. For some reason I could not get off my phone so the procrastination was high. Also I was not studying the way I usually do and it showed on my tests. This week I am definitely going to lockdown for real.
Personal: I do not talk politics on this blog because I want to keep it light and fun, but honestly with him being in office it showed me how selfish I need to be because everyone else is. The self preservation is going to be at an all time HIGH.
Anyways thats all.
practice, practice and practice. Practice your ideal self privately so that publicly you don’t fumble or feel awkward. Practice the way your ideal self walks, talks, lives, eats, everything even when you’re alone. Over time, your body will get so used to it that it will come to you naturally.
Shyness...
One of my goals this Winter is to become less shy and more comfortable speaking up for myself. I talked about this before but I wanted to dive deeper into myself and understand where this shyness comes from.
I am naturally more introverted. I am aware that being introverted does not equal shyness, but I do enjoy being alone and hanging around people drains me.
Guys make me shy. I don't know why but they do. I am not shy around girls the way I am around guys. I think it's because I think they are super judgmental even though thats just an assumption.
Group settings triggers my shyness as well. I can have a 1 on 1 conversation with a stranger and do fine but put that stranger and I in a group setting, now I don't know how to act.
My shyness has definitely improved but I have a long way to go. And if you're wondering why this is important to me, it is because I see myself living a very fun and amazing life, and being shy and not knowing how to have a simple conversation with people is going to close more doors than open, so its important to me to overcome this.
Thats all,
A lil life update:
Academic: Not gonna lie my grades slipped a little bit at the beginning. I was trying to adjust to this new routine, and being away for the first time, it was a lot. However I am getting back to my old study habits, and still plan on making the Deans lists. I just had a few setbacks thats all :) That being said, I have been cold called twice now, and every single time I get called on, I embarrass myself because I do not know the answer. I know the answer every other time but my nerves get the best of me. But on the bright side, it builds character and I only have several more weeks of this. This school year honestly is going by pretty fast.
Relationships: Making friends has never been so damn hard. I am very introverted and a little bit socially awkward so making friends this new year was definitely.....Don't get me wrong, I made some, but it took some time. One of my goals next semester and next school year is to put myself out more. I already have a little group I see every week so thats been fun. One of the people I met is a guy. I met him really early on actually, like the second or third day of school. However he gives me the CREEPS. He is so touchy and he honestly cringes me out. He talks about wanting to cuddle and stuff, and it makes me physically gag. Like have you ever gotten a gut feeling that someone is full of shit and you shouldn't trust them. Thats exactly what he gives me. The other day I was sitting with my friends, and unfortunately for me everyone here knows the same people. Anyways he was there and when his male friends kept coming he kept wanting to get more physical with me and around me. Wanted to hug 3-4 times, stood right next to me, hell he even whispered in my ear. Like it felt very much territorial. I would never and I mean NEVER date him. I feel like if I did I'll end up on a T-shirt saying R.I.P. Enough about him, there is this boy that I do like. We are in the same class, but the class is so huge I cant always see him. What's funny is that I accidentally spotted him one time a few weeks ago. For most of this year, I was sitting all the way at the back so I could be on my phone, however one day I came in late and we happened to be watching a film (and someone took my unassigned assigned seat), so I decided to sit at the front. I ended up sitting in front of this group of boys but I didn't look at them at anything because honestly I didn't care. But while the film was going they were making side remarks about it, and I just wanted to match the voices I was hearing with a face. And that I did. To be quite honest with y'all the whole friend group is attractive. I haven't had a crush in a long time, and having crushes just make school a little more fun.
Anyways, thats my little update for now.
constantly thinking about how badly i need to be railed by a loving, sweet guy. (i’ve never never even been kissed.)
