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ROLEPLAYING A SLUTWIFE

One of the best ways to warm up a woman into the concept of becoming a slutwife is roleplaying. Roleplaying can be a big turn on for both men and women and can be done pretty safely. It opens up the mind to possibilities and new concepts. As mentioned before, roleplaying can be used as a lead-up to asking her to become a slutwife.

Today we will talk about roleplaying, but this is not your normal roleplaying. this is roleplaying with a slight twist to it, you will roleplay being someone else while she remains the same person, your wife. The only role she will play is that she is herself as a slutwife. I say again, in the scenarios below, she is only roleplaying the role of herself as a slutwife, and not that she is someone else. That is, she remains your wife in each scenario, while you roleplay being someone else. These scenarios work best after you have told your wife you want her to be a slutwife, but they can work as a warm-up to asking her as well.

1. You Are Her Crush - As mentioned before, you should ask her and know who is her crush. This could be someone from her past or a celebrity. It doesn’t matter. You will roleplay that you are that person she has always had a crush on and create a scenario where your wife bumps into him in private. They will agree to meet at a hotel room alone. Her role will be to let loose for her crush and have the sex of her life with him. Constantly ask her to scream his name as you fuck or eat her out, and do not break out of character. While in character, tell her her husband is a lucky guy to have such a sexy slut for a wife. Once you are both done, have her leave the room and head home. You will wait for her at home and ask her how things went with her crush. Feel free to pleasure her again and tell her how much you enjoyed the experience.

2. She is an Escort - For this scenario, you have become completely dependent on her due to unforeseen circumstances, the entire family is in trouble, the economy collapsed, and she needs to go into prostitution or escorting to make things work. For her role as an escort, get a room and call her to hire her services. Ask her to dress extra slutty and go meet you at the room. Important, she must get there on her own, like an escort would, don’t give her a ride. You can watch her get dressed for her client, but you must be in the hotel room before her waiting for her. Once she gets there, remember that you are just a client. Ask for her name, ask her to model for you, and tell her what to do every step of the way. Ask her if she us married, has kids, etc., and if her husband knows she is an escort. Of course, give her a really good fucking. Have her do something she does not normally do for you as a husband, suck you, anal, etc., and have her scream your name as you fuck her (different name than your real name). Finish by telling her that you will be in town once or twice a month and that you will be hiring her services to perform that act she does not normally do for you as a husband. Have her set a date on her calender for her next appointment. She will drive herself home as an escort finishing her job, and you wait at home asking how things went.

3. She is a Prostitute - Similar to the escort, have her dress slutty again, only this time have her drive to some random street and stand in a corner. Let her embrace standing dressed sexy in a corner a few minutes before driving up and asking her for her name and prices. Ask her to model for you and what she does for different prices. Pick her up and drive her to a cheap motel. Have her get off and rent a room by herself looking like a prostitute. Proceed to giving her a good fucking as a client would fuck a street hooker. Ensure you have her do something she normally won’t do for you and have her scream your made up name as you fuck her. Once you are both completely satisfied, tell her she has been a good hoe for you and you will start picking her up in that corner a few times a month. Have her check out of the room as a slut and drop her off in her corner. Leave her there a few minutes as she waits for her next client. Scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you about her workday.

4. The Bar Hookup - For this scenario, she will dress sexy to go out to the bar/club in another city. She will hang out at the bar and hangout for a while while you watch from a distance. You will eventually approach and buy her a drink. Ask her name, where she is from, etc, while you give her your fake identity. You start flirting and feeling her up a bit, touch her, and make out with her. Take her to the backseat of your car and have her give you a blow job and eat her out. If feasible, fuck her in the backseat. If not, get a room. Scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her night out.

5. The Student and Teacher - For this scenario, ask your wife if she ever had a crush on one of her teachers or who was her hottest one. Once she tells you about it, you will roleplay that she will be taking a few college courses. Of course, you are her teacher which happens to be her old teacher. Since she is failing, she must take extreme measures to ensure she passes. So the day of the scenario she will dress extra sexy for her class. She will approach you as her teacher and confess how hot she has always thought you were. Then she will ask if you (her teacher) have ever found her attractive which will be a yes. She will then proceed to getting on her knees and giving you a blow job while asking for your help with passing the class. You will receive the blowjob and tell her to meet you in a hotel room for personal tutoring. She will meet you in the hotel room dressed very sexy and have sex with you while screaming your name (teacher’s name). Once you are both satisfied, you will tell her she will continue to pass as long as she attends her scheduled tutoring sessions. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her school day.

6. Boss and Secretary - For this scenario, you will ask for the name of her current boss. If she is unemplyed, she can use the name of any boss she had in the past and liked, or the name of your own boss. Again, dire circumstances have come to the family and she needs a job or promotion. She will wear her work attire but make is sexier and wear lingerie underneath. She will go and ask you (her boss) for what she needs and proceed to undress for him as she tells him how she is willing to do anything. You (the boss) will start feeling her up and get a blowjob from her. You will then ask her to meet you at a hotel to continue the conversation. She will meet you there and let you have you way with her as she screams the name of her boss. Once you get what you want, tell her she got the job/promotion but that she will need to be available to extra duties and overtime at work and the hotel room. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you how her work day went and what her new duties will be.

7. The Doctor and Patient - You are her doctor and she is your patient. She comes to your office because she seems to not be able to get pregnant and needs your help. She tells you of her family plans with her husband of having a baby but that she can’t seem to get pregnant. You (the doctor) will then proceed to asking her to undress and inspecting her body liberally. Touch her thighs, butt, boobs, everything. Have her sit and check her mouth, looking inside and putting your fingers inside of it to get a feel of her throat and gag reflex. Then you will move down to her breasts, asking her to remove her blouse and bra. Ask her to lift her breasts with her hands, to squeeze them, to pull them apart, pull them together, the proceed to groping them as you please. You will ask her questions about her breasts, as you grope them, like her current bra size, age she developed them, if she has ever lactated, etc then proceed to suck on each to check for any lactation. She will then remove her pants and panties and lay back and open her legs wide. You will then inspect her pussy, touching her clitoris, labia, and pushing fingers inside of her. Ask her questions about her sexual life as you probe her, how often she has sex, largest dick she has ever taken in her pussy, which areas she enjoys having touched more, how many fingers she can fit inside, etc. Eat her pussy and taste it to see if everything seems fine. After you are done, tell her she seems perfectly fit to be bred and it is likely her husband just hasnt been able to breed her. Tell her that you will start her on a breeding treatment immediately and she should see results soon if she commits to it. Once she accepts the treatment, proceed to fucking her. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her doctor’s visit.

8. The Admirer - Most women have at least one man that likes them or wants to fuck them wether they are married or not. Odds are, she knows it too. This guy could be a friend, ex, coworker, neighbor, etc. you know guys out there want her and would fuck her. The mission here is knowing who seems the most obvious, that you and her recognize. Have her talk about if any guys have hit on her lately or someone who seems flirty or is always checking her out. Once you have identified who wants her, the scenario is simple. You will be out of town and your wife will then ask that admirer (you) to come keep her company. She will obviously dress in casual yet slutty clothes to wear for his stay. He is allowed to be as forward with her as he wants, and she is to remain flirty at all times. He may feel her up randomly around the house and she will let him, but no sex yet. They can go out, to the movies, dancing, to the mall, etc., but she will dress sexy for him and only acknowledge you (by his name). He is allowed to touch her freely at all times and she must remain flirty. At the end of the day, she will go to the guest bedroom wearing her sexiest lingerie and invite him to come over and sleep with her in her bed since her husband is gone. She will start by giving him a blowjob then letting him fuck her as much as he wants and thanking him for spending the night with her when her husband isn’t home. The next morning, she will have sex with him again and thank him again. The scenario does not end until you leave the house and come back later as her husband. She will tell you all about her day and night with her admirer.

These are a few roleplay scenarios to play with your wife that work well to her warming up to becoming a slutwife. As mentioned before, it is important that she remains herself during the scenarios while you roleplay being a completely different person. We finish each scenario with her coming hime to telling you about her experience to double up on the idea of her having had sex with another man, ensure she feels in role and sexualized all throughout the experience of being with another man, and to ensure her that her sleeping with other men is something you both and enjoy as a sexual adventure without drama.

These scenarios are designed to give her a feel a being sexual with other men under different circumstances as well as using her sexuality to get what she wants. They should start to ease her into the possibilities and open her up to acting out more fantasies (and realities) involving her and other men. In essence, she is practicing her life as a slutwife.

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Maybe this one won’t be flagged…

Cheating Done Right

From Reddit of course

I slept with a much younger guy from my gym while my husband wasn’t home

I’m F44 and I have recently decided to start going to the gym. I’m not out of shape or anything but as my name says, I’m a stay at home mom of two kids and have to find ways to fill my day so I’ve been going to the gym three times a week in the morning. I’ve been going for a few months now and ever since I got there I’ve gotten a few guys flirt but the one that caught my eye was the one who didn’t even bother. I’ll call him B.

B is a younger guy, 18, and he’s a big guy. Not in the overweight way (he’s got some fat but I kind of like that) but he’s got some good muscle and he towers over my 5’6 body. I’d assume he’s 6’2. He doesn’t brush me off completely. We exchange some quick conversation every now and then and I have caught him glancing at me a couple times, especially when I’m doing squats. Lol.

So we go about our usual routines, me doing mostly cardio, him doing strength training and I decide, “Eh, why not?” and decide to do my squats right in front of him. And obviously I’m wearing some tight leggings and my ass ain’t too bad (It landed me a rich man. Lol!) so when I turn around I see him clearly trying his best to keep his eyes up at the ceiling while I see a subtle yet noticeable bulge to grow.

I wait for him to finish his set and ask him. “So, you just about done?” He looked at me and said something along the lines of, “Yeah, that was it for me. I’m beat.” And chuckled. I, somewhat bluntly, told him that if he wanted we could keep “working out” at my house. He raised an eyebrow and said something like, “I highly doubt your husband would appreciate you ‘working out’ with a guy from the gym.” And he gestured to my wedding ring. I looked at the clock in the gym, it’s 11:30. I bent over and whispered, “My husband doesn’t get home till 3:30 and my sons don’t finish their sports until 6:30.” And flicked the tip of his hard cock. He pondered for a second, sat up and said. “Get in your car and I’ll follow you.”

We get in our cars and he follows me to my house. When we get there we walk inside and I tell him to go up to my bedroom while I “Freshen Up”. I go to our downstairs bathroom, shower, and put on some of my nice lingerie from the laundry room. I walk up to my room and he’s sitting on my bed, shirt off. The smirk that grew across his face when he saw me in my lingerie made me so wet. Such a young man getting turned on by me really flipped a switch and I straddled him and pressed our together. We passionately made out for about 2 minutes before he picked me up and laid me on my back.

He moved my panties to the side and rubbed his cock against my pussy, and every part of my body suddenly became so hot. When he pushed his dick in me I felt like a lightning bolt went through me. He wasn’t too long but he was pretty thick so I got stretched pretty good on that first thrust. Then he began going in and out, in and out, in and out, with each thrust feeling like I was getting fucked by a tank.

After about 5 minutes of fucking he flipped me on my hands and knees and smacked my ass before sticking his cock right back in me. We go at it for another five minutes before my phone starts ringing. I look down and who else could it be besides my husband. I tell B to stop but he keeps going. I ignore his call and be smacks my ass again. Then, he flips me around picks me up. He carries me to the other side of the room and set my on my dresser. He put my legs over his shoulders and goes right back to fucking me.

We fuck in this position for about 10 minutes before my phone rings again. Before I could even react, B grabs my phone and answers it with a “Hey. Is this (My Name)’s Husband?” I mouth, “What the fuck are you doing?” But he then says to my husband that I left my phone at the gym. I sigh but then he says “Oh, here she is now.” And hands me the phone with a wink and a smirk. My stomach drops as I put the phone to my ear and B keeps drilling me. I talk with my husband for a minute trying my best to keep my composure. I hang up and tell B to never do that again. He agrees and asks where I want him to cum.

I told him anywhere but my hair. He nods and lays me back down on the bed and starts smashing me prone. His big hands gripped my waist as he slammed into me as hard as he could, blasting what I could tell was a huge, hot load of cum deep into me. We both breathe really heavily for a moment before he checks his phone and says. “It’s 12:40. Wanna go for about her round or two?” I briefly consider telling him in his dreams but I decide, “Why not?” And straddled him as he laid on his back. I rode him for who knows how long as I used a few rotation tricks that some friends taught me which he clearly enjoyed. Then he took over, grabbing my hips aggressively and thrusting up into me as he dirty talked me. “Yeah, you like that you whore?” “Your husband is such a fucking loser.” “Always wanted to bang a milf.” and similar stuff.

We then started fucking in all sorts of positions. Doggy, prone, reverse and normal cowgirl, missionary, pile driver, etc. he came two more times before we were both finally too exhausted. He got up and got dressed while I smoked. He gave me his phone number and asked if we could meet again and I said definitely. I walked him to the door but on the way he got horny again and we fucked in the hallway against a table that had my and my husbands wedding photo on it. That got me so turned on that I came almost immediately. I put me in my knees and came all over my face and magically missed my hair. He zipped his pants back up, gave me a smack on the ass and walked out.

I got cleaned up and 15 minutes later my husband was home. That night after the kids got to bed I and my husband made love, but all I could think about was B and how he gave me the fuck of my life. This wasn’t the first time I cheated on my husband but it was definitely the most notable. A few days later I was at the gym and saw B bench pressing again and he was lifting noticeably more than the other day. I like to think I motivated him. Lol.

He texted me last night for a booty call but my husband was home so I told him I couldn’t but we could meet for dinner on Saturday and he agreed. So I hope I can get another story out of that. I’ll keep you all updated. Thanks for reading.

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ZI Potts, amazing writing

The following happened on October 6, 2019, and this is how I wrote it up back then:

My boyfriend likes to go play basketball with his friends and I like to go watch and support him.  Sometimes its just them shooting around, but usually it gets busy and they end up in a game with random people.  So when he’s not in the game we hang out and when he’s in the game I watch or go on my phone if it’s boring me.

I always dress to show off for my baby.  Even before our “arrangement” I’d dress extra sexy when we went there.  He always pointed me out to other guys and I think I gave him some kind of “cred”.  That didn’t stop them from hitting on me though.  More than a few times he’s let a ball go right by him when he was staring over to see who I was flirting with, but I was always a good girl and never left with another guy.

I’ve gotten much more flirtatious with the other guys lately.  My boyfriend didn’t tell me it was okay to do it, but he never told me not to do it.  Obviously I focus my attention on the black guys and they flirt pretty hardcore.  They put their hands on me right in front of him.  I’ve even had a few grab my ass.  I enjoy playing up the role of good girlfriend who’s just flirting and having fun, but one time it went further.

A Black guy I’d been flirting with told me to meet him back there some night my boyfriend wasn’t gonna be there.  I told him I don’t cheat on my boyfriend. He told me he wasn’t asking me to cheat, he just wanted to spend more time getting to know me.  I told him he had me right then and there, so let’s just chat now.  He said he was hoping to do a little more than chat.  “Like what kinda more are you talking about?” I asked.  “Meet me here tomorrow night and I’ll show you.” He persisted as I kept shooting him down.  

I saw my boyfriend paying more attention to me than the game and I motioned to him by flipping my head and eyes over to the parking lot with a slight point of my finger to try and ask if he’d mind if I took a walk with my new friend.  He put his hands up like a slight shrug, which I took as consent.

So I got up with my ass in his face, looked down and told him to follow me.  I led him over to the parking lot near the back corner of the court where there was a bit of privacy between my boyfriend’s truck and another one.  I told him, “alright, you got me alone so now what?”

It looked like tiny little me made him a little nervous. 

“My boyfriend can’t see us…” I said as he kept looking back toward the court.  “You don’t care your boy is right over there?” he asked with what seemed to be one last attempt to make sure I wanted something to happen.  

“Nope.  It’s more exciting with him over there, isn’t it?”  I said as my hands went straight down to feel his hard cock through his basketball shorts.  He was tall enough, maybe 6′3″ that I (5′1″) could just stand and lean down a bit to pull him out and take him into my mouth.  He was still sweaty from the game, but it just turned me on more.  His scent was so musky and taste extra salty, but in a sexy, animalistic way.  

After sucking and slurping and gagging lightly on his Big Black Cock, I looked up at him and told him to cum in my mouth.  I reached down to massage his balls as I worked as much of his cock down my throat as I could, sucking hard and drooling harder until he gave it to me.  Shooting so much hot cum that I almost choked on it, but I sucked and swallowed, swallowed and sucked until the last drop.  I stood up and wiped the mix of drool and cum from my chin.  

I got his number and punched it into my phone, but since I didn’t remember his name from earlier I just punched him in as BBC Basketball. I still don’t know his name even though I saw him one more time after that.

With his cum still fresh on my lips, I went back first to the game, but he stayed back a while.  My boyfriend was still in the game, but as soon as he was done he came over and I gave him a big sloppy kiss.  “I love you, baby” I told him as he looked at me wondering what I just did and asked, “where’d you go?”  

I could see the desperation in his eyes. Not jealousy or anger… The kind of desperation a cuckold gets when he suspects his Goddess has a new adventure to share with him. 

“Don’t worry,” I said, “I’ll tell you all the details later.”  

My sweet baby smiled at me like it was Christmas morning as the taste of sweat and cum from that strangers Black cock passed from my lips to his. God, I love sharing that taste with him.

XoXo Jenny

Anybody know of any good swinging or Hotwife movies? That doesn't end badly.

Why wife sharing/hotwifing?

Wife sharing has definitely been a process for me. A process that has lead to a lot of self discovery and personal growth. It has been one of the most unique and powerful experiences of my life. Its very unusual to me that letting my wife sleep with other men could impact our lives in such a positive way. I would go as far as to say that it has impacted my life to a greater magnitude than hers. The sheer thought of what most would consider betrayal, being not only a positive experience, but an experience that would create a culture inside of our marriage of trust and communication that would lead to a greater sense of closeness and love. It is a bit of a mind fuck, but none the less very true.

However, I feel as though, I have many questions that need to be answered. Questions about myself that I want answered. I mean, am I just a hormone driven man that is into some freaky shit, or is my desire derived of my gentleman nature, or maybe something in between. Why do I like wife sharing and what has it done for me? Why does my wife like the lifestyle, and what has it done for her? What has it done for my marriage? There are just some questions that are obviously going to be multi-layered and are probably going to evolve in the coming years. From what we have seen thus far, we have seen positive growth in both of our personal lives as well as in our marriage.

It is up to us to create a marriage that we both love. It is our responsibility to each other to create a marriage that enriches both our lives. Happiness takes many forms, and there are many ways to achieve happiness. The most important part of our wife sharing lifestyle, is that it is not something we need to be happy. There are plenty of other ways for us to be happy. Our marriage doesn’t lack anything, so as far as the marriage goes, we don’t need to add anything to it to make it satisfying. Things were really good before we got into the lifestyle, and we couldn’t imagine our relationship going to another level, everything felt really good. So why mess with a good thing, right.

It wasn’t easy for me to ask my wife if she would like to sleep with other men. I mean the notion of asking your wife to sleep with other men just seemed crazy. Crazy enough that I often felt broken. I knew my wife was an open minded person, but still I wasn’t sure if I was ready for it or if she was ready for it or if our marriage was ready for it. I also at this time didn’t know that there was a wifesharing or hotwife lifestyle out there. I seriously thought I was all by myself and that I just had a really strange kink. I grew up super conservative, so I had my own conscience working against me for over a decade. I just kept burying it deeper inside of me.

It wasn’t very long after we started dating that I had a dream about her being with another man. That dream had really turned me on, though I never brought it up to her. Then I started occasionally fantasizing about it, but always felt guilty about the fantasy. I know I dropped hints about wanting her to be with another man sexually, but I never pushed them. I at this time was not ready for it, that was for sure. It wasn’t for about 12 – 13 years into our relationship that I realized I was finally ready for it. We were at a point that things were more natural. No more toxic friends. We figured out what kind of people we wanted to have in our lives, we had all the children that we wanted, we had grown passed all the immature growing pains, and we were just in a really content place in our lives. Most importantly our marriage was bullet proof.

So I was trying to tell her for months, it may have been over half a year that I just finally blurted it out in the car on our way back from a weekend get away in the mountains. I was probably a bit awkward about it, but I said “I think I want to see another man fuck you”. She only said “okay” in a quiet not so sure what to say kind of way, I could tell she was short of breath and at a loss for words. I continued on to explain to her that I think it’ll be just a one time thing. Just something I thought I needed to get out of my system. Well that conversation started a lot more conversations. Over about a years worth of conversations to be exact. We talked about rules, and boundaries, we talked about each others fantasies. We saw sides of each other we had never seen before. This broke down nearly any wall left in our lives. We trusted each other like we never trusted before. The communication was amazing. It spilled over into all parts of our lives. We were living some sort of dream marriage.

This started as a kink of mine. One that I was embarrassed of, but my wife was very accepting of it. Not ever judgmental of me in any way. One may say, well she is the beneficiary of the true benefit here, and that being she gets to play with other men sexually, so of course she was accepting. While this is true, she never just jumped on board and took the fantasy and ran away with it. She considered it carefully, and she also considered and suggested that I find women to sleep with. So that door is open for me, and I do consider my options, believe you me. So even though this was born of a kinky pleasure, it has grown into something so special. It has increased the frequency of sex and flirting. It has made us emotionally closer. “She loved me enough to be faithful to me, but I loved her enough to want something more for her” - anonymous.

So the question, why do I like wife sharing? Or better stated more specifically. Why do I want my wife to fuck other men? A decade ago up to about a couple years ago, it was about a very specific kink that I wanted fulfilled. One that I thought if I saw it, I could move past it and go onto having a more stereotypical male fantasy. Well the accepting and non-judgmental nature of my wife is actually what turned it into something I (we) want to do long term for now. It became so much more than just getting off for me. It became another way to tell my wife I loved her. Another way to tell her I trusted her. Another way for me to spoil her. While it still turns me on, it also takes us to a level beyond other marriages around us. I see people suspicious of infidelity in their marriages. I see marriages dealing with insecurities and immaturaties. Marriages that lack trust and communication. I see that wife sharing would likely break these other marriages as well. It make me realize that my wife and I have something very special. We are dedicated to making our marriage work. No part of this lifestyle should ever effect our marriage negatively as long as we communicate honestly and openly.

So therefor I want my wife to fuck other men because it allows her to experience her sexuality in a variety of different ways. A woman’s sexual capacity is enormous, and no one man can peel back every layer of her sexuality. It takes many different personalities to peel back different layers. She deserves to experience that. I also want her to fuck other men, because I believe she deserves it. To give her a break from being a spouse, mother, and successful professional in the work place. I believe she has earned a good dicking and some time where she doesn’t have to think about anything other than just getting dicked really hard. Just letting her stress and inhibitions go. I also want her to fuck other men for my own selfish reasons. She comes home horny and I want to reclaim her. She is my personal pornstar and takes videos and pictures for me. I really enjoy helping plan her dates, give her some in-site as to what he may want, as well as helping her choose outfits and under garments.

In return, after the heat has died down and normal life takes its reigns again. We go through our day to day routines with a refreshed mind set. A refreshed closeness and love that helps keep things in perspective. Some people have different ways of achieving this same result, as do we, but for now I am only talking about the one peculiar thing we added to our marriage that made such a profound and uplifting shift in our relationship with each other that it is worth discussing and exploring.

As far as what this does for my wife and how it effects her. I think it effects her in a very similar fashion as it does me. Some of the differences are that she can flirt and play with other men with my full knowledge and support and not worry about judgment. She doesn’t have to worry about competing with other women, because honestly she is my fantasy. So I don’t really pursue other women, but when I do, I also do it with her knowledge. She also sees the genuine trust that has been magnified by this lifestyle. She has told me that she wants to add more men to her variety, but for now things are good the way they are. She can have as many lovers as she wants to as long as it doesn’t disrupt our marriage or our lives. She has my full support in exploring her sexuality. We live a very monogamous existence with each other, with the exception that sexual infidelity is allowed with the full knowledge of each other. Some would say that, that would automatically define our marriage as that of an open marriage or some sort of non-monogamous relationship. I simply don’t don’t see it that way and don’t really try to gravitate to defining it to particular words or groups. As far as we are concerned, we are monogamous in nature and we consider our marriage monogamous with benefits.

For anyone that would be skeptical of the lifestyle choice or of anything that I have had to say. I would applaud their skepticism. The choices we made were made cautiously and with much deliberation. We did not rush into anything and met the lifestyle choice with our own skepticism. The lifestyle is not for the many, it is for the few. I only hope it is viewed with an open heart and open mind. Just know that elevating your marriage can be found in the oddest places. There is no specific formula that works for everyone. Just be aware that it is through trusting each other and communicating with each other that anything may be possible. Even in this specific lifestyle we have made compromises with each other to make it work for us.

“My wish for you is that this life becomes all that you want it to. Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small. You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to. I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too. Yeah, this is my wish’. ~ Rascal Flatts

The Artful Throbber

Dating While Married

In the beginning, I had a fears - one was that there would be no one out there for my wife to play with, 

Well, there’s plenty of people interested, if you know where to look.  According to the stats, something like 45% of couples 30-44 are not monogamous.  That’s probably higher in certain places.  Something like a ⅓ of couples have had sex with another with consent of their romantic partner.   If they haven’t done it, they probably have thought about it as a fantasy.  It’s the most popular sex fantasy for Americans.  So the number of people who are doing it, have done it or thought about it is pretty high. 

Those numbers go even higher in certain social situations.  For example,  if a man agrees to get “coffee” with your wife, there’s a high likelihood he’s open to exploring.  Not 100% certain, but high chance.  Those odds go even higher  if he invites your wife out for “coffee.” 

And likewise, if a man is open to another man spending time with his wife or going out for drinks, there's a good chance they are open to exploring.

It's not 100% guaranteed, but many people aren't really monogamous.