Happy Hotwifing 101 Wednesday again and welcome to my little world of hungry Vixens and thirsty Bulls.
Today I want to talk about Her Value. Her worth! Her Pricetag! No...she is not a prostitute. Im talking about what value the men in her life place on her. Have I confused you yet?
Let me explain what I mean. First of all..if you are in a monogamous relationship...ask yourself this question. How much does your husband value you? Are you in the type of marriage where its just been so long since the 2 of you have had any meaningful conversation? How long has it been since youve had raunchy..wild...drenched sheets kind of sex? When was the last time youve actually been on a date together?
What Im getting at is this... sadly its very common in marriages for the 2 of you to become content and lazy in the relationship. You pass each other in the hallways at home and say hi and maybe have dinner on the sofa when you get back from work and then go straight to bed with just a peck and an I Love you. That complacency creates less value that you place in each other.
Now lets jump over into the lifestyle of a Hotwife. Lets say she and her hubby have it all working smoothly first of all. And in most of these cases...if you were a fly on the wall in their house, you would see something different. The hubby always has a look of wild lust in his eyes for his wife. And the wife feels overly confident in herself because of what she is receiving from her husband.
Because of what they do...the hubby treats his wife like a prize. Like a brand new sports car that is his and he wipes with a diaper ever day to keep clean and polished. His wife is his trophy. He adores her that much. He has seen what she does and he is turned on daily by it. And of course he doesnt want to lose her. So he puts her on a prized pedestal for all to see.
She enjoys the attention from everyone but most importantly her husband. When he treats her this way...she is more likely to pour it all onto him. Her affection...her love...and her passion. This translates into a hot sweaty mess in the bedroom regularly.
This also allows the freedom and comfortable atmosphere to talk about things that most couples wont touch...out of fear for offending the other. So the Hotwife and her Stag talk sex constantly. They talk about who they would love to fuck together or alone. No fear! Why? Because of the huge trust they now have in each other due the overwhelming value placed on each other.
So how much are you valued? Or how much do you value her? This isnt a crack on monogamous relationships. There are extremely great relationships there too but the trend tends to be downward alot.
And this is part of the main reason Hotwifing has become so big. The value placed on each other in a relationship and the rewards that it brings.
~Lilly
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Ok since so many guys feel they have to give me lessons on how size doesn’t matter I feel like I need to tell you why it does - to me.
You’re absolutely right. You can have good, even great sec with an average cock and won’t think much about a bigger one.
However, with an average guy I’ve never had that earth shattering sensation I get when a really big cock is penetrating me. It just doesn’t happen. Even when I’m not cumming, I look like someone who is - because I’m in another world completely. Im in ecstasy basically.
Plus the orgasms are so intense. I can’t describe it but the girls who’ve tried it will know what I mean. I basically feel like I’m exploding. My whole body just ignites. And it happens even when the guy is doing nothing but letting me bounce on it, move back and forth on it etc. So it really is the size.
Apart from that. A big cock is so sexy to look at. I get so turned on by it. I don’t know if it’s a masculinity thing or thinking about how big it is compared to me, making me feel small and pretty but it gets me wet. The whole reason why I’m on here is because it gets me off looking at big dicks fucking girls.
Some of you even think that I’m just crazy sexually - but I’m really a down to earth, sweet and kind girl. If any of my friends knew I had this blog, they’d be severely chocked. I’m a completely normal girl who studies and minds her business like any other so it’s not because I’m a sex addict. I just really like big cock and just talking about it has gotten me really horny already. So sorry guys.
But size definitely DOES matter
The first time she cheated was on her first girls night out. She messaged me at the beginning of the night. She slowly stopped talking to me and then after an hour of silence, a photo of her hugging another man appears on her facebook. she was visibly drunk and was very close to him. A friend of mine calls me later to say he found her drunk and wondering at this 24 hour food place and walked her home. when she was asleep i read her phone and this is where the fun started fun started for me. i found messages of her telling her friend about how she had pulled some guy, hot body and all that. Then saying about how she’d just fucked him a couple of times and then he’d just kicked her out of his house. I didn’t feel hurt at all, I was surprised i felt turned on,
Knowing she had a drunk one night stand with a guy who had just fucked her and thrown her out was a huge turn on, I then read messages from the friend of mine who had picked her up, Turns out, when he got her back to our place, she invited him in and said thank you to him as well ;) I was tured on that my innocent girlfriend had became a slut.
Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.
It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.
Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.
Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.
Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!
Starting out:
1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.
2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.
3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”
4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.
5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.
6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.
7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.
8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.
9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.
10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)
11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.
12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.
13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.
14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.
15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.
16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.
17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.
18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.
19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.
20. Sext other men and show your husband.
21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.
22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.
23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”
24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p
25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.
26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”
27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.
28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.
28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)
29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.
30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.
31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.
32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.
33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.
34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.
35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.
36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.
37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.
38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.
39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.
40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”
41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!
42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.
43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.
44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.
45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.
46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.
47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.
48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.
49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.
50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.
51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.
52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.
53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.
***Other adventures:
54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.
55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.
56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.
57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.
58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.
59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.
60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.
61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.
62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.
62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.
63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.
64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!
65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.
66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.
67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.
68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.
***ADVANCED:
69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.
70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.
71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.
72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.
73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.
74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.
***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.
74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.
75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.
76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.
77. Spanking.
***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.
78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.
79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.
80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.
81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.
***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!
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Ok so my husband and I recently started exploring the "hotwife" dynamic. Mostly he encouraged it and it took me a while to come around to it, but recently I told him that I'd be open to it under the right circumstances. That was about a month ago. I read your blog all the time, and I remember you saying something like when a wife decides that it is possible for her to do something like this and opens her mind to what it might mean, that her daily life changes. Her confidence blooms, and she sees men a different way. Let me tell you, 100% that is my experience. I guess I'm giving off some kind of vibe, because I swear that ever since I internally determined that I might do this, almost every attractive man I see--in a grocery store, in a store, just about everywhere, gives me that "look"--you know, where the eye contact lasts just a second too long. It's been an exciting, flirty, experience. It's also a super turn on. I don't know if I'll ever find the right guy. At this point I hope I do, because I'm wearing my husband out at night to the point he can't keep up. So this isn't really a question, just a comment. We've been married 10 years by the way--both of us are 35.
I know, right? Can't tell you how often I hear this. Even though I've been open to this for like 11 years now, I still have this experience out and about--maybe not to the same level you're now having it, but still. There's something to be said for the novelty of it--if you've been married that long and who knows how long you were committed before to him, you haven't opened yourself up to "flirting" for a long time. To find out attractive men are attracted to you is, well...intoxicating is a great word.
The following happened on October 6, 2019, and this is how I wrote it up back then:
My boyfriend likes to go play basketball with his friends and I like to go watch and support him. Sometimes its just them shooting around, but usually it gets busy and they end up in a game with random people. So when he’s not in the game we hang out and when he’s in the game I watch or go on my phone if it’s boring me.
I always dress to show off for my baby. Even before our “arrangement” I’d dress extra sexy when we went there. He always pointed me out to other guys and I think I gave him some kind of “cred”. That didn’t stop them from hitting on me though. More than a few times he’s let a ball go right by him when he was staring over to see who I was flirting with, but I was always a good girl and never left with another guy.
I’ve gotten much more flirtatious with the other guys lately. My boyfriend didn’t tell me it was okay to do it, but he never told me not to do it. Obviously I focus my attention on the black guys and they flirt pretty hardcore. They put their hands on me right in front of him. I’ve even had a few grab my ass. I enjoy playing up the role of good girlfriend who’s just flirting and having fun, but one time it went further.
A Black guy I’d been flirting with told me to meet him back there some night my boyfriend wasn’t gonna be there. I told him I don’t cheat on my boyfriend. He told me he wasn’t asking me to cheat, he just wanted to spend more time getting to know me. I told him he had me right then and there, so let’s just chat now. He said he was hoping to do a little more than chat. “Like what kinda more are you talking about?” I asked. “Meet me here tomorrow night and I’ll show you.” He persisted as I kept shooting him down.
I saw my boyfriend paying more attention to me than the game and I motioned to him by flipping my head and eyes over to the parking lot with a slight point of my finger to try and ask if he’d mind if I took a walk with my new friend. He put his hands up like a slight shrug, which I took as consent.
So I got up with my ass in his face, looked down and told him to follow me. I led him over to the parking lot near the back corner of the court where there was a bit of privacy between my boyfriend’s truck and another one. I told him, “alright, you got me alone so now what?”
It looked like tiny little me made him a little nervous.
“My boyfriend can’t see us…” I said as he kept looking back toward the court. “You don’t care your boy is right over there?” he asked with what seemed to be one last attempt to make sure I wanted something to happen.
“Nope. It’s more exciting with him over there, isn’t it?” I said as my hands went straight down to feel his hard cock through his basketball shorts. He was tall enough, maybe 6′3″ that I (5′1″) could just stand and lean down a bit to pull him out and take him into my mouth. He was still sweaty from the game, but it just turned me on more. His scent was so musky and taste extra salty, but in a sexy, animalistic way.
After sucking and slurping and gagging lightly on his Big Black Cock, I looked up at him and told him to cum in my mouth. I reached down to massage his balls as I worked as much of his cock down my throat as I could, sucking hard and drooling harder until he gave it to me. Shooting so much hot cum that I almost choked on it, but I sucked and swallowed, swallowed and sucked until the last drop. I stood up and wiped the mix of drool and cum from my chin.
I got his number and punched it into my phone, but since I didn’t remember his name from earlier I just punched him in as BBC Basketball. I still don’t know his name even though I saw him one more time after that.
With his cum still fresh on my lips, I went back first to the game, but he stayed back a while. My boyfriend was still in the game, but as soon as he was done he came over and I gave him a big sloppy kiss. “I love you, baby” I told him as he looked at me wondering what I just did and asked, “where’d you go?”
I could see the desperation in his eyes. Not jealousy or anger… The kind of desperation a cuckold gets when he suspects his Goddess has a new adventure to share with him.
“Don’t worry,” I said, “I’ll tell you all the details later.”
My sweet baby smiled at me like it was Christmas morning as the taste of sweat and cum from that strangers Black cock passed from my lips to his. God, I love sharing that taste with him.
XoXo Jenny
I have gotten a lot of messages from many of you following my blog about the success you guys have had. Many of you reading this blog have built up the courage to speak to your wives about your fantasies and have put some of the concepts I talk about into practice with great results. Some of your wives are talking about their exes during sex, others have their wives dressing sluttier, some wives are roleplaying that you are another guy, others have their wives going out pretending they are single, and there are a few out there whose wives are already getting fucked by another man. I congratulate and am happy for each one of you for the progress that has been made. I am glad to hear that you are slightly closer to living your dream life or living it already.
That being said, the majority of you who have talked to your wives are roleplaying and fantasizing, and many of you are asking, what next? How can I get past the fantasy?
Refer back to some of the previous posts, in particular the post “You Want Her To Dress Like A Slut” because we are going to apply some of that here.
Assuming your wife knows about your fantasy and is roleplaying and fantasizing with you, (this seems to be the next hurdle after telling her to become your slutwife), we are going to move on into building up upon her fantasy.
1. Focus Her Fantasies Around Someone She Knows - Fantasizing about celebrities or made up people is great at the beginning of your journey to make her comfortable. Over time, you need to bring your fantasies to a more realistic sense by getting her to talk about people she has had sex with (an ex) or someone she finds attractive (a coworker, neighbor, classmate, etc). Perhaps there is drama with an ex so she won’t go there, or she refuses to admit she finds anyone attractive, which is likely false, but don’t dwell on those things. Reiterate how you want her to consider someone for your fantasy play and if all else fails, talk about someone who has hit on her or checks her out. Could be a friend, coworker, someone online, or whatever, point is that now is the time to bring your fantasy play slightly closer to reality.
2. Get Her to Think About Him - Now that you have identified one or a few people to fantasize about, get her to think about it. Getting her blindfolded (to focus her mind and senses) works really well here. While blindfolded, eat her out to get her in a slutty mood and ask her about the chosen person. Tell her to go with the flow of the questions and to think about it as if it were about to happen. Why does he want to fuck her? Has she ever caught him checking her out? Ever flirted? What did he say if he did? How big do you think his cock is? If an ex, ever had sex? Talk about the most pleasurable experience you had with him? If you were going to date him, how would you dress for him? Why like that? If you had sex with him right now, how slutty would you be for him? Would you suck his dick? Would he eat you out? Would you cum to his cock? You can keep going with this until she cums. Remember to let her gather her sexual thoughts as you eat her out, give her a few seconds to answer and let her keep talking as much as she wants. Do not cut her off or ask questions too quickly. Let her mind process the pleasure and emotions of this. When she gives a really slutty answer or something that you think is really hot, let her know how hot you think that is and continue eating her out. If she cums from this before you finish your questions, let her know how horny it all makes you and fuck her with good intensity while you tell her you love her and love hearing her talk like that. If you run out of questions, just eat her out and ask her to moan like she would moan from him eating her out.
3. Get Her To Pretend You Are Him- After doing the step above a couple of times and getting a good feel of how she visualizes things, move on to pretending you are him. Same scenario, she is blindfolded and relaxed while you eat her out, but she must pretend you are him. Now ask her the same questions pretending you are him. Have you ever caught me checking you out? Have you ever flirted with me? How will you dress up for me on a date? How did you know I want to fuck you? Why do you want me to fuck you? Are you going to be a good slut for me? Etc. You get the point. Have her say your (his) name with her answers once she gets into it. Get her to moan for you and to cum for you (him). While still blindfolded, fuck her and explore her body like you are him, tell her why you want to fuck her, have her beg you to fuck her, and tell her she is a much better fuck than he ever expected. You get the idea. You can repeat the above steps with a couple of other guys if she is feeling it, but focus on no more than three at a time for now, three people close to her at most. You may remove the blindfold after she is comfortable after doing it a few times.
4. Bring It Live - The steps above sound hot but its just more fantasy, you may say. Well you are right. So lets start adding something live to take a step forward. Remember I mentioned the post “You Want Her to Dress Like A Slut”, well this is a good place to begin. Now that she is fantasizing about sex and pretending to fuck with someone close to her, get her to take it up a slight notch. For this, we will use the example of her fantasizing about a coworker. You will ask her to wear some really sexy lingerie to work, under her normal clothes, and to spend slightly more time than usual with her coworker. When she gets home, you will ask her how it went, pleasure her, and talk about how hot it is that she was wearing something sexy around a guy she fantasizes about having sex with. As you pleasure her, tell her how much he would enjoy being able to see her wearing that sexy lingerie. Ask her to imagine his reaction if he saw her just wearing that. Or how hard he would get if he knew she was wearing sexy lingerie for him and fantasizing about sex with him. At a later date, ask her to wear some lingerie but dress slightly sluttier for him. I am not talking about street whore level, I am talking about tighter jeans, leggings, lower cut blouses, push up bras, shorter skirts etc, whatever works in her environment. Something subtle, but tell her you want her to dress for him and to get him to check her out. Of course you will ask her about it when she gets home. Have her tell you what she noticed, did he say anything, did she feel sexy because of it, did she notice him getting hard, etc. you get the point. Tell her to have fun with this, be slightly flirtier, and pleasure her for her efforts when she gets home.
5. Expand Her Horizons - Assuming she is dressing slightly sluttier and being slightly flirtier, his fantasy boy probably noticed and will be creating a spiral of her dressing sexier and being flirtier with you pleasuring that she will start to enjoy. Do you know who else is noticing, just about every guy around her. Remember, you do not love the guy she fantasizes about, you love her and how slutty she behaves. So you don’t need to focus on that one single guy, ask her who else did she catch checking her out. Who else has hit on her? Who else is being flirty? Was she slightly flirtier back? When she catches someone, does she act innocent and let them stare? Who were these people checking her out? If the boss, how would having sex with him benefit her? Could she get a promotion? Why does he want to fuck her? Etc. You get the idea, build up around her life experiences as they are happening and pleasure her because of how she plays at being sluttier. The more guys she does this with, the more fantasy sex, the more you pleasure her, the more she thinks about sex with different men, the more she opens up to acting sluttier.
6. Choose Your Champion - Odds are there will be one guy that will drive her more than the rest. Maybe he is the hottest, or richest, or most muscular, or simply knows how to turn her on. You need to pick up on this and choose your champion. Now that you know who this guy is, ask her to build another form of communication with him. Exchanging numbers, snapchat, facebook, IG, etc, have her build a form of communication with him. Now you will get her to chat with him as friends if necessary. Say they had a work relationship, ask her to build a relationship outside of work as friends. It does not have to be sexual, just something where she is comfortable with communicating with him. A social media platform works well so that he can check out her pictures and you can pleasure her telling her how he must check her out every day. Once this line of communication is established, have her talk to him about something friendly (non-sexual) as you pleasure her. If they are flirting already, then it will be perfect. If they are not, then having her in a slutty mood while they chat might help drive this forward. Overall, convince her to not shy away from flirting or being hit on by him. If she is reluctant, tell her to have fun teasing him and drive him wild without actually committing herself to confessing herself. For example, if he starts hitting on her, tell her to ask him why he likes her, why he thinks she is hot, what does he like her wearing, etc. Tell her she can let him talk to her about everything he thinks about her, without having to tell him anything about herself (unless she wants to, let her flow naturally). She can always avoid questions by telling him she may tell him some other time or she will think about the answer. Of course, you will pleasure her for being so slutty and talk to her about why he wants to fuck her so bad. Upon seeing him again, she should be her normal flirty self and pretend nothing happened, and she can be her flirty self online again next time they chat. By not avoiding him, he will get the hint that she enjoys being hit on like that and will give him an opening to propose to do more.
7. Make Her Sexy For Him - Now that she has fantasized about him and has chatted with him and flirted with him, get her to dress up in some really sexy lingerie and a slutty outfit. Tell her to pretend she is about to go on a fuck date with him and you want her to be a slut for him. While she gets ready, have her chat with him. Tell her to let him be as flirty as he wants and for her to be a good tease for him. Have her send you some really slutty pictures pretending you are him while she texts with you, pretending you are him. She should be really slutty for you, while he chats her up at the same time. (The idea here is to get her to blur the lines between you and him to the point she feels more comfortable being slutty for him too). You will than take her out to a brief date pretending you are him, than take her to a hotel pretending you are him.
8. Have Her Show Him How Slutty She Looks - Following the lines of the previous point, have her dress sexy for a date with him (you) and chat with him while getting ready. This time, encourage her to be flirtier with him and send him a pic (non-nude) to tease him. She can be fully dressed, but tell her to make the pic sexy so that he wants to fuck her even more. The excuse will be that she is going out with you but she wants to know if she looks good and wants his opinion. Of course he will say she is really hot. She will thank him and tell him she is really looking forward to the sex with you tonight. Once this is done, he will likely ask her to see more. She does not need to comply at this point, but can send pics as she pleases. However, she should also “accidently” send him a slutty pic that was meant for you (no face necessary if it is a friction point). Ask her to drive him wild. Since it was accidental, she will ask him to not share it and apologize. She will also mention how turned on she is for sex tonight that she lost her sense of who she was messaging. If he asks about her sexual experiences, have her describe how much she enjoys being a slut for you.
9. Have Her Confess to Him - Assuming she is comfortable making it to this level and having fun with it, the final step will be her confessing. She should find a way to confess to him that she has a crush on him and has gone as far as fantasizing about having sex with him. It is important to note that asking her to confess may be a barrier for both of you, and you do not need to push too hard. Ask her to do it naturally, and if she can’t, continue doing what you are doing but add a level of questioning and roleplay where you add, “What if he knew?”, and “How much you would like him to know”. There are a few ways of getting her to approach the confession, depending on her commitment level. The easiest path is usually when he is texting her about what he wants to do to her, while you eat her out or when she is in the mood in general terms. She can begin by offering hints about how she enjoys how he talks to her and asking him to tell her more and becoming more detailed. He will naturally wonder if she ever thinks about him and ask her. She should simply flow with the conversation and let him know. After she confesses how she thinks about him fucking her, he will make his move of wanting to make it happen. By this point, she should be well aware that you want this to happen, and that you enjoy that she wants him to fuck her.
Moving forward should be natural, but it may not be quick. There is a good chance that she agrees to have sex with him at this point, and you are set to go from there. If she is reluctant, just continue doing what you have been doing and do not worry. He will likely step up his game trying to approach her more and hit on her more, which can push her over the edge. In case things are not quite flowing that way yet, (normally because of a mental barrier), there is a part 2 to this post coming soon.
I appreciate your likes and reblogs, and as always thank you for reblogging my posts and spreading the word on this lifestyle. Let me know in the comments what you think, what works best for you, and more topics you want to see.
Ok, so I have to give myself a little credit here for this idea. I try to write now and then about "keeping things fresh" and trying new things. I know, some of you are like, "you can have sex with three men, what else do you need?". And, well, yeah...you're right. But even then, creativity is what keeps things fun, even in this context.
If you've read this blog for long, you know a lot about us and my sex life. You know that I hate condoms and never have my men use them. You also know that while my husband knows that I often have sex with Ben, my "regular" FWB, and also Colin, my OG "FWB", that I could, if I wanted, have sex with another man of my choosing. Even without my husband knowing. It's been a little joke, a joke with some subtle meaning, that he makes sure I have a fresh condom in my purse, you know...just in case.
So, last night he comes home from work. I'm smiling, maybe even a little giddy. I make him wonder why. It's often how I am after a little "afternoon delight", especially when its spontaneous.
So, later in the evening, as I'm sure it's eating away at him what I did and with who, even though it's almost always Ben, he finds exactly what I wanted him to find, because I left it on his night table. A used condom, neatly tied off. The look on his face was something between, or maybe including: confusion, jealousy, angst, arousal, and multiple other things. He smiles, and says, "who?". I smile back, and in as sultry a voice as I can muster, I say, "make out with me, eat me, have sex with me and maybe I'll tell you."
We had a wonderfully erotic make out session. He ate me out with the vigor of a newlywed. He fucked me. As he's doing so, he just says, "is it someone I know?". "Yes", I say. To my surprise, he doesn't ask more. As we are recovering, lying side-by-side, I say, "It's killing you isn't it?" He smiles, "Yeah, but I won't admit it..."
I make him squirm for a few moments more as I brush my teeth. Then, as we're bedding down for the night, I turn to him. "Do you have any guesses?" He looks around. "Honestly, no...is Noah in town?" Noah is the young cute surfer that Maddy and I befriended some time ago with his buddy Trevor. Kyle knows Noah and I were a little flirty.
"No...but that could be fun", I say. Kyle looks bewildered. "I honestly can't think of anyone else I know that would interest you."
I kiss him. "That's because you're not thinking of all possibilities." He looks at me confused. I put him out of his misery. "Babe...it was Ben. We just thought we'd have a little fun with you tonight."