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My First Post

Mmmh…so this is my first confession here and it’s a long one. I’ve been at this cheating thing for a while but never really thought of sharing my stories until recently. I really get a high out of doing the most fucked up things and the thought of sharing it publicly turned me on so much I decided to give it a go today. At this moment, my hand is resting against my throbbing clit this morning just thinking about one of the sexiest moments last night that I had in my cheating life. The past couple days, my bf has been out of town and I’ve been waiting to fuck any guy I can get my pussy on. Late last night, my bf was scheduled to come back to town and I was feeling especially filthy and wanted to do something that, if he knew about it, would not only hurt him but would really mentally fuck with him if he had any suspicions.

In the evening, my clit was throbbing badly so I called two of my guy friends who had tagteamed me before and asked them if they wanted to get drinks and then hookup. Ofc they said yes so we agreed on a time and I got ready. I put on the tightest black leggings I owned without any panties, the kind that has a bit of a butt scrunch and gives a whopper cameltoe. And also a tight tee without a bra. I then got out my vibrator and began playing with myself through the leggings because I wanted to actually soak my crotch in pussy juices before meeting the guys. I like to be wet and smell of sex when any guy first touches me down there - it really turns us both on.

After about 20 mins of rubbing and vibrating myself, I finally got out the door, and as I was walking to meet them, I could feel thick soppy wetness just soaking my crotch and it was making my clit throb even more. We met at the bar, had a couple drinks, and then one of my guys began touching my thigh as we sat at the bar. I took my cue and parted my legs a bit and he slipped his hand down to my crotch and his eyes widened as he felt that I was actually so wet, that as he pressed my leggings into my pussy, some of the wetness actually squeezed out and made a soft squelching sound. My other guy on the other side of me began touching me too and I was a literal waterfall.

We paid our bill and as soon as we stepped outside, guy 1 pulled me around a corner into a side street that was a bit poorly lit, and began desperately groping at my body before dropping to his knees and burying his face in my crotch. The other guy and I passionately made out, sliding our tongues in and out each other as he groped my tits and also kissed and licked my neck. Fast forward a bit and we agreed that the night was perfect for a bit of public fun, so we went to a small park nearby with a lot of trees that is usually very quiet at night, and here is where we fucked like never before.

They tagteamed me standing up, with one guy behind me shoving his cock into my ass and a guy in front of me, lifting my leg and thrusting into my pussy. No condoms, no BC, nothing. Just raw, wet, sloppy sex. I blew them both, I was facefucked, and both my holes were used and dp’ed. I especially loved it when the guys used my ass…I never let my bf use it bc I like to make him think I just don’t like anal, but in reality I just like it when other guy’s bareback me. We passionately made out and fucked for a long time before some park rangers came in to do their periodic check so we quickly left.

I checked the time and knew my bf had probably just got home (I told him earlier that I was out drinking with some girlfriends) so I told the guys to come with me to my apartment building, and right outside the building, in another dimly lit area, I told them again pull my now sex-covered leggings down and fuck me and spill their cum inside my ass and pussy. So that’s what they did, one guy released a massive hot load inside my asshole and the other pushed it deep into my pussy.

Then I did the sluttiest thing I’ve ever done - I told them I had a dirty idea, and they got so excited about it. I pulled my leggings up and began rubbing their cocks all over my crotch, smearing both their precum and cum remnants all over my cameltoe and ass area before dropping to my knees and taking them both in my mouth deeply. I made sure that my tongue had some cum on it and that their cock flavor was thoroughly in my mouth. I immediately brushed my hair back, made myself look mildly groomed, and went into my apartment and my unsuspecting bf was back home lying in bed with the lights dimmed. He was so excited to see me he jumped up and came to give me a kiss - and boy did I kiss him! I french kissed my lovers’ cock juices into my bf, making sure I rubbed the flavor of their dicks onto his tongue and throat. My bf looked at me and said “oh babe you seem hot and bothered, you must’ve missed me so much!” I winked at him, pushed him onto the bed, and then sat on his face with my leggings still on and grinded my lovers’ cock juices into his face, relishing the squelching sound of my pussy against the cloth. When I let him gasp for air he commented that I smelled so good and tasted a bit salty but that was okay. Then I told him to lick my pussy so he tugged my leggings down and as he ate me out, all the cum in my ass and pussy dripped into his mouth and I loved smearing myself all over his face. He said something about me dripping like never before and tasting salty-sweet but he never thought that what he was eating was cum from other men. I spent a lot of time facesitting him until I pushed out all their cum and I knew he had swallowed it. We fucked after that, raw also so he got their cock juices on his cock and then we both washed up, cuddled and went to sleep.

Now it’s the morning and he’s knocked out still while my cunt is so wet reminiscing about last night. I can’t wait to do more things like this again - cheating on him gives me so much pleasure and there’s nothing I love than taking my innocent bf, exploiting his trust, and breaking my commitment to him over and over. Ive already gotten other guys to sleep with me in our shared bed, cum on his clothes, piss in his drinks. I’ve even gotten guys to cum on his leftover food so much that my bf wondered if it had gotten a little moldy bc it was a bit strange tasting but he ate it anyway. I never use condoms, and maybe one day I wanna get pregnant from some guy and pass it off as my bf’s. I’ve taken so much inspiration from you cheating women on this sub, and all I can hope is to do you proud and ruin my bf more than anything else in the world. I’m so bad that if he ever found out the things I did, it would probably fuck up his brain so much he might go crazy, and that thought just makes me throb harder.

Anyway, that’s my LONGass story for y’all 😂 DM me if you have any questions or suggestions or just wanna hear me share how I fuck up my bf’s life - like I said I’m new here so I might be slow in responding but I’m excited to share!

(1) My First Post : sluttycheaters (reddit.com)

Key West was so much fun. I had quite a hot Friday night. A tall young guy caught my eye at the pool during the afternoon. I saw him out at the bar that night and started making conversation with him and his friend. Turns out they were from the Netherlands and soon we were all dancing. I took the chance to feel them up. One felt quite impressive. I tried to put on a show for my husband who was watching across the bar. My dance partners freed my tits and I was having quite the time. One of them even mentioned a threesome. Europeans are so fun. After awhile I left them for a bit. My husband was going to head back to our room so I could continue a potential adventure.

When I headed back out toward the dance floor I decided I wanted to find something different. My European friends were hot they just weren’t quite sexy enough. Luckily I stumbled upon sexy. A fit 20 something approached me and asked me to dance. I decided sure - he was hot. What a great decision. I was on the dance floor with him for the next 2 hours. He was such a great dancer and he was SEXY. I was quickly feeling him up and discovered a massive dick. He was French-Canadian and I am now 2 for 2 in finding hot French-Canadians (I had a hot adventure with one a few years back in Vegas). Montreal here I come.

Our dancing exhibition continued for awhile until we moved to an area off the dance floor and continued exploring each other. We were making out and I was practically jerking his cock off through his pants, oblivious to anyone watching. I was quite similar to when I was overcome in Scottsdale. I was going to be a slave to this dick.

He was getting very excited and said we had to leave. We got downstairs and realized he was staying quite far away. Additionally his friends were going to party with another set of girls. I had to taste him though. We decided we would move into a alleyway that connected to a parking lot. He pinned me against the wall and started kissing me. He told me he needed to see my tits and quickly had his mouth on them. He reached down and pulled my pants down and shoved two fingers into my soaking wet pussy. He couldn’t believe how wet I was. I undid his belt and freed that cock. It was magnificent - so long and thick. He took it in his hand and started slapping it on my pussy. It was so hot. I dropped to my knees, my pants around my ankles and attacked his dick. I was in heaven sucking him and then misfortune struck. Someone came strolling down the alley and caught us. He apologized and kept walking by but reality set in and really killed the moment. He became aware of his friends leaving and his lack phone and suddenly we were departing our separate ways.

I hurried back to my hotel and quickly got my husband up. I recounted my evening as he licked me to two sudden orgasms. I hopped on him and couldn’t get enough of him inside me. He pulled out and covered me in his cum. We awoke in the morning and recounted everything again. FIVE orgasms later and with my face covered in his cum, we were done.

I was determined to finish my adventure but was unable to make it happen the rest of the weekend before my French-Canadian friend left town. I have been insatiable since and can’t wait for my next adventure.

Dating While Married

In the beginning, I had a fears - one was that there would be no one out there for my wife to play with, 

Well, there’s plenty of people interested, if you know where to look.  According to the stats, something like 45% of couples 30-44 are not monogamous.  That’s probably higher in certain places.  Something like a ⅓ of couples have had sex with another with consent of their romantic partner.   If they haven’t done it, they probably have thought about it as a fantasy.  It’s the most popular sex fantasy for Americans.  So the number of people who are doing it, have done it or thought about it is pretty high. 

Those numbers go even higher in certain social situations.  For example,  if a man agrees to get “coffee” with your wife, there’s a high likelihood he’s open to exploring.  Not 100% certain, but high chance.  Those odds go even higher  if he invites your wife out for “coffee.” 

And likewise, if a man is open to another man spending time with his wife or going out for drinks, there's a good chance they are open to exploring.

It's not 100% guaranteed, but many people aren't really monogamous.

So, you want a Hotwife?

this is a great outline of those who want to encourage their partner into this lifestyle. Agree with nearly everything he has written. We do, however, rejoice in her being a 'slut' - this is a proclamation of her sexuality and her sexual freedom and she is proud to call herself a slut as I am also.

You think you want your wife to be a hotwife? We can give a few things that will help, as we've learned in our explorations in this life.

1. Cherish her. If you don't already love EVERY little thing about her, including her body as it is, how SHE wants to behave in public, who her friends are, what she loves to do, what shows she likes, what music she likes, what actually excites HER, you need to. Whether she became your hotwife or not, this is step 1. Learn to love all things about her and embrace them passionately as your first priority. Seriously.

2. Trust her. Completely. If you are encouraging her to dress sexy, to flirt with others, to kiss other people, to be touched sensually, to do more sexually, you must have absolute trust in her. You cannot question her faithfulness to you. You have to set all jealousy aside and believe in her that she is only opening up and exploring her sexuality, and looking to replace you.

3. Spoil her, a lot. If she mentions she would like to have something in passing, try to make it happen and surprise her with it for no reason, other than she deserves to have everything because she is your Queen and she should be honored, adored, and taken care of completely. Make her dinner often. Do the things she asks you to do without complaint. Go and do the things she loves to do. Compliment how she looks often. Compliment how wonderful a wife, mother, worker she is often and mean it. You should be able to have a lot of reasons that she is wonderful in all ways.

4. It has to be all about her desires, not yours. When approaching the hotwife concept with your wife, you have to establish the first 3 steps deeply with her first. She must know she is cherished completely, and that she has all of your trust. She has to feel like she is adored and is deserving to be taken care of and lavished upon. If those are established, you should be able to approach the hotwife concept with her. Tell her she is sexy, perfect, special and amazing. Open up to her about your desire to see her be sexy and flirty with other men/women, whatever you think would turn her on. Have a little wine with her and make it sexy fantasy talk at first, ask what she would be into if you allowed her to be sexy and open with others. You may really be surprised that she has withheld sexy fantasies from you, because she loves you thought it not appropriate. Do not push your own fantasy on her. It has to be about her, and you listening. It may take several times of these sexy talks before she really opens up about her desires. Take what she tells you and work with it. It will grow in time as she becomes comfortable talking about it.

5. Take it slow. If step 4 is going well, you have to gauge her comfort level. She may just enjoy fantasy talk for a while and not be ready to actually do anything. After she seems to be really into talking and fantasizing with you, then you can begin talking about going out with her.

6. Look at sexy clothes together. Don't get too out of her comfort zone right off the start. She's not going from cardigans to deep cut dresses and no bra the first time out. But, she will probably be willing to expand her sexy wardrobe with some positive reinforcement that she looks amazing. And, over time she will venture out and dress more and more sexy, of course the when appropriate for her comfort.

7. Take her out and show her off. Don't be fixated to make something happen right away. Just enjoy her being sexy, flirty and outgoing. If she's flirting, embrace it. Give her affirmation that she's okay, and you are completely fine with her expressing her sexiness. Tell her you trust her completely, and you want to see her have fun and be uninhibited. She is free to explore. Just let her lead whatever that is. After a few times going out she may really be embracing her sexiness. She may dress more and more sexy over time. She may flirt more and more. You can't push her forward through this time. She will want to expand her sexiness and openness in her own way. Remember, it's not about you.

8. Embrace your hotwife. If you have been patient with your wife through the first 7 steps and allowed her to explore in her own time and her own comfort, you should be able to know what turns her on. It could be young men, black guys, older men, women, couples. The important thing is to gently encourage her to act on her desires, what ever they are, with your full acceptance of it. Over time she will know what she likes, where her limits are and you will have to respect those limits. Don't push her to do more than she is completely comfortable with.

9. Explore places with like-minded people. Depending on where you live, there are likely swinger clubs or groups that meet at house parties. Try some of them out. If it's uncomfortable for her, bail out and try another later. There are several wonderful resorts that you can take her too. Mexico and Jamaica have several that can be found on the internet, and they will all be very open and accepting of you both wherever you are in your comfort zone and boundaries. This is a great opportunity for her to let loose and open up more in a foreign country where no one knows her, and no one will judge her. Lots of open minded people and a week of all inclusive drinks help a lot!

10. Love her, embrace her. She is your wife first, not your sex object. Keep her as your top priority always, through everything. This cannot be about you getting off on her being a slut, or degrading her. Your hotwife can bring incredible excitement to your marriage, and provide decades of open, beautiful, fulfilling sexuality for you both. Have fun with it. Protect her. Fulfill her needs. Respect her always.

Please feel free to reblog and add to this. Anything else?

Getting Past the Fantasy Part 1

I have gotten a lot of messages from many of you following my blog about the success you guys have had. Many of you reading this blog have built up the courage to speak to your wives about your fantasies and have put some of the concepts I talk about into practice with great results. Some of your wives are talking about their exes during sex, others have their wives dressing sluttier, some wives are roleplaying that you are another guy, others have their wives going out pretending they are single, and there are a few out there whose wives are already getting fucked by another man. I congratulate and am happy for each one of you for the progress that has been made. I am glad to hear that you are slightly closer to living your dream life or living it already.

That being said, the majority of you who have talked to your wives are roleplaying and fantasizing, and many of you are asking, what next? How can I get past the fantasy?

Refer back to some of the previous posts, in particular the post “You Want Her To Dress Like A Slut” because we are going to apply some of that here.

Assuming your wife knows about your fantasy and is roleplaying and fantasizing with you, (this seems to be the next hurdle after telling her to become your slutwife), we are going to move on into building up upon her fantasy.

1. Focus Her Fantasies Around Someone She Knows - Fantasizing about celebrities or made up people is great at the beginning of your journey to make her comfortable. Over time, you need to bring your fantasies to a more realistic sense by getting her to talk about people she has had sex with (an ex) or someone she finds attractive (a coworker, neighbor, classmate, etc). Perhaps there is drama with an ex so she won’t go there, or she refuses to admit she finds anyone attractive, which is likely false, but don’t dwell on those things. Reiterate how you want her to consider someone for your fantasy play and if all else fails, talk about someone who has hit on her or checks her out. Could be a friend, coworker, someone online, or whatever, point is that now is the time to bring your fantasy play slightly closer to reality.

2. Get Her to Think About Him - Now that you have identified one or a few people to fantasize about, get her to think about it. Getting her blindfolded (to focus her mind and senses) works really well here. While blindfolded, eat her out to get her in a slutty mood and ask her about the chosen person. Tell her to go with the flow of the questions and to think about it as if it were about to happen. Why does he want to fuck her? Has she ever caught him checking her out? Ever flirted? What did he say if he did? How big do you think his cock is? If an ex, ever had sex? Talk about the most pleasurable experience you had with him? If you were going to date him, how would you dress for him? Why like that? If you had sex with him right now, how slutty would you be for him? Would you suck his dick? Would he eat you out? Would you cum to his cock? You can keep going with this until she cums. Remember to let her gather her sexual thoughts as you eat her out, give her a few seconds to answer and let her keep talking as much as she wants. Do not cut her off or ask questions too quickly. Let her mind process the pleasure and emotions of this. When she gives a really slutty answer or something that you think is really hot, let her know how hot you think that is and continue eating her out. If she cums from this before you finish your questions, let her know how horny it all makes you and fuck her with good intensity while you tell her you love her and love hearing her talk like that. If you run out of questions, just eat her out and ask her to moan like she would moan from him eating her out.

3. Get Her To Pretend You Are Him- After doing the step above a couple of times and getting a good feel of how she visualizes things, move on to pretending you are him. Same scenario, she is blindfolded and relaxed while you eat her out, but she must pretend you are him. Now ask her the same questions pretending you are him. Have you ever caught me checking you out? Have you ever flirted with me? How will you dress up for me on a date? How did you know I want to fuck you? Why do you want me to fuck you? Are you going to be a good slut for me? Etc. You get the point. Have her say your (his) name with her answers once she gets into it. Get her to moan for you and to cum for you (him). While still blindfolded, fuck her and explore her body like you are him, tell her why you want to fuck her, have her beg you to fuck her, and tell her she is a much better fuck than he ever expected. You get the idea. You can repeat the above steps with a couple of other guys if she is feeling it, but focus on no more than three at a time for now, three people close to her at most. You may remove the blindfold after she is comfortable after doing it a few times.

4. Bring It Live - The steps above sound hot but its just more fantasy, you may say. Well you are right. So lets start adding something live to take a step forward. Remember I mentioned the post “You Want Her to Dress Like A Slut”, well this is a good place to begin. Now that she is fantasizing about sex and pretending to fuck with someone close to her, get her to take it up a slight notch. For this, we will use the example of her fantasizing about a coworker. You will ask her to wear some really sexy lingerie to work, under her normal clothes, and to spend slightly more time than usual with her coworker. When she gets home, you will ask her how it went, pleasure her, and talk about how hot it is that she was wearing something sexy around a guy she fantasizes about having sex with. As you pleasure her, tell her how much he would enjoy being able to see her wearing that sexy lingerie. Ask her to imagine his reaction if he saw her just wearing that. Or how hard he would get if he knew she was wearing sexy lingerie for him and fantasizing about sex with him. At a later date, ask her to wear some lingerie but dress slightly sluttier for him. I am not talking about street whore level, I am talking about tighter jeans, leggings, lower cut blouses, push up bras, shorter skirts etc, whatever works in her environment. Something subtle, but tell her you want her to dress for him and to get him to check her out. Of course you will ask her about it when she gets home. Have her tell you what she noticed, did he say anything, did she feel sexy because of it, did she notice him getting hard, etc. you get the point. Tell her to have fun with this, be slightly flirtier, and pleasure her for her efforts when she gets home.

5. Expand Her Horizons - Assuming she is dressing slightly sluttier and being slightly flirtier, his fantasy boy probably noticed and will be creating a spiral of her dressing sexier and being flirtier with you pleasuring that she will start to enjoy. Do you know who else is noticing, just about every guy around her. Remember, you do not love the guy she fantasizes about, you love her and how slutty she behaves. So you don’t need to focus on that one single guy, ask her who else did she catch checking her out. Who else has hit on her? Who else is being flirty? Was she slightly flirtier back? When she catches someone, does she act innocent and let them stare? Who were these people checking her out? If the boss, how would having sex with him benefit her? Could she get a promotion? Why does he want to fuck her? Etc. You get the idea, build up around her life experiences as they are happening and pleasure her because of how she plays at being sluttier. The more guys she does this with, the more fantasy sex, the more you pleasure her, the more she thinks about sex with different men, the more she opens up to acting sluttier.

6. Choose Your Champion - Odds are there will be one guy that will drive her more than the rest. Maybe he is the hottest, or richest, or most muscular, or simply knows how to turn her on. You need to pick up on this and choose your champion. Now that you know who this guy is, ask her to build another form of communication with him. Exchanging numbers, snapchat, facebook, IG, etc, have her build a form of communication with him. Now you will get her to chat with him as friends if necessary. Say they had a work relationship, ask her to build a relationship outside of work as friends. It does not have to be sexual, just something where she is comfortable with communicating with him. A social media platform works well so that he can check out her pictures and you can pleasure her telling her how he must check her out every day. Once this line of communication is established, have her talk to him about something friendly (non-sexual) as you pleasure her. If they are flirting already, then it will be perfect. If they are not, then having her in a slutty mood while they chat might help drive this forward. Overall, convince her to not shy away from flirting or being hit on by him. If she is reluctant, tell her to have fun teasing him and drive him wild without actually committing herself to confessing herself. For example, if he starts hitting on her, tell her to ask him why he likes her, why he thinks she is hot, what does he like her wearing, etc. Tell her she can let him talk to her about everything he thinks about her, without having to tell him anything about herself (unless she wants to, let her flow naturally). She can always avoid questions by telling him she may tell him some other time or she will think about the answer. Of course, you will pleasure her for being so slutty and talk to her about why he wants to fuck her so bad. Upon seeing him again, she should be her normal flirty self and pretend nothing happened, and she can be her flirty self online again next time they chat. By not avoiding him, he will get the hint that she enjoys being hit on like that and will give him an opening to propose to do more.

7. Make Her Sexy For Him - Now that she has fantasized about him and has chatted with him and flirted with him, get her to dress up in some really sexy lingerie and a slutty outfit. Tell her to pretend she is about to go on a fuck date with him and you want her to be a slut for him. While she gets ready, have her chat with him. Tell her to let him be as flirty as he wants and for her to be a good tease for him. Have her send you some really slutty pictures pretending you are him while she texts with you, pretending you are him. She should be really slutty for you, while he chats her up at the same time. (The idea here is to get her to blur the lines between you and him to the point she feels more comfortable being slutty for him too). You will than take her out to a brief date pretending you are him, than take her to a hotel pretending you are him.

8. Have Her Show Him How Slutty She Looks - Following the lines of the previous point, have her dress sexy for a date with him (you) and chat with him while getting ready. This time, encourage her to be flirtier with him and send him a pic (non-nude) to tease him. She can be fully dressed, but tell her to make the pic sexy so that he wants to fuck her even more. The excuse will be that she is going out with you but she wants to know if she looks good and wants his opinion. Of course he will say she is really hot. She will thank him and tell him she is really looking forward to the sex with you tonight. Once this is done, he will likely ask her to see more. She does not need to comply at this point, but can send pics as she pleases. However, she should also “accidently” send him a slutty pic that was meant for you (no face necessary if it is a friction point). Ask her to drive him wild. Since it was accidental, she will ask him to not share it and apologize. She will also mention how turned on she is for sex tonight that she lost her sense of who she was messaging. If he asks about her sexual experiences, have her describe how much she enjoys being a slut for you.

9. Have Her Confess to Him - Assuming she is comfortable making it to this level and having fun with it, the final step will be her confessing. She should find a way to confess to him that she has a crush on him and has gone as far as fantasizing about having sex with him. It is important to note that asking her to confess may be a barrier for both of you, and you do not need to push too hard. Ask her to do it naturally, and if she can’t, continue doing what you are doing but add a level of questioning and roleplay where you add, “What if he knew?”, and “How much you would like him to know”. There are a few ways of getting her to approach the confession, depending on her commitment level. The easiest path is usually when he is texting her about what he wants to do to her, while you eat her out or when she is in the mood in general terms. She can begin by offering hints about how she enjoys how he talks to her and asking him to tell her more and becoming more detailed. He will naturally wonder if she ever thinks about him and ask her. She should simply flow with the conversation and let him know. After she confesses how she thinks about him fucking her, he will make his move of wanting to make it happen. By this point, she should be well aware that you want this to happen, and that you enjoy that she wants him to fuck her.

Moving forward should be natural, but it may not be quick. There is a good chance that she agrees to have sex with him at this point, and you are set to go from there. If she is reluctant, just continue doing what you have been doing and do not worry. He will likely step up his game trying to approach her more and hit on her more, which can push her over the edge. In case things are not quite flowing that way yet, (normally because of a mental barrier), there is a part 2 to this post coming soon.

I appreciate your likes and reblogs, and as always thank you for reblogging my posts and spreading the word on this lifestyle. Let me know in the comments what you think, what works best for you, and more topics you want to see.

Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.

It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.

Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.

Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.

Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!

Starting out:

1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.

2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.

3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”

4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.

5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.

6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.

7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.

8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.

9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.

10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)

11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.

12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.

13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.

14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.

15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.

16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.

17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.

18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.

19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.

20. Sext other men and show your husband.

21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.

22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.

23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”

24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p

25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.

26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”

27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.

28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.

28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)

29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.

30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.

31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.

32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.

33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.

34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.

35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.

36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.

37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.

38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.

39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.

40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”

41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!

42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.

43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.

44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.

45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.

46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.

47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.

48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.

49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.

50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.

51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.

52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.

53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.

***Other adventures:

54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.

55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.

56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.

57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.

58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.

59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.

60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.

61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.

62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.

62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.

63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.

64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!

65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.

66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.

67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.

68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.

***ADVANCED:

69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.

70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.

71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.

72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.

73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.

74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.

***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.

74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.

75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.

76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.

77. Spanking.

***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.

78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.

79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.

80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.

81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.

***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!