MY FIRST BIG DICK

ROLEPLAYING A SLUTWIFE

One of the best ways to warm up a woman into the concept of becoming a slutwife is roleplaying. Roleplaying can be a big turn on for both men and women and can be done pretty safely. It opens up the mind to possibilities and new concepts. As mentioned before, roleplaying can be used as a lead-up to asking her to become a slutwife.

Today we will talk about roleplaying, but this is not your normal roleplaying. this is roleplaying with a slight twist to it, you will roleplay being someone else while she remains the same person, your wife. The only role she will play is that she is herself as a slutwife. I say again, in the scenarios below, she is only roleplaying the role of herself as a slutwife, and not that she is someone else. That is, she remains your wife in each scenario, while you roleplay being someone else. These scenarios work best after you have told your wife you want her to be a slutwife, but they can work as a warm-up to asking her as well.

1. You Are Her Crush - As mentioned before, you should ask her and know who is her crush. This could be someone from her past or a celebrity. It doesn’t matter. You will roleplay that you are that person she has always had a crush on and create a scenario where your wife bumps into him in private. They will agree to meet at a hotel room alone. Her role will be to let loose for her crush and have the sex of her life with him. Constantly ask her to scream his name as you fuck or eat her out, and do not break out of character. While in character, tell her her husband is a lucky guy to have such a sexy slut for a wife. Once you are both done, have her leave the room and head home. You will wait for her at home and ask her how things went with her crush. Feel free to pleasure her again and tell her how much you enjoyed the experience.

2. She is an Escort - For this scenario, you have become completely dependent on her due to unforeseen circumstances, the entire family is in trouble, the economy collapsed, and she needs to go into prostitution or escorting to make things work. For her role as an escort, get a room and call her to hire her services. Ask her to dress extra slutty and go meet you at the room. Important, she must get there on her own, like an escort would, don’t give her a ride. You can watch her get dressed for her client, but you must be in the hotel room before her waiting for her. Once she gets there, remember that you are just a client. Ask for her name, ask her to model for you, and tell her what to do every step of the way. Ask her if she us married, has kids, etc., and if her husband knows she is an escort. Of course, give her a really good fucking. Have her do something she does not normally do for you as a husband, suck you, anal, etc., and have her scream your name as you fuck her (different name than your real name). Finish by telling her that you will be in town once or twice a month and that you will be hiring her services to perform that act she does not normally do for you as a husband. Have her set a date on her calender for her next appointment. She will drive herself home as an escort finishing her job, and you wait at home asking how things went.

3. She is a Prostitute - Similar to the escort, have her dress slutty again, only this time have her drive to some random street and stand in a corner. Let her embrace standing dressed sexy in a corner a few minutes before driving up and asking her for her name and prices. Ask her to model for you and what she does for different prices. Pick her up and drive her to a cheap motel. Have her get off and rent a room by herself looking like a prostitute. Proceed to giving her a good fucking as a client would fuck a street hooker. Ensure you have her do something she normally won’t do for you and have her scream your made up name as you fuck her. Once you are both completely satisfied, tell her she has been a good hoe for you and you will start picking her up in that corner a few times a month. Have her check out of the room as a slut and drop her off in her corner. Leave her there a few minutes as she waits for her next client. Scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you about her workday.

4. The Bar Hookup - For this scenario, she will dress sexy to go out to the bar/club in another city. She will hang out at the bar and hangout for a while while you watch from a distance. You will eventually approach and buy her a drink. Ask her name, where she is from, etc, while you give her your fake identity. You start flirting and feeling her up a bit, touch her, and make out with her. Take her to the backseat of your car and have her give you a blow job and eat her out. If feasible, fuck her in the backseat. If not, get a room. Scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her night out.

5. The Student and Teacher - For this scenario, ask your wife if she ever had a crush on one of her teachers or who was her hottest one. Once she tells you about it, you will roleplay that she will be taking a few college courses. Of course, you are her teacher which happens to be her old teacher. Since she is failing, she must take extreme measures to ensure she passes. So the day of the scenario she will dress extra sexy for her class. She will approach you as her teacher and confess how hot she has always thought you were. Then she will ask if you (her teacher) have ever found her attractive which will be a yes. She will then proceed to getting on her knees and giving you a blow job while asking for your help with passing the class. You will receive the blowjob and tell her to meet you in a hotel room for personal tutoring. She will meet you in the hotel room dressed very sexy and have sex with you while screaming your name (teacher’s name). Once you are both satisfied, you will tell her she will continue to pass as long as she attends her scheduled tutoring sessions. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her school day.

6. Boss and Secretary - For this scenario, you will ask for the name of her current boss. If she is unemplyed, she can use the name of any boss she had in the past and liked, or the name of your own boss. Again, dire circumstances have come to the family and she needs a job or promotion. She will wear her work attire but make is sexier and wear lingerie underneath. She will go and ask you (her boss) for what she needs and proceed to undress for him as she tells him how she is willing to do anything. You (the boss) will start feeling her up and get a blowjob from her. You will then ask her to meet you at a hotel to continue the conversation. She will meet you there and let you have you way with her as she screams the name of her boss. Once you get what you want, tell her she got the job/promotion but that she will need to be available to extra duties and overtime at work and the hotel room. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you how her work day went and what her new duties will be.

7. The Doctor and Patient - You are her doctor and she is your patient. She comes to your office because she seems to not be able to get pregnant and needs your help. She tells you of her family plans with her husband of having a baby but that she can’t seem to get pregnant. You (the doctor) will then proceed to asking her to undress and inspecting her body liberally. Touch her thighs, butt, boobs, everything. Have her sit and check her mouth, looking inside and putting your fingers inside of it to get a feel of her throat and gag reflex. Then you will move down to her breasts, asking her to remove her blouse and bra. Ask her to lift her breasts with her hands, to squeeze them, to pull them apart, pull them together, the proceed to groping them as you please. You will ask her questions about her breasts, as you grope them, like her current bra size, age she developed them, if she has ever lactated, etc then proceed to suck on each to check for any lactation. She will then remove her pants and panties and lay back and open her legs wide. You will then inspect her pussy, touching her clitoris, labia, and pushing fingers inside of her. Ask her questions about her sexual life as you probe her, how often she has sex, largest dick she has ever taken in her pussy, which areas she enjoys having touched more, how many fingers she can fit inside, etc. Eat her pussy and taste it to see if everything seems fine. After you are done, tell her she seems perfectly fit to be bred and it is likely her husband just hasnt been able to breed her. Tell her that you will start her on a breeding treatment immediately and she should see results soon if she commits to it. Once she accepts the treatment, proceed to fucking her. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her doctor’s visit.

8. The Admirer - Most women have at least one man that likes them or wants to fuck them wether they are married or not. Odds are, she knows it too. This guy could be a friend, ex, coworker, neighbor, etc. you know guys out there want her and would fuck her. The mission here is knowing who seems the most obvious, that you and her recognize. Have her talk about if any guys have hit on her lately or someone who seems flirty or is always checking her out. Once you have identified who wants her, the scenario is simple. You will be out of town and your wife will then ask that admirer (you) to come keep her company. She will obviously dress in casual yet slutty clothes to wear for his stay. He is allowed to be as forward with her as he wants, and she is to remain flirty at all times. He may feel her up randomly around the house and she will let him, but no sex yet. They can go out, to the movies, dancing, to the mall, etc., but she will dress sexy for him and only acknowledge you (by his name). He is allowed to touch her freely at all times and she must remain flirty. At the end of the day, she will go to the guest bedroom wearing her sexiest lingerie and invite him to come over and sleep with her in her bed since her husband is gone. She will start by giving him a blowjob then letting him fuck her as much as he wants and thanking him for spending the night with her when her husband isn’t home. The next morning, she will have sex with him again and thank him again. The scenario does not end until you leave the house and come back later as her husband. She will tell you all about her day and night with her admirer.

These are a few roleplay scenarios to play with your wife that work well to her warming up to becoming a slutwife. As mentioned before, it is important that she remains herself during the scenarios while you roleplay being a completely different person. We finish each scenario with her coming hime to telling you about her experience to double up on the idea of her having had sex with another man, ensure she feels in role and sexualized all throughout the experience of being with another man, and to ensure her that her sleeping with other men is something you both and enjoy as a sexual adventure without drama.

These scenarios are designed to give her a feel a being sexual with other men under different circumstances as well as using her sexuality to get what she wants. They should start to ease her into the possibilities and open her up to acting out more fantasies (and realities) involving her and other men. In essence, she is practicing her life as a slutwife.

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Business Trip

This business trip I’ve decided to try something different.
I travel for work often but never flirt with associates. 
But I decided this seminar was going to be boring so it would be ok to get my flirt on.
Dave was one of the guys who started chatting with me almost immediately and he is good looking, tall with a boyish charm.
We’d had lunch and a few breaks together and conversation, with some light flirting, flowed.
Yesterday he asked if I’d have dinner with him at the hotel restaurant.
I readily agreed but asked if he’d be interested in the Italian place a few blocks away. He said sure and I told him I had to take care of some office stuff but I’d be ready about 6:30 and to meet me in the lobby then.
Dinner went well and we were finished and heading back to the hotel, hand in hand, by 9:30.
Back in the lobby he asked if I would join him for a drink in the bar. “I’d love to”’, I said, “but I need to go to my room, call my husband and freshen up a bit. Come with me”, I said, “I won’t be long.”
In the elevator I told him I had a great time and stretched to give him a kiss on the cheek.
I excused myself to the bathroom and told him to make himself at home.
I finished up and he was sitting at the room desk with a glass of water. I grabbed my Bluetooth and told him this won’t take long as I called my husband.
The conversation went as it always does, “how are things, is the seminar good, meet any interesting people?” … I told him a group went out for Italian and I’m up in my room going to bed soon.
At that, Dave smiled. That’s when I surprised him by walking over to him, dropped to my knees and began undoing his belt. I pulled his cock from his boxer briefs and began stroking and licking him.
I have never done anything like this before, one, one the phone with my husband, and two, a work person.
I always keep work and social life separate.
Dave was hard right away and I’m still on the phone with my husband.
I stood and turned around and had Dave undo the zipper to my dress.
I turned again so I could watch him as I slid the dress off my shoulders. He was quite surprised when he saw I was braless. Having small boobs,I can easily get away with that.
I sat at the edge of the bed and Dave came over and started to take my panties off. I must have done or said something because my husband asked what I was doing.
I told him I was just getting undressed because once I’m off the phone I’m hopping into bed. At that he let me go. As soon as I hung up, Dave’s tongue was on my pussy. And he was very good.
Dave fucked me twice last night. It was sensual, it was primal, and it was a solid fucking.
He’s already texted me this morning and asked if I’d like round two.

Why I Do It

It's been ten years since my husband and I began our sexual exploration, which has resulted in me having a long term sexual relationship with two other men. I know a lot of couples read this blog and are curious. I get your questions. I'll try here to explain a little, as briefly as possible, to answer the question: "Why do you have sex with other men? What do you get out of it after 10 years?"

First, I'll say that the reason has changed. At first, it was almost entirely because it turned my husband on. Turned me on too, of course, but...if it hadn't been a turn on for him, no way it happens.

Once I realized that the way we approached it strengthened our marriage, our communication bonds, and once I understood that I could have sex with another man without "falling in love" with him, then I began doing it for "us", but also for "me".

So, I find myself now ten years in and I can reflect on why I still do it. I love lists, so I'll make a list. It does not have a particular order. I'd place all of these as equal to each other.

Sex is healthy, and having this situation at hand leads to more overall sex.

It makes sex more interesting. Not that sexually monogamous sex can't be interesting, but it really can't be as interesting as when there's a third person involved. AndI don't mean just the physical. The mental/psychological aspect is even more important.

I love the attention from more than one male. I love guys. I love masculinity. The "friendship" I have with Ben and Colin are, outside of my marriage, my favorite relationships. I love talking to guys, getting in their brain. Having sex with them, especially when they know the boundaries, enhances that friendship beyond anything you could have non-sexually. Also, does it need to be said that it's just really super hot to get whisked away for a night or three with a hot man as his "date" or "girlfriend", and escape the reality of life for just a bit? Everyone has an escape--I think this is a very healthy escape. Being in their presence brings out the sensual femininity in me.

It gives me even more motivation to stay in good shape, physically, emotionally, spiritually.

It necessitates better and more communication with my husband. That's what this entire blog is about.

This is a hard one to quantify, but in my experience it makes me look at the world and my existence differently. I see the beauty and sexual appeal in a lot more. Almost like the difference between watching a black and white TV vs. super high def 4k. Even the curves in furniture can be sensual.

Did I mention the sex is good? It's better with my husband, it's better with Ben, than ever before. By that I mean the actual feeling of sex. The orgasm. It's better.

I enjoy giving to Ben (and before, Colin). Giving of my time, my talents, my ears, advice, and of course, my body. I feel like I'm a positive influence and a good friend.

That's a partial list, but everything else I could say about it falls under those general points.

Another hot 1st time cheating wife story from reddit

My husband [M][39] fucks his first cheating wife. 😈😜              

My husband Evan [M][39] and I [F][33] were just recently in Niagara Falls so if you think you might of seen us out there there’s a good chance you did.

We ran into this girl Lisa we knew our first night there. She was there with a girlfriend enjoying her first night out in over two year. She is an absolutely beautiful woman with a great personality and she is so incredibly sexy. Evan and I never thought of her as a potential play partner because of her marital situation but I don’t think very many people would pass on an chance for a wild night with her.

We had a few drinks together the first night and then we went our separate ways. Evan and continues the night bar hopping and getting up to our typical naughty shenanigans. We met some hot people throughout the night, made out with some sexy strangers in various clubs and eventually headed back to our room with two hot guys and the three of them just spent the entire night fucking me into a night of ecstasy.

But as hot as that was, it’s not the hottest part of our weekend. The next day I got a message from Lisa saying we should go out altogether that night. So we planned for it. She’s a really nice and extremely beautiful woman why wouldn’t we want to hang out with her. We met with her and her friend for dinner then started to bar hop. Drinks flowed and eventually she mentioned to me she had seen us out the night before at the club. And noticed how “friendly” we were with random people we met. I laughed and shrugged it off as having too much wine but she clearly was intrigued and interested in talking more about it. I eventually just told her that when it comes to sex Evan and I are very open.

Well that launched a discussion with her about her feeling that way. Wanting to explore sex outside of her marriage. And actually telling me that she desperately wants to have one crazy night of wild sex with no strings with someone so bad. And that she finds Evan and I so hot. I told her she was more than welcomed to flirt with him and that the night could lead wherever she wants it. Unsure if it was planned on her behalf but her friend ended up calling it a night and headed back to their hotel and we were left just the three of us. Within no time at all Lisa let go of her inhibitions and her flirting with Evan led to her running her hands all over his chest. Kissing him. And even rubbing his cock over his pants right in the club. The energy was just so positive and sexy. And the night was so fun. Chatting wasn’t easy as it was super loud but Evan was getting hard and Lisa was getting horny so she asked me how far we would be willing to take this. I asked her how far she wanted it to go. And she told me she has been wanting to have a sexual adventure for so long.

So I just asked her if she wanted to fuck Evan and she nodded shyly that she did. I told her we could surely do that and her eyes nearly popped out of her head. Her smile became brighter than the day. So We headed back to the hotel and the whole time in the cab and in the elevator she took turns making out with Evan and I. We got into the room and Evan now rock hard excused  himself and just said He needed to undo his pants.  His big cock couldn’t handle being constrained in his pants anymore.  I haven’t seen Evan have that intense of an erection that it was fighting against his pants. The second he undid his pants Lisa just looked at me with excitement but seeking approval and I just smiled and smirked and said things are about to get fun.

She immediately got on her knees pulled Evan’s pants down and released his cock. She was shocked. She couldn’t believe how big it was. Evan is hung. And when he gets hard his cock is on another level than any other out there. Lisa’s immediate reaction was excitement and she called it a porn star cock. She started to stroke it and suck it and absolutely fell in love with his cock. She couldn’t get enough of it. She would stroke it and just look at it in complete admiration. She got so slutty. As she sucked Evan I made out with him. It was hot and passionate. I eventually got on my knees and joined Lisa sucking off Evan. We took turns sucking and stroking his cock. We kissed each other. Ran both our mouths up and down his cock. We were both so slutty and Evan was loving it. Lisa was letting out her inner slut that I feel had always been there but never had an opportunity to come out.

After a bit of sharing Evan’s cock with our mouths I was getting so horny too I got up and undressed. Naked Standing beside Lisa on her knees with the biggest cock shes ever had in her mouth I started undressing Evan. I took his shirt off and Lisa got up. She peeled her form fitting jeans off and her jacket and shirt and unveiled the sexiest lingerie underneath. Evans and my eyes caught each other and we knew by how sexy her lingerie was that she had full intentions of having some naughty times tonight.

Evan was so turned on by her forbidden behaviour, beauty and sexiness, that he just picked her up, laid her on the bed, spread her legs wide, pulled her sexy panties to the side and starting licking her cheating married pussy. He absolutely fell in love with her. She was completely smooth. He licked every inch of her pussy. Pushed her legs up high and licked her ass. She loved every second of it. She had needed something like this for so long. With her sexy panties pushed to the side and his tongue deep in her pussy she told Evan she was cuming. He didn’t stop and kept licking her. As Evan licked her pussy and made her cum, Lisa looked at me and in a begging sort of whisper asked me if Evan could fuck her. I told her of course, and that I’d get protection. As I went to slip away she grabbed my hand and asked if he could fuck her bareback. And my pussy just instantly got way wetter. Evan overheard and his head popped up excitedly from between her married legs. She was begging for him bare. And I looked at Evan and told her that was up to him. She looked at Evan and mouthed the word “please” as he got up on his knees. He grabbed her legs spread them wide and pulled her to him. Grabbing his cock he started rubbing it up and down her smooth wet cheating pussy and whispered to her “I’ve wanted this pussy since the first time we met?”   She melted. I fucken melted. This was truly the most taboo thing Evan has done. He’s fucked married women but never a cheating wife. And he wanted her more than any other woman I’ve ever seen him fuck before.

As he kept rubbing his cock up and down her wet pussy Lisa kept pushing herself onto him. Wanting to slide his cock in her. And Evan wanted to be inside her so bad. Within a few more strokes he inched his monster cock in her cheating pussy. She gasped. Put her hands on his stomach and held him back. She couldn’t believe how big he felt and told him to go slow. Evan is very aware of his size and amazing at making sure a woman enjoys his cock. He took his time. Slowly inching into her pussy ever so carefully with every stroke. He was so methodical I got Mesmerized but the whole situation and lost track of time. I think it took him twenty min of this slow progression before he was fully inside her. She whimpered and moaned the entire time. When she felt him press against her tight and realized he was fully inside her She told Evan she could cum right away again so Evan just slowly started to fuck her. Sliding his cock completely out of her pussy and completely inside her until his balls were pressing against her ass. 3 or 4 Full strokes and she exploded and came again. She erupted and squirted all over him. She was blown away by how hard she came. She had not squirted since before she got married. And then things got wild. She wanted to fuck like a porn star and Evan was the right partner for that.

Her and Evan fucked in her cum and their sweat for the next few hours. She rode his cock in every conceivable position. She moaned and screamed and never stopped telling him how amazing his cock felt. He held her hips tight and pounded her pussy while she laid on her back. Her side. Doggy style. She never stopped begging him to fuck her harder. And Evan fucked her like his own personal little fuck bunny. She came half a dozen more times. Every time they switch positions I would suck Evan’s cock dry and taste Lisa’s pussy all over him. When he’d go back to fucking her I’d lay my lips on hers so she could taste her slutty cheating married pussy off my lips. She loved every minute of it. And I was happy to let her have her time of ecstasy and watch as I rubbed myself to my own multiple orgasms.

Throughput the whole night she never took off her lingerie. Her sexy black lace bralette pushed her amazing boobs tight together and her naughty lace panties remained on and pulled to the side all night granting Evan’s cock an all access pass to fuck her married pussy. She was so crazy sexy. And the sex was completely out of this world.

When he was finally getting close to coming Lisa asked him to lay on his back and she got on top of him. She slid his thick cock inside her married pussy and told him not to hold back. She looked at me and asked if he could cum inside her. And I was not going to deprive her of that amazing feeling. Plus Evan wanted to fill her up so bad. I could tell he wanted to claim her as his. At least for the night.

Lisa lifted her knees got on her feet laid her hands on his chest and started to ride his cock like a cum hungry little slut. She was fucking him so deep and so hard I couldn’t believe this was the same girl that only a few hours ago took twenty minutes of slow stroking to get used to his size. As Evan kept getting closer to cumming Lisa kept telling him to fill her cheating pussy. Telling him how she wants his cum so bad. How she wants to feel him erupt inside her. And with those last few words he grabbed her ass tight lifted his bum off the bed pushed himself as deep as he could inside her pussy and he exploded. He came for like a minute. She could feel every powerful squirt fill her cheating pussy and she erupted and came as well.  Squirting again all over him. They came together and non stop for what felt like forever.

When the orgasms subsided she fell limp on top of him buried her face in his neck and whispered in his ear that it was the best sex she’s ever had. And that she came more in this one night than she has in the last ten years combined. She kissed him passionately rolled off of him and his cock still half erect covered in both their cum looked too amazing to me so I took him in my mouth. Sucked him hard and licked him completely clean. This turned Lisa on so much that once I was done with Evan I slipped between her legs, spread them wide, looked up at her and asked if this was ok, she begged me to go for it and I started to lick her pussy next. She was full of Evan’s cum which kept leaking out of her pussy. I kept licking her clean. I could taste her cum and Evan’s cum and I couldn’t get enough. Fuck it was so good. I kept licking her and Lisa’s focus went from watching me clean her married pussy with my mouth to getting lost in how amazing it felt. Evan got aroused as well and was hard again right away.

He got behind me lifted my ass off the bed, I arched my back like a good little slut and he started to fuck me hard from behind. I was dripping i was so wet. I needed a cock so bad. I stuck my tongue deep into Lisa’s pussy and she watched Evan pound me hard as I licked her freshly fucked cheating pussy. She whispered “just when I thought things couldn’t get any hotter”. I was going to cum any second. We all were. Evan just fucked me hard and pounded me so deep I could barely keep my tongue in Lisa’s pussy.  And as I started to cum Lisa told me she was coming too. And a few more powerful strokes later Evan pulled out and erupted all over my ass and my back. It was a strong and powerful orgasm for all of us. I laid on top of Lisa and just made out with her for the next little bit. She ran her hands all over me rubbing Evan’s cum all over my back. Fuck that was hot and naughty.

When we were done we were all exhausted. We all wanted Lisa to spend the night and keep fucking but she decided to head back to her room for it not to raise too much suspicion from her friend. We walked her back to her hotel. Kissed each other goodnight and she asked how we felt about us all doing this again. Evan and I obviously were happy to hear she wanted to explore more with us. Evan has never really been too keen on cheating women but with Lisa there were no limits. He wanted to fuck her. And he wanted to fuck her as much and as often as possible. In our relationship I’m always the one that thinks with her pussy, it was so hot for me to see him come to the dark side lol, and finally start thinking with his cock. 😈.  It’s been a few weeks since that night in Niagara Falls and our sneaky adventures with Lisa have continued. Lots more to share. 😜💋💦💦💦💦

So, you want a Hotwife?

this is a great outline of those who want to encourage their partner into this lifestyle. Agree with nearly everything he has written. We do, however, rejoice in her being a 'slut' - this is a proclamation of her sexuality and her sexual freedom and she is proud to call herself a slut as I am also.

You think you want your wife to be a hotwife? We can give a few things that will help, as we've learned in our explorations in this life.

1. Cherish her. If you don't already love EVERY little thing about her, including her body as it is, how SHE wants to behave in public, who her friends are, what she loves to do, what shows she likes, what music she likes, what actually excites HER, you need to. Whether she became your hotwife or not, this is step 1. Learn to love all things about her and embrace them passionately as your first priority. Seriously.

2. Trust her. Completely. If you are encouraging her to dress sexy, to flirt with others, to kiss other people, to be touched sensually, to do more sexually, you must have absolute trust in her. You cannot question her faithfulness to you. You have to set all jealousy aside and believe in her that she is only opening up and exploring her sexuality, and looking to replace you.

3. Spoil her, a lot. If she mentions she would like to have something in passing, try to make it happen and surprise her with it for no reason, other than she deserves to have everything because she is your Queen and she should be honored, adored, and taken care of completely. Make her dinner often. Do the things she asks you to do without complaint. Go and do the things she loves to do. Compliment how she looks often. Compliment how wonderful a wife, mother, worker she is often and mean it. You should be able to have a lot of reasons that she is wonderful in all ways.

4. It has to be all about her desires, not yours. When approaching the hotwife concept with your wife, you have to establish the first 3 steps deeply with her first. She must know she is cherished completely, and that she has all of your trust. She has to feel like she is adored and is deserving to be taken care of and lavished upon. If those are established, you should be able to approach the hotwife concept with her. Tell her she is sexy, perfect, special and amazing. Open up to her about your desire to see her be sexy and flirty with other men/women, whatever you think would turn her on. Have a little wine with her and make it sexy fantasy talk at first, ask what she would be into if you allowed her to be sexy and open with others. You may really be surprised that she has withheld sexy fantasies from you, because she loves you thought it not appropriate. Do not push your own fantasy on her. It has to be about her, and you listening. It may take several times of these sexy talks before she really opens up about her desires. Take what she tells you and work with it. It will grow in time as she becomes comfortable talking about it.

5. Take it slow. If step 4 is going well, you have to gauge her comfort level. She may just enjoy fantasy talk for a while and not be ready to actually do anything. After she seems to be really into talking and fantasizing with you, then you can begin talking about going out with her.

6. Look at sexy clothes together. Don't get too out of her comfort zone right off the start. She's not going from cardigans to deep cut dresses and no bra the first time out. But, she will probably be willing to expand her sexy wardrobe with some positive reinforcement that she looks amazing. And, over time she will venture out and dress more and more sexy, of course the when appropriate for her comfort.

7. Take her out and show her off. Don't be fixated to make something happen right away. Just enjoy her being sexy, flirty and outgoing. If she's flirting, embrace it. Give her affirmation that she's okay, and you are completely fine with her expressing her sexiness. Tell her you trust her completely, and you want to see her have fun and be uninhibited. She is free to explore. Just let her lead whatever that is. After a few times going out she may really be embracing her sexiness. She may dress more and more sexy over time. She may flirt more and more. You can't push her forward through this time. She will want to expand her sexiness and openness in her own way. Remember, it's not about you.

8. Embrace your hotwife. If you have been patient with your wife through the first 7 steps and allowed her to explore in her own time and her own comfort, you should be able to know what turns her on. It could be young men, black guys, older men, women, couples. The important thing is to gently encourage her to act on her desires, what ever they are, with your full acceptance of it. Over time she will know what she likes, where her limits are and you will have to respect those limits. Don't push her to do more than she is completely comfortable with.

9. Explore places with like-minded people. Depending on where you live, there are likely swinger clubs or groups that meet at house parties. Try some of them out. If it's uncomfortable for her, bail out and try another later. There are several wonderful resorts that you can take her too. Mexico and Jamaica have several that can be found on the internet, and they will all be very open and accepting of you both wherever you are in your comfort zone and boundaries. This is a great opportunity for her to let loose and open up more in a foreign country where no one knows her, and no one will judge her. Lots of open minded people and a week of all inclusive drinks help a lot!

10. Love her, embrace her. She is your wife first, not your sex object. Keep her as your top priority always, through everything. This cannot be about you getting off on her being a slut, or degrading her. Your hotwife can bring incredible excitement to your marriage, and provide decades of open, beautiful, fulfilling sexuality for you both. Have fun with it. Protect her. Fulfill her needs. Respect her always.

Please feel free to reblog and add to this. Anything else?

Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.

It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.

Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.

Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.

Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!

Starting out:

1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.

2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.

3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”

4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.

5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.

6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.

7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.

8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.

9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.

10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)

11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.

12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.

13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.

14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.

15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.

16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.

17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.

18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.

19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.

20. Sext other men and show your husband.

21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.

22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.

23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”

24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p

25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.

26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”

27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.

28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.

28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)

29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.

30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.

31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.

32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.

33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.

34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.

35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.

36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.

37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.

38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.

39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.

40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”

41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!

42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.

43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.

44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.

45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.

46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.

47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.

48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.

49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.

50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.

51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.

52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.

53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.

***Other adventures:

54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.

55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.

56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.

57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.

58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.

59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.

60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.

61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.

62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.

62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.

63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.

64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!

65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.

66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.

67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.

68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.

***ADVANCED:

69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.

70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.

71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.

72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.

73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.

74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.

***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.

74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.

75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.

76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.

77. Spanking.

***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.

78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.

79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.

80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.

81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.

***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!

To my female followers, dm me your cheating stories! Let us know what pushes you to cheat on your bf/ hubby every time.

To my male followers, tell us about your experience when you got cheated on for first time! Tell us why do you get a kick out of being relegated to role of a cuck while your lady is out there, getting fucked by random men!!

With your fantasy of your husband losing you for a night in a card game. Do you know he bet his wife or do you find out later?

There are variations of the fantasy but I typically envision it as follows: my husband and I are at a bar. He's watching his favorite team play on a game that's being shown at the bar. A group of guys who are fans of the opposing team notice us and start chatting us up. One of the guys appears to be interested in me and starts flirting with me in front of my husband. My husband is too into the game to really notice. The guy gets an idea. He starts trash talking with my husband about the game. It escalates to the point where he convinces my husband to place a wager. "If you really believe in your team, you'll put up $5,000, right?" My husband agrees to the bet. His team loses. I'm pissed at him for blowing $5,000. I get up to go to the bathroom. While I'm away, the guy says "I'll give you a chance to win your money back. He says to my husband "I'll let you take the favored team in the game that is coming on next. If the favored team wins, I'll forgive the bet. If the underdog wins, your wife has to come back to our place and strip for the guys." My husband agrees.

When I come back from the bathroom I notice all the guys eye humping me and giggling. I know something is up. So I ask my husband "why are they are staring at me and whispering to each other?" He confesses that he bet me but it's just to win his money back. There's no way the underdog team is going to win the game. I'm annoyed but take his word for it that it's going to work out, and momentarily relieved that the debt will be forgiven. My relief eventually turns to disbelief as the favored team chokes away the game at the very end. The guys are high fiving each other and taunting my husband. They say "meet us at this address in 15 minutes, but they make my husband and I ride with two of the guys from the group to make sure we don't try to drive off and get out of the bet.

The drive there is incredibly tense. I tell my husband I can't believe he got me into this. He better be prepared to deal with the consequences. Along the way, the guys pull in to a sex shop. He tells me to go pick out an outfit. At first I resist. So the guy says "ok, we'll pick one out for you then." I relent and go pick one out, wanting to at least maintain at least some level of control over the experience.

We arrive at the address, and the guy he lost a bet to tells me to go change into the slutty lingerie I just bought. When I come out the guys erupt in approval. Suddenly my mood changes. Seeing how excited all of these younger guys are to see my nearly nude body is a major turn on. They put on some "mood music" to strip to, and the show begins. I start peeling of clothes. I notice my husband is looking uncomfortable with how much I appear to be enjoying this. I decide to take it up a notch and begin giving lap dances. The guys are are loving it.

Eventually I'm down to just my thong. I'm grinding on their laps. Some of the guys are groping my breasts. My husband tries to interrupt. He says "ok, that's enough. The bet was my wife had to strip for you guys. She did that." The guys are like "the bet was that your wife would strip nude. She's not nude yet". I see the look of concern on my husband's face, as if to say "you're not actually going to do this, are you?" At that moment I decide I'm going to teach him a lesson. I bend over, and slide off my thong, revealing my fully naked body to the guys at the party. They erupt in cheers. I then resume giving lap dances.

When I get to the guy he lost the bet to, he bends me over his lap and starts spanking me. He then asks me to kneel in front of him. I comply. I unzip his pants and grab his cock. I ask him if he wants a hand job. He says "that's a good start, but I want you to put it in your mouth." I smile at him. Then I shoot my husband an evil grin just before I put my lips around the guy's cock and go to work. Eventually the guy fucks me in front of all of the guys at the party.