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She Warned Me Against It

For years, the idea of my sexy wife being with another man had been a fantasy of mine. At first, it was just a passing thought, something that I couldn’t ever see becoming a reality. After all, I love Melissa very much, and she is my wife. Only a husband is supposed to make love to his wife. Right?

And while I have never been skillful bed, our sexual encounters were pleasant and comfortable. But as the years moved on, my fantasy grew stronger, until I could no longer keep it to myself. I finally mustered up enough courage to tell her about it.

She was not shocked by the idea, but initially blew it off as a fleeting whim. But when I brought it up a second time, she told me I shouldn’t play with fire. She said, “Dear, you better be careful what you wish for. If you keep pushing for it, it will happen. And there’s no telling where it will go once it starts.”

I said, “But it’s all I can think about.”

She touched my cheek and replied, “Okay, dear. But I am warning you. The reality may not be as good at the fantasy.”

I couldn’t believe that she was willing to do it. After a few seconds of thinking about it, she said, “If we do this, it must be with a friend. I have no interest in being with a stranger.” My face went pale. “But one thing you should know. I am not into one-night stands. Once this starts, you will have to ride it out. Think long and hard about this. Be sure this is what you want.”

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ROLEPLAYING A SLUTWIFE

One of the best ways to warm up a woman into the concept of becoming a slutwife is roleplaying. Roleplaying can be a big turn on for both men and women and can be done pretty safely. It opens up the mind to possibilities and new concepts. As mentioned before, roleplaying can be used as a lead-up to asking her to become a slutwife.

Today we will talk about roleplaying, but this is not your normal roleplaying. this is roleplaying with a slight twist to it, you will roleplay being someone else while she remains the same person, your wife. The only role she will play is that she is herself as a slutwife. I say again, in the scenarios below, she is only roleplaying the role of herself as a slutwife, and not that she is someone else. That is, she remains your wife in each scenario, while you roleplay being someone else. These scenarios work best after you have told your wife you want her to be a slutwife, but they can work as a warm-up to asking her as well.

1. You Are Her Crush - As mentioned before, you should ask her and know who is her crush. This could be someone from her past or a celebrity. It doesn’t matter. You will roleplay that you are that person she has always had a crush on and create a scenario where your wife bumps into him in private. They will agree to meet at a hotel room alone. Her role will be to let loose for her crush and have the sex of her life with him. Constantly ask her to scream his name as you fuck or eat her out, and do not break out of character. While in character, tell her her husband is a lucky guy to have such a sexy slut for a wife. Once you are both done, have her leave the room and head home. You will wait for her at home and ask her how things went with her crush. Feel free to pleasure her again and tell her how much you enjoyed the experience.

2. She is an Escort - For this scenario, you have become completely dependent on her due to unforeseen circumstances, the entire family is in trouble, the economy collapsed, and she needs to go into prostitution or escorting to make things work. For her role as an escort, get a room and call her to hire her services. Ask her to dress extra slutty and go meet you at the room. Important, she must get there on her own, like an escort would, don’t give her a ride. You can watch her get dressed for her client, but you must be in the hotel room before her waiting for her. Once she gets there, remember that you are just a client. Ask for her name, ask her to model for you, and tell her what to do every step of the way. Ask her if she us married, has kids, etc., and if her husband knows she is an escort. Of course, give her a really good fucking. Have her do something she does not normally do for you as a husband, suck you, anal, etc., and have her scream your name as you fuck her (different name than your real name). Finish by telling her that you will be in town once or twice a month and that you will be hiring her services to perform that act she does not normally do for you as a husband. Have her set a date on her calender for her next appointment. She will drive herself home as an escort finishing her job, and you wait at home asking how things went.

3. She is a Prostitute - Similar to the escort, have her dress slutty again, only this time have her drive to some random street and stand in a corner. Let her embrace standing dressed sexy in a corner a few minutes before driving up and asking her for her name and prices. Ask her to model for you and what she does for different prices. Pick her up and drive her to a cheap motel. Have her get off and rent a room by herself looking like a prostitute. Proceed to giving her a good fucking as a client would fuck a street hooker. Ensure you have her do something she normally won’t do for you and have her scream your made up name as you fuck her. Once you are both completely satisfied, tell her she has been a good hoe for you and you will start picking her up in that corner a few times a month. Have her check out of the room as a slut and drop her off in her corner. Leave her there a few minutes as she waits for her next client. Scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you about her workday.

4. The Bar Hookup - For this scenario, she will dress sexy to go out to the bar/club in another city. She will hang out at the bar and hangout for a while while you watch from a distance. You will eventually approach and buy her a drink. Ask her name, where she is from, etc, while you give her your fake identity. You start flirting and feeling her up a bit, touch her, and make out with her. Take her to the backseat of your car and have her give you a blow job and eat her out. If feasible, fuck her in the backseat. If not, get a room. Scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her night out.

5. The Student and Teacher - For this scenario, ask your wife if she ever had a crush on one of her teachers or who was her hottest one. Once she tells you about it, you will roleplay that she will be taking a few college courses. Of course, you are her teacher which happens to be her old teacher. Since she is failing, she must take extreme measures to ensure she passes. So the day of the scenario she will dress extra sexy for her class. She will approach you as her teacher and confess how hot she has always thought you were. Then she will ask if you (her teacher) have ever found her attractive which will be a yes. She will then proceed to getting on her knees and giving you a blow job while asking for your help with passing the class. You will receive the blowjob and tell her to meet you in a hotel room for personal tutoring. She will meet you in the hotel room dressed very sexy and have sex with you while screaming your name (teacher’s name). Once you are both satisfied, you will tell her she will continue to pass as long as she attends her scheduled tutoring sessions. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her school day.

6. Boss and Secretary - For this scenario, you will ask for the name of her current boss. If she is unemplyed, she can use the name of any boss she had in the past and liked, or the name of your own boss. Again, dire circumstances have come to the family and she needs a job or promotion. She will wear her work attire but make is sexier and wear lingerie underneath. She will go and ask you (her boss) for what she needs and proceed to undress for him as she tells him how she is willing to do anything. You (the boss) will start feeling her up and get a blowjob from her. You will then ask her to meet you at a hotel to continue the conversation. She will meet you there and let you have you way with her as she screams the name of her boss. Once you get what you want, tell her she got the job/promotion but that she will need to be available to extra duties and overtime at work and the hotel room. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you how her work day went and what her new duties will be.

7. The Doctor and Patient - You are her doctor and she is your patient. She comes to your office because she seems to not be able to get pregnant and needs your help. She tells you of her family plans with her husband of having a baby but that she can’t seem to get pregnant. You (the doctor) will then proceed to asking her to undress and inspecting her body liberally. Touch her thighs, butt, boobs, everything. Have her sit and check her mouth, looking inside and putting your fingers inside of it to get a feel of her throat and gag reflex. Then you will move down to her breasts, asking her to remove her blouse and bra. Ask her to lift her breasts with her hands, to squeeze them, to pull them apart, pull them together, the proceed to groping them as you please. You will ask her questions about her breasts, as you grope them, like her current bra size, age she developed them, if she has ever lactated, etc then proceed to suck on each to check for any lactation. She will then remove her pants and panties and lay back and open her legs wide. You will then inspect her pussy, touching her clitoris, labia, and pushing fingers inside of her. Ask her questions about her sexual life as you probe her, how often she has sex, largest dick she has ever taken in her pussy, which areas she enjoys having touched more, how many fingers she can fit inside, etc. Eat her pussy and taste it to see if everything seems fine. After you are done, tell her she seems perfectly fit to be bred and it is likely her husband just hasnt been able to breed her. Tell her that you will start her on a breeding treatment immediately and she should see results soon if she commits to it. Once she accepts the treatment, proceed to fucking her. The scenario does not end until she gets home and tells you all about her doctor’s visit.

8. The Admirer - Most women have at least one man that likes them or wants to fuck them wether they are married or not. Odds are, she knows it too. This guy could be a friend, ex, coworker, neighbor, etc. you know guys out there want her and would fuck her. The mission here is knowing who seems the most obvious, that you and her recognize. Have her talk about if any guys have hit on her lately or someone who seems flirty or is always checking her out. Once you have identified who wants her, the scenario is simple. You will be out of town and your wife will then ask that admirer (you) to come keep her company. She will obviously dress in casual yet slutty clothes to wear for his stay. He is allowed to be as forward with her as he wants, and she is to remain flirty at all times. He may feel her up randomly around the house and she will let him, but no sex yet. They can go out, to the movies, dancing, to the mall, etc., but she will dress sexy for him and only acknowledge you (by his name). He is allowed to touch her freely at all times and she must remain flirty. At the end of the day, she will go to the guest bedroom wearing her sexiest lingerie and invite him to come over and sleep with her in her bed since her husband is gone. She will start by giving him a blowjob then letting him fuck her as much as he wants and thanking him for spending the night with her when her husband isn’t home. The next morning, she will have sex with him again and thank him again. The scenario does not end until you leave the house and come back later as her husband. She will tell you all about her day and night with her admirer.

These are a few roleplay scenarios to play with your wife that work well to her warming up to becoming a slutwife. As mentioned before, it is important that she remains herself during the scenarios while you roleplay being a completely different person. We finish each scenario with her coming hime to telling you about her experience to double up on the idea of her having had sex with another man, ensure she feels in role and sexualized all throughout the experience of being with another man, and to ensure her that her sleeping with other men is something you both and enjoy as a sexual adventure without drama.

These scenarios are designed to give her a feel a being sexual with other men under different circumstances as well as using her sexuality to get what she wants. They should start to ease her into the possibilities and open her up to acting out more fantasies (and realities) involving her and other men. In essence, she is practicing her life as a slutwife.

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Getting Past the Fantasy Part 1

I have gotten a lot of messages from many of you following my blog about the success you guys have had. Many of you reading this blog have built up the courage to speak to your wives about your fantasies and have put some of the concepts I talk about into practice with great results. Some of your wives are talking about their exes during sex, others have their wives dressing sluttier, some wives are roleplaying that you are another guy, others have their wives going out pretending they are single, and there are a few out there whose wives are already getting fucked by another man. I congratulate and am happy for each one of you for the progress that has been made. I am glad to hear that you are slightly closer to living your dream life or living it already.

That being said, the majority of you who have talked to your wives are roleplaying and fantasizing, and many of you are asking, what next? How can I get past the fantasy?

Refer back to some of the previous posts, in particular the post “You Want Her To Dress Like A Slut” because we are going to apply some of that here.

Assuming your wife knows about your fantasy and is roleplaying and fantasizing with you, (this seems to be the next hurdle after telling her to become your slutwife), we are going to move on into building up upon her fantasy.

1. Focus Her Fantasies Around Someone She Knows - Fantasizing about celebrities or made up people is great at the beginning of your journey to make her comfortable. Over time, you need to bring your fantasies to a more realistic sense by getting her to talk about people she has had sex with (an ex) or someone she finds attractive (a coworker, neighbor, classmate, etc). Perhaps there is drama with an ex so she won’t go there, or she refuses to admit she finds anyone attractive, which is likely false, but don’t dwell on those things. Reiterate how you want her to consider someone for your fantasy play and if all else fails, talk about someone who has hit on her or checks her out. Could be a friend, coworker, someone online, or whatever, point is that now is the time to bring your fantasy play slightly closer to reality.

2. Get Her to Think About Him - Now that you have identified one or a few people to fantasize about, get her to think about it. Getting her blindfolded (to focus her mind and senses) works really well here. While blindfolded, eat her out to get her in a slutty mood and ask her about the chosen person. Tell her to go with the flow of the questions and to think about it as if it were about to happen. Why does he want to fuck her? Has she ever caught him checking her out? Ever flirted? What did he say if he did? How big do you think his cock is? If an ex, ever had sex? Talk about the most pleasurable experience you had with him? If you were going to date him, how would you dress for him? Why like that? If you had sex with him right now, how slutty would you be for him? Would you suck his dick? Would he eat you out? Would you cum to his cock? You can keep going with this until she cums. Remember to let her gather her sexual thoughts as you eat her out, give her a few seconds to answer and let her keep talking as much as she wants. Do not cut her off or ask questions too quickly. Let her mind process the pleasure and emotions of this. When she gives a really slutty answer or something that you think is really hot, let her know how hot you think that is and continue eating her out. If she cums from this before you finish your questions, let her know how horny it all makes you and fuck her with good intensity while you tell her you love her and love hearing her talk like that. If you run out of questions, just eat her out and ask her to moan like she would moan from him eating her out.

3. Get Her To Pretend You Are Him- After doing the step above a couple of times and getting a good feel of how she visualizes things, move on to pretending you are him. Same scenario, she is blindfolded and relaxed while you eat her out, but she must pretend you are him. Now ask her the same questions pretending you are him. Have you ever caught me checking you out? Have you ever flirted with me? How will you dress up for me on a date? How did you know I want to fuck you? Why do you want me to fuck you? Are you going to be a good slut for me? Etc. You get the point. Have her say your (his) name with her answers once she gets into it. Get her to moan for you and to cum for you (him). While still blindfolded, fuck her and explore her body like you are him, tell her why you want to fuck her, have her beg you to fuck her, and tell her she is a much better fuck than he ever expected. You get the idea. You can repeat the above steps with a couple of other guys if she is feeling it, but focus on no more than three at a time for now, three people close to her at most. You may remove the blindfold after she is comfortable after doing it a few times.

4. Bring It Live - The steps above sound hot but its just more fantasy, you may say. Well you are right. So lets start adding something live to take a step forward. Remember I mentioned the post “You Want Her to Dress Like A Slut”, well this is a good place to begin. Now that she is fantasizing about sex and pretending to fuck with someone close to her, get her to take it up a slight notch. For this, we will use the example of her fantasizing about a coworker. You will ask her to wear some really sexy lingerie to work, under her normal clothes, and to spend slightly more time than usual with her coworker. When she gets home, you will ask her how it went, pleasure her, and talk about how hot it is that she was wearing something sexy around a guy she fantasizes about having sex with. As you pleasure her, tell her how much he would enjoy being able to see her wearing that sexy lingerie. Ask her to imagine his reaction if he saw her just wearing that. Or how hard he would get if he knew she was wearing sexy lingerie for him and fantasizing about sex with him. At a later date, ask her to wear some lingerie but dress slightly sluttier for him. I am not talking about street whore level, I am talking about tighter jeans, leggings, lower cut blouses, push up bras, shorter skirts etc, whatever works in her environment. Something subtle, but tell her you want her to dress for him and to get him to check her out. Of course you will ask her about it when she gets home. Have her tell you what she noticed, did he say anything, did she feel sexy because of it, did she notice him getting hard, etc. you get the point. Tell her to have fun with this, be slightly flirtier, and pleasure her for her efforts when she gets home.

5. Expand Her Horizons - Assuming she is dressing slightly sluttier and being slightly flirtier, his fantasy boy probably noticed and will be creating a spiral of her dressing sexier and being flirtier with you pleasuring that she will start to enjoy. Do you know who else is noticing, just about every guy around her. Remember, you do not love the guy she fantasizes about, you love her and how slutty she behaves. So you don’t need to focus on that one single guy, ask her who else did she catch checking her out. Who else has hit on her? Who else is being flirty? Was she slightly flirtier back? When she catches someone, does she act innocent and let them stare? Who were these people checking her out? If the boss, how would having sex with him benefit her? Could she get a promotion? Why does he want to fuck her? Etc. You get the idea, build up around her life experiences as they are happening and pleasure her because of how she plays at being sluttier. The more guys she does this with, the more fantasy sex, the more you pleasure her, the more she thinks about sex with different men, the more she opens up to acting sluttier.

6. Choose Your Champion - Odds are there will be one guy that will drive her more than the rest. Maybe he is the hottest, or richest, or most muscular, or simply knows how to turn her on. You need to pick up on this and choose your champion. Now that you know who this guy is, ask her to build another form of communication with him. Exchanging numbers, snapchat, facebook, IG, etc, have her build a form of communication with him. Now you will get her to chat with him as friends if necessary. Say they had a work relationship, ask her to build a relationship outside of work as friends. It does not have to be sexual, just something where she is comfortable with communicating with him. A social media platform works well so that he can check out her pictures and you can pleasure her telling her how he must check her out every day. Once this line of communication is established, have her talk to him about something friendly (non-sexual) as you pleasure her. If they are flirting already, then it will be perfect. If they are not, then having her in a slutty mood while they chat might help drive this forward. Overall, convince her to not shy away from flirting or being hit on by him. If she is reluctant, tell her to have fun teasing him and drive him wild without actually committing herself to confessing herself. For example, if he starts hitting on her, tell her to ask him why he likes her, why he thinks she is hot, what does he like her wearing, etc. Tell her she can let him talk to her about everything he thinks about her, without having to tell him anything about herself (unless she wants to, let her flow naturally). She can always avoid questions by telling him she may tell him some other time or she will think about the answer. Of course, you will pleasure her for being so slutty and talk to her about why he wants to fuck her so bad. Upon seeing him again, she should be her normal flirty self and pretend nothing happened, and she can be her flirty self online again next time they chat. By not avoiding him, he will get the hint that she enjoys being hit on like that and will give him an opening to propose to do more.

7. Make Her Sexy For Him - Now that she has fantasized about him and has chatted with him and flirted with him, get her to dress up in some really sexy lingerie and a slutty outfit. Tell her to pretend she is about to go on a fuck date with him and you want her to be a slut for him. While she gets ready, have her chat with him. Tell her to let him be as flirty as he wants and for her to be a good tease for him. Have her send you some really slutty pictures pretending you are him while she texts with you, pretending you are him. She should be really slutty for you, while he chats her up at the same time. (The idea here is to get her to blur the lines between you and him to the point she feels more comfortable being slutty for him too). You will than take her out to a brief date pretending you are him, than take her to a hotel pretending you are him.

8. Have Her Show Him How Slutty She Looks - Following the lines of the previous point, have her dress sexy for a date with him (you) and chat with him while getting ready. This time, encourage her to be flirtier with him and send him a pic (non-nude) to tease him. She can be fully dressed, but tell her to make the pic sexy so that he wants to fuck her even more. The excuse will be that she is going out with you but she wants to know if she looks good and wants his opinion. Of course he will say she is really hot. She will thank him and tell him she is really looking forward to the sex with you tonight. Once this is done, he will likely ask her to see more. She does not need to comply at this point, but can send pics as she pleases. However, she should also “accidently” send him a slutty pic that was meant for you (no face necessary if it is a friction point). Ask her to drive him wild. Since it was accidental, she will ask him to not share it and apologize. She will also mention how turned on she is for sex tonight that she lost her sense of who she was messaging. If he asks about her sexual experiences, have her describe how much she enjoys being a slut for you.

9. Have Her Confess to Him - Assuming she is comfortable making it to this level and having fun with it, the final step will be her confessing. She should find a way to confess to him that she has a crush on him and has gone as far as fantasizing about having sex with him. It is important to note that asking her to confess may be a barrier for both of you, and you do not need to push too hard. Ask her to do it naturally, and if she can’t, continue doing what you are doing but add a level of questioning and roleplay where you add, “What if he knew?”, and “How much you would like him to know”. There are a few ways of getting her to approach the confession, depending on her commitment level. The easiest path is usually when he is texting her about what he wants to do to her, while you eat her out or when she is in the mood in general terms. She can begin by offering hints about how she enjoys how he talks to her and asking him to tell her more and becoming more detailed. He will naturally wonder if she ever thinks about him and ask her. She should simply flow with the conversation and let him know. After she confesses how she thinks about him fucking her, he will make his move of wanting to make it happen. By this point, she should be well aware that you want this to happen, and that you enjoy that she wants him to fuck her.

Moving forward should be natural, but it may not be quick. There is a good chance that she agrees to have sex with him at this point, and you are set to go from there. If she is reluctant, just continue doing what you have been doing and do not worry. He will likely step up his game trying to approach her more and hit on her more, which can push her over the edge. In case things are not quite flowing that way yet, (normally because of a mental barrier), there is a part 2 to this post coming soon.

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Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

This is a new alternate blog started because Tumblr has designated my original “The Hotwife Blog” as explicit, thus almost everything I post is flagged/removed unless it’s extremely tame.

This blog is about the Hotwife phenomenon. I began researching the subject many years ago seeking to understand what about a Hotwife was so sexually exciting, and if I was crazy for wanting my wife to be one. Was there something screwed up in my head, that my wife having sex with other men turns me on? At the time I had no idea there was even a term for my fantasy. I found out that not only is it the most common fantasy men have, but it is also a lifestyle that is much more mainstream than I ever imagined. I also found a lot of confusion and conflicting information.There are a lot of wife sharing lifestyles, many of which overlap or share some of the same basic ideas, but too often the Hotwife lifestyle and cuckold lifestyle are depicted as being one in the same. In actuality they are very different. Unfortunately, Tumblr is probably the worst offender at spreading misinformation. It is full of captioned photos linking cuckolding and Hotwifing. Not to mention most of these photos are of young women with perfect little bodies fucking hot young guys with big cocks, which doesn’t represent reality for most people. Add to that captions saying something to the effect of how the husband is a sissy and needs to lick the cum off her when she gets home, and you can get a really distorted view. I understand these are fantasies, but anyone looking for information about the lifestyle, especially women, could be immediately turned off before having a chance to explore the true lifestyle. I hope to clarify the classic Hotwife lifestyle with this blog. The following is a compilation of information gathered from across the Internet along with my own experiences and preferences. Hopefully, for anyone who happens to stumble across it, this blog will give a little clarification into this quickly growing phenomenon.

First let’s define the Hotwife. A “Hotwife” is a happily married woman who has the freedom to have sex with other men with both the permission and encouragement of her husband. However, while the wife is free to play with others, the husband remains completely monogamous to her. The husband is turned on by his wife’s sexual exploits. The wife’s sexual pleasure should not be confused with romantic feelings for her sex partners. The other men just are sexual adventures, she loves her husband and both spouses understand the distinction between love and sex.

The hotwife shouldn’t be confused with other forms of wife sharing lifestyles including swinging and the aforementioned cuckolding. Swingers are typically couples that enjoy having sex with other couples, so both the husband and wife have sex with different partners. The term “cuckolding” is tossed around quite a bit these days and while “Hotwife” is often used synonymously with the term “Cuckoldress” within that lifestyle, it is a different idea. Cuckolding, while also wife-centric, focuses on demeaning and abusive behavior towards a submissive husband whom usually considers himself sexually inadequate. Where Hotwifing could be considered the polar opposite of cuckolding. It focuses on the wife’s experiences. Hotwives and their husbands are motivated by the sexual thrill, for its own sake. The exhilaration she gets having sex with other men and knowing that this excites her husband. Humiliation has no part in it. Recently the term Stag, for the husband, and Vixen, for the wife, have starting to be used to further define this lifestyle and distance it from Cuckolding.

Clearly, the Hotwife concept is at odds with cultural conditioning and human tendencies toward jealousy and possessiveness, so it’s no surprise most wives are shocked to learn of their husband’s desire. At the same time, most husbands wouldn’t allow their wives to become Hotwives. Although they may entertain these thoughts in fantasies; possessiveness, jealousy and cultural conditioning ultimately prevail. However, we know that some husbands seem to handle this without ill effects on the relationship. The jealousy often still exists, but comes out in their sexual excitement, rather than through fear or anger. And some husbands seem to just be immune to jealousy, either by virtue of their own personality, or by their confidence in the security of their relationship and the love they share with their wives. Surprising to most people, couples that participate in the Hotwife lifestyle aren’t unhappily married couples that have fallen out of love and are just looking for a way to fuck around. In most cases, the couples have been together for a very long time and are very much in love. They still have great sex just maybe not as often as they would like. By exploring this lifestyle they experience more physical and emotional intimacy and end up having better sex, having it more often and being more adventurous when they do it. That being said, these types of relationships are not for everybody. Many couples may dip their toes into these waters, and yanked them out again, because of jealousy and fear. Furthermore, if you have an unhealthy relationship, venturing into the lifestyle is just asking for trouble.

So why would a husband who truly loved his wife want to see her with another man? There are many answers and it varies from husband to husband. I think most are voyeuristic in nature, but the underlying answer is that it’s his love and deep emotional connection with his wife that’s at the core. It’s his wife having sex with others that excites him; not strangers having sex with which he has no emotional connection. He gets turned on seeing his wife excited and feeling free, in the throes of passion achieving greater sexual pleasure through the attentions of more than one man. It makes her more appealing and naughty, basically letting her inner slut out.

So why would a wife who truly loves her husband want have sex with other men? As with the husband, there can be many reasons. For some, they like feeling desired or they may enjoy being seduced. Others may simply enjoy the opportunity for sexual variety, the excitement of new sexual experiences, the “forbidden” nature of what she’s doing and knowing that it excites her husband. In many cases it improves relationships communication and intimacy, as well as, supercharging her sex life with their husband. Some women may immediately embrace the opportunity for sexual freedom, but most will take some time to weigh how it will affect her marriage and your feelings toward her. Many wives will suspicious that you have some ulterior motive… that its just a ploy for you to later say that since she is fucking other guys, that you should be able to fuck other women too. In this case, it will take time for her to truly believe that this is not your desire. It should be noted that, of course, many wives are not interested in becoming Hotwives, even though she may enjoy sex and may have had numerous sexual partners before marriage, and may even enjoy Hotwire role play, actually being a Hotwife is just not something she will ever be comfortable with. In this situation the husband should not push his wife into doing anything she doesn’t want to do. If for no other reason than it defeats the idea of the fantasy, but more importantly it will most likely damage your relationship.

Hotwifing has several levels of involvement by the husband. The arrangement between each husband and wife will be specific to them depending on the couple and what they prefer. There are no set rules; it depends entirely on the partners to set the boundaries and limitations. The wife may meet other men alone. The husband may never know or meet the other men. She meets them on her own, and makes all the arrangements without any involvement from her husband. The other men may or may not know about her lifestyle, or be aware that the husband knows about them. They may not even know she is married, if she chooses to remove her rings and pretend to be single. Sometimes both the husband and wife meet men together. The husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for the wife to meet her “dates”, but the husband is not involved in any sexual activities between the wife and the other men. Other wives will have sexual relations with other men in her husband’s presence, or even engaging in sexual play that involves all three, as part of threesome where she first has sex with the other men and then her husband, or both with her at once. Whatever the level of involvement, the husband is turned on by his wife’s sexual exploits, whether this happens with his direct involvement or with him just watching or hearing her recount later when she returns home from a date.

The rest of this blog consist of a collection of inspirational images collected from across the web that I believe embodies the true spirit of the Hotwife/Vixen lifestyle.

I'd love to hear some naughty confessions. Feel free to message me tell me what you've done what you want to do

You can even tell me what you would like to do to me 😜

Ask me these probing NSFW questions ‘cuz I’m bored

SEXYTIMES EXPERIENCES

1. How many people have you had sex with?

2. Can you remember the names of everyone you’ve slept with?

3. With whom did you first do the sexytimes? Was it good?

4. What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?

5. What’s the worst sex you’ve ever had?

6. Where’s the most unusual place you’ve had sex?

7. Where’s the most unusual place you’ve masturbated?

8. Have you ever been caught doing the sexytimes?

9. If you masturbate, when did you start, and how?

10. Have you ever been caught masturbating?

QUEER SHIT

11. How would you describe your sexuality using only adjectives (describing words–busy, fluffy, squishy, etc.)?

12. Have you ever been in a queer relationship?

13. Have you ever been in a straight relationship?

14. How and when did you realise you weren’t straight?

15. Are you out to everyone you know?

16. Where do you meet queer folks to date? Do you find it difficult?

17. If your parents know about your sexuality, how did they react?

18. Does your best friend know about your sexuality? How did they react?

19. Describe your first queer kiss.

20. What’s the queerest shit you’ve ever done?

LET’S GET PHYSICAL

21. Are you happy with your body?

22. What’s the raddest part of your bod, and why?

23. What do you do with your body hair (pubes, underarms, legs, etc.)?

24. Do you have stretch marks? Where?

25. Describe your nipples in too much detail.

26. (Vagina-owners) Do you have an “innie” (small, tucked-in inner labia), or an “outie” (more visible/larger inner labia)?

27. (Vagina-owners) Is it very obvious when you’re turned on (swelling, wetness etc.)?

28. (Penis-owners) Describe the size and shape of your penis. Are you happy with it?

29. (Penis-owners) Have you tasted your own cum? Did you like it?

30. (Breast-owners) How does the size of your breasts compare? Is one bigger than the other?

SEXUAL FANTASY LAND

31. Describe your most unusual/taboo fantasy.

32. Do you fantasise more about real situations, or imaginary/impossible ones?

33. Who’s the oddest person you’ve fantasised about?

34. Do you ever find yourself fantasising absent-mindedly, or is it something you do on purpose?

35. Do you always fantasise while you masturbate?

36. When you fantasise, does it usually lead to masturbation?

37. Have you ever had sex with someone while fantasising about someone else?

38. Do you have any celebrity crushes that you fantasise about?

39. Have you ever fantasised about something by accident, and felt weird about it after?

40. Describe your most sexy fantasy.

KINKTOWN USA

41. How do you feel about BDSM?

42. What’s your most unusual kink?

43. In an SM context, do you prefer giving pain, or receiving it?

44. Do you consider yourself to be dominant, submissive, both, or neither?

45. Describe your most recent bondage experience.

46. In a BDSM context, have you ever referred to anyone as “daddy,” “mommy,” or any similar term?

47. Do you have a kink for any bodily fluids (pee, saliva, blood, tears, cum, etc.)?

48. Have you ever revealed a kink to someone and had them react negatively?

49. Do you have any kinks that you’re ashamed of?

50. How much money have you spent on equipment for your kinks (toys, whips, chains, etc.)?

COME FOR THE QUESTIONS, STAY FOR THE SUBHEADINGS

51. (Vagina-owners) Do you ever squirt when you come?

52. Have you ever come solely from penetration (anal or vaginal)?

53. Can you have an orgasm without your genitals being touched?

54. Describe how you like your genitals to be touched.

55. How sensitive are your nipples? Does nipple play turn you on?

56. Do you find it easier to orgasm with another person, or through masturbation?

57. Have you ever had an orgasm that you weren’t expecting?

58. Do you get off easier from rough contact, or gentle?

59. What’s the best orgasm you’ve ever had?

60. Did it take you a while to have your first orgasm, or were you an early starter?

ORAL FIXATION

61. Do you enjoy giving oral sex? Why?

62. What’s your favourite position in which to receive oral?

63. Describe your oral sex technique.

64. Do you find it easier to give oral to someone with the same genital configuration as you (eg., you both own vaginas/both own penises), or different?

65. Describe the worst oral sex you’ve ever received.

66. Describe the best oral sex you’ve ever received.

67. Do you ever simulate oral sex while masturbating (sucking on dildos etc.)?

68. How sensitive is your mouth? Is it an erogenous zone, for you?

69. Do you like 69ing?

70. Can you deep-throat?

EVERYTHING BUTT

71. Do you like it in the butt?

72. What’s the strangest object you’ve had in your butt?

73. Do you enjoy being rimmed?

74. Can you take a lot in your butt, or just a little?

75. Describe your most recent experience with buttsex.

76. Do you like doing stuff to other people’s butts?

77. (Prostate-owners) Have you ever received a prostate massage?

78. Do you own any buttplugs?

79. Have you ever had an embarrassing buttsex experience?

80. Have you ever pegged someone (ie., worn a strapon and fucked them in the butt)?

SHARING IS CARING

All questions assume you’ve done group sex of some kind

81. Describe your most recent group sex experience.

82. Have you ever had sex with more than two people at once (eg., foursome, moresome)?

83. Have you ever had an orgy? Would you?

84. Do you enjoy watching your partner(s) having sex with others?

85. Do you prefer to arrange group sex beforehand, or allow it to happen organically?

86. Have you ever felt left out during group sex?

87. Have you ever done a gangbang (ie., lots of people have sex with one person, but not each other)?

88. Have you ever teamed up with someone and given a double blowjob/double cunnilingus?

89. Have you ever been penetrated by more than one person at the same time?

90. Have you ever been ejaculated on by more than one person at the same time?

**BONUS DARES**

91. Post a selfie.

92. Post a naked selfie.

93. Tag your biggest tumblr crush.

94. Post your follower count.

95. Press ctrl-v, and post whatever comes up.

96. Tag your top five followers.

97. Post your most recent Facebook status here.

98. Post the last SMS you received.

99. Post the last SMS you sent.

100. Send me $500.

The first time she cheated.

The first time she cheated was on her first girls night out. She messaged me at the beginning of the night. She slowly stopped talking to me and then after an hour of silence, a photo of her hugging another man appears on her facebook. she was visibly drunk and was very close to him. A friend of mine calls me later to say he found her drunk and wondering at this 24 hour food place and walked her home. when she was asleep i read her phone and this is where the fun started fun started for me. i found messages of her telling her friend about how she had pulled some guy, hot body and all that. Then saying about how she’d just fucked him a couple of times and then he’d just kicked her out of his house. I didn’t feel hurt at all, I was surprised i felt turned on,

Knowing she had a drunk one night stand with a guy who had just fucked her and thrown her out was a huge turn on, I then read messages from the friend of mine who had picked her up, Turns out, when he got her back to our place, she invited him in and said thank you to him as well ;) I was tured on that my innocent girlfriend had became a slut.