Aromanticism - Blog Posts

It's official! We got the state of Kansas to formally recognize Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week this year!

February 18-24, 2024 DON'T YOU FORGET!

Had fun making these today 😌

It takes everything in me to not write “cringy” fan fiction about me and my QPP because I want to read fan fiction, I am a fan of them and, my only fandom is big mouth (all sex stuff) or the burreau of magical things (Australian kids tv with a very small fan base)

Is this normal? Should I do it?

Our love can not be defined

The pull and push of labels used to explain

The feelings we have inside

The touch of our bodies

The spark created, ignited in our minds

The label of obscurities

Identities of loving

Loving you in ways that cannot be explained

With simple words of their life

We’re something else, but not new

We are not just friends, not dating, not lovers

We’re creating something true

I’m questioning their motives

Why do they hate me loving platonically?

Do they hate the way I live?

Do they hate the love we feel?

Joy we share? Trust we feel? That we can care

Do they think our love is not real?

@grey-loves-vikings DO NOT READ THIS (joking please do) it’s so cringe (cringe is dead) (also, lmk when you read because sending it to you was TOO MUCH)



My favourite colour is green…

Besties favourite colour is purple…

We were meant to be in a qpr

@grey-loves-vikings

Whenever people complain about relationships all I can think of is

“Can I recommend AROMANTICISM. Only 00.00$ for your life time! Asexuality sold separately.

Head canon: ambition gremlins are all Aro ace and there are other gremlins in Human Resources but the ones that are ambition gremlins get the job because they are Aro ace so they don’t even want to focus on sex or romance

What’s a qpr, you ask?

Idk

Aren’t you in a qpr, you ask?

Yes, I still don’t know…

(@grey-loves-dragons)

I need someone to kiss me but I swear to god the thought of someone kissing me makes me feel sick.

Like, what?

How do I need to be kissed but also the thought repulses me

I need to kiss someone but also magically make it so I can’t be kissed back but not in a rejection way

I need someone to kiss me but without the kiss

Like wtf does my brain want right now?

Am I going insane?

Is this a neurodivergent thing? An aromantic thing? An ace spectrum thing?

WTF IS THIS?!?!?!?

My uncle about my qpr

“ just a couple of wackos”

Me and bestie did so much cuddling this weekend

@grey-loves-dragons

Qpr‘s are different for everyone?

No, all Qpp want to have a wedding with a tub of Vaseline as the officient /j

I was talking to my therapist today and she kept saying for like a minute that my QPP is my girlfriend and I told her that it’s different and she says it’s basically the same…

Then she said the way I talk about aer is the way people talk about their girlfriends and that a QPR is like I romantic relationship without any romance…

( @grey-loves-dragons I swear to god 🙄)

Me and bestie did so many new things over the weekend. We even HUGGED

@grey-loves-dragons

To be or not to be…

That is not the question

The question is, am I aro ace or am I just faking it?

(I’m not and I just have imposters syndrome)

#Work song by hozier but platonically

I miss bestie and I saw the 3 hours ago :(

Any other aromantic people love reading romantic fan fiction but if a novel has romance it better also have something else going for it?

Like I live for fan fiction. I’ll read anything that involves my favourite characters but I will never read a romance novel. It needs to just be a side dish.

Like fantasy with a side of romance

Or dystopian with a small romance

So, I know I don’t feel sexual attraction or romantic attraction. But I get this weird feeling sometimes. I thought it was gender envy because I only felt it towards guys but then I felt it toward Dixie who want a guy the other day.

It’s like I feel like I want to complement the person but I don’t because I don’t want them to think I want to fuck them.

It’s definitely not aesthetic attraction because I know what that feels like.

But like, can I think someone is attractive “romantically” but not have romantic feelings.

My allo friends always talks about thinking people are pretty or cute or good looking but then when I ask they say they aren’t into them in any way.

So is this just like extrem aesthetic attraction or is it something else?

When you tell your therapist you’re in a qpr and her only question is “so are you Guy’s eventually going to move in together?”

What is this sexuality you speak of and can I only get the uality of is it all made in the same pot

(Inspired by @yourlocalbadgerscales )

NEW FAVORITE CALMING THING JUST DROPPED

Drumroll please…

Your bestie braiding your hair while you watch aers favourite tv show after a long day :)

@grey-loves-dragons (thank you so much)💜💚

Intro post:

(Edited on January 12)

Hi, I’m Fae (internet name)

He/him ze/zir

I’m transmasc, and aro ace (Aroflux (fluctuating between apothiromantic and Aegoromantic usually falling closer to Aegoromantic) and bellusexual)

I’m late teens and have autism ( not diagnosed yet, my mother doesn’t think I do (everyone else in my life does)

I love answering questions (about my social interests especially)

Some of my favourite things include

Big mouth

Armadillos

Crochet

Swimming

Futurama

Queer identities

Spider-Man (but only in film, focussing on Tobey maguire)

Trigonometry

Biology

HTTYD (but not as much as my bestie @grey-loves-dragons )

Umbrella academy

B99

Good place

Sitcoms in general

Squid games

Currently I am so excited for:

Big mouth season 8

Squid games season 2

Exam season to be done

TFB tour dates drop!!!

Fav mutuals:

@grey-loves-vikings @nick-the-dog @andrewgloubermanfr

for anyone, who thinks aromanticism isn't a thing:

there's nothing het about this aro

Being aromantic, asexual, or aspec in any amount does not make you inhuman, sick, or in need of treatment. You are wonderful as you are

Context: [Link 1, Link 2]

this is something that’s been lost as common knowledge both since the drop off of anti-ace discourse and directly Because of it ever having been a thing in the first place, but in light of recent published bigotry pointed at aspecs (aces And aros) gaining attention I think this is something that bares emphasizing:

this reaction isn’t new, it’s something we’ve seen from conservatives for decades now.

a commonly accepted talking point is that conservative christians Must love aspec people, because they represent the theoretical ideal of abstinence. it’s something that I see even from spaces that Aren’t using it as a weapon against aspecs, and in a vacuum it makes sense as an Assumption.

but the thing it misses is that conservative christians do not think asexual and aromantic people Are Real. when they idolize abstinence it’s as a great sacrifice that one makes to defeat the Universal Demon Of Lust. and, more importantly, It’s Something That’s Supposed To End. you’re Supposed to get into a nice heterosexual christian marriage and have lots of little babies that you take to your nice heterosexual christian church, repeated ad infinitum.

and moreover, both christians and popular society In General see our ability for romantic love as The Thing That Makes Humans Human.

so you introduce the concept of people who Don’t experience either of those things and you get two reactions.

1: horror. the “this is a mental/physical illness that desperately needs to be fixed” approach. the idea is monstrous or pitiable but always revolting. they Believe that you live this way, but they don’t believe that it’s something that a “normal” human being could experience or that it’s something that someone could be Happy experiencing.

2: Suspicion. they don’t believe that asexuality or aromanticism Is Real, therefore it Must be a coverup for something even more revolting than is being lead on. it’s not unlike the idea that any feminine or non-threatening trait in a guy (Any guy) is Really just him trying to lure women into a false sense of security by Being seemingly non-threatening, and is therefore even More suspicious as a potential threat.

we’ve Always seen “well if he doesn’t want to fuck humans then I’ll Bet He Wants To Fuck Something Else” and pedophilia accusations/implications. they don’t see aspecs as Pure and Holy, they see them as a threat either to their understanding of what humans can be or as a wolf in sheep’s clothing trying to get away with something.

this is hardly even the first time that aspecs have been presented this way in published news articles or tv. the difference is that public awareness of asexuality and aromanticism has shifted, and with it the bigotry that was always there is being amplified.

that said, I think it’s important to emphasize that this isn’t new, considering the history of erasure ace and aro people have experienced when trying to talk about said bigotry.

I don’t necessarily think this post needs “evidence” (especially with the fox news article already linked above), but for the sake of illustration lets turn back the clock to 2015 for one of the examples I have saved [Link]