I'm so vanilla, but making dinner for myself and my husband feels so rewarding. Him saying how delicious it tastes, just the act of cooking when I slow down and do it mindfully, the outcome of eating something you made. Even something just like mac & cheese.
Enjoy the mundane things.
My focus/theme for the year of 2025:
My desire is to focus on being grateful for what I have and trying to break my terrible habit of wanting more. No more window shopping online, no more visiting store sites for "fun", no more tossing something because it has a scratch on it. Unless it is unusable, it will be cherished and used until it can no longer serve its purpose.
This goes for most consumables and long-term purchases. I want to be more purposeful with my purchases - I want to buy things that are good quality and meant to last. I don't want to be persuaded to buy something because it is an "upgrade" to what I already own.
I also want to fix the items I have and learn to repair them instead of simply tossing them without attempting to find out why it isn't working first.
I want to learn to be grateful for the things I have. I want to be more aware of my spending habits and what I already own. I want to be less of a consumer, honestly. In a reasonable matter.
There are many ways to deal with fear.
Fear has certain limiting assumptions. Find those parts and fix them.
For example, imagine you are dreaming right now. Imagine being able to change the past, change the present, and change the attitudes and perspectives of others at will when unwanted situations arise. What if so? Of course, even if it is possible, you may feel fear, etc. But, what if you could actually do it and actually do it, even if you're afraid? Imagine this.
This is a way to change your mind into a state where you feel joy, pleasure, love, and freedom. If you switch to this state and you're feeling that way, even though you feel fear, it's not as strong and dominant as it was before. In this state, try focusing more on joy, freedom, and fun that are not related to fear. Then the fear will be forgotten as if it never existed in the first place, and you will only notice later that the fear is gone.
This can be done by doing or imagining something that you enjoy and like.
Try using ho'oponopono or the Sedona method (release technique). However, in my experience this is a very long and slow method. It takes a long time. Of course, it is quick and effective once you master it, but it seems to be an inconvenient and tedious task that takes at least several months.
Try to induce hyperventilation through Wimhoff breathing techniques or holotropic breathing techniques. When this condition occurs, senses and reason become paralyzed. At the same time, various thoughts disappear.
There is no need for any special training, just inhale and exhale quickly for a few minutes or more.
Focus on your inner background, inner silence, or the gap between your thoughts. At first, you may feel random thoughts, but if you keep paying attention to them and pay attention, at some point you will feel peace, joy, etc. It's like focusing more on the sound you want amidst noise.
However, in my experience, this method takes a long time to master. It appears that it will take at least several months to strengthen this feeling of peace to the point where it overwhelms fears and other factors.
Unlike the fourth hyperventilation, this is simply breathing deeply and comfortably. I have discovered that anxiety or fear is not actually caused by any belief or situation, but simply by habitually being tense and breathing shallowly. Of course, your nervousness or shallow breathing may have started with anxious or fearful thoughts. However, that is not a direct cause, but just a secondary cause.
Once you begin to practice this breathing comfortably, deeply, and consciously for more than a few minutes, you will discover that the thoughts that made you feel anxious or fearful are in fact irrelevant. At least it's not as intense as before.
I recommend the sixth method of breathing comfortably and the second method of pleasant imagination. Then, naturally, the first belief correction also occurs.