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Honesty Time 🎀

I have not had the motivation or energy to do much since my break started. I’ve done a good amount of cleaning around my room and the house, but that feels like all I’ve been doing lately. I keep making these goals for myself o get out of the house and be active and productive and I had hope that I’d stay consistent this week but all I’ve done is rot in bed and do close to nothing. I feel like I have no motivation to leave my house or workout or do anything. If I could drive, maybe it would be a different story but I don’t like feeling like this. I have goals to achieve and I’ve been doing close to nothing to actually achieve them.

I’m trying to find ways to motivate myself either internally or externally but it’s hard. My only goal for today is to start taking my health meds and supplements again and take a walk outside. I feel like achieving that would be a good start. I don’t know what the purpose of this mini vent was but if anything, could someone recommend me some tips or advice to stay motivated or find motivation to start doing things again?

I thought my challenge would be enough but all I’ve even doing is feeling guilty for my lack of doing things, if that makes sense. Today will be different. Today I will do something, anything, to get myself going in the right direction again. I know it’s the little things that count, so I’m going to remind myself that even the smallest step forward is a step in the right direction.

also, could anyone recommend me some good it girl podcasts or decent Ted talks, or just media and entertainment that would be useful to my life? Health, fitness, nutrition, productivity content. I want to start nourishing my brain without having to stare at as screen too much.

til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 28-29: 90 Day Challenge 🎀

For yesterday (Wednesday) and today, I've done very close to absolutely nothing due to immense lack of sleep and trying to recover from all the exhaustion of being unable to sleep properly.

I knee this challenge wasn't going to be easy all the time, but after napping a bit today and working out my daily tasks and schedules for the next week, I'm feeling confident about tomorrow. I've decided to incorporate a lot more health and wellness activities into my daily routines, especially since I am unable to take my mental health medications due to insurance issues. I figure it is up to me to take charge of my health, sort of as it's own side challenge to keep myself healthy and stable and sane.

Insurance issues aside, I plan to budget for bi weekly therapy sessions, as even without medication, therapy has been life changing for me and luckily I can still see my therapist for a reduced price per session.

This challenege will be a bit more wellness, health and overall productivity based moving forward until the semester starts again which will lead it to be more school/intellectual focused.

I am definitely tasked with a heavy load of mental and physical self work, but these next 5 weeks of low stress and low priorities will give me the building tools I need.

til next time lovelies 🩷

Self Care Apppointment Recommendations?

I remember seeing a list of different self care appointments that girl could schedule as like a bi weekly, monthly type of thing and I can't find it anywhere! So I'm hoping I can find some help!

I want to start making myself more of a priority as I feel that it will definitely kickstart some good self love and self care habits that'll help me feel better about myself mentally and physically. I want to put money into myself, my health, and my appearance.

Things I already know about and am looking into:

nail appointments

lash extensions

getting my hair cut/colored/done

workout/pilates classes

But what else? Of course I'm going to budget for these appointments and whatnot but I can't think of anything else?? I'm looking for different self care/beauty upkeep ideas!!

Please leave me some recommendations for different types of things I can purchase/do!! it would be so helpful. My brain doesn't let me think half the time, so that's why I come here so often!

Thanks in advance lovelies 🩷

Recommendations? 🎀

Hey lovelies <3

Let's help some girlies out by commenting or reblogging with your favorite self care products! Could be skincare, makeup, hair care, body care, etc! I'm always looking for some new products/tools to try so I thought this would be a good way to spread some helpful info!

Here's a few of my favorites:

🩷 Skincare:

I love face masks and eye masks! My current favorite face mask is the Red Bean Pore Refreshing Face Mask by Beauty of Joseon and my favorite eye masks are The Creme Shop Work Hard Rest Hard eye masks!

🩷 Body Care

body scrubs/body butters! I love using two similar scents together! For the summer, I use Tree Hurt Tropic Glow scrub and body butter and for winter I use Dove Exfoliating Scrub in Brown Sugar and the EOS Vanilla Cahsmete Lotion.

🩷 Hair Care

No specific product recommendations for this, but I love oiling my scalp twice a week! It makes my hair feel and look so beautiful! I currently use The Ordinary Moroccan Argan Oil and I use a scalp massager to gently massage the oil onto my scalp after applying it with warm fingers.

Hair Masks!!! I love the Shea Mositure Raw Shea Butter Hydration Mask so much, I use it with conditioner on my hair oiling days and my hair has never looked better.

🩷 Makeup

I love the Essence Tinted Brow Gel because even if I don't do much makeup, it makes me feel and look a little more put together.

Same goes for the Ulta Beauty Gel Eyeliner in Dark Brown, it makes me look and feel so much better some days, and it's not super bold like liquid liner so I don't feel the need to use Mascara.

Lip Oils!!! Milani Fruit Fetish and Elf Revive are my two favorites!! I have Milani In Cherry Lime and Elf in Jam Session. So moisturizing and a bit tinted so it makes me feel so good when I have it on. Even when I wear a bare face, I always use one of these to elevate my look!

🩷 Miscellaneous

Vitamin/Mineral supplements! I only take ones I know will work for me or ones I'm deficient in. I currently take Vitamin D3 and Aple Cider Vinegar supplements but I am looking into taking Magnesium Gylcinate and Ashwagandha soon as well!

Self care hobbies and routines! My gentle morning routine, journaling, yoga, a wind down night routine, and reading informative books has been so helpful for me!

I'm personally looking for hair growth tips and tools (like the efficiency of silk hair wraps or silk pillow cases, hair growth oils and supplements, etc), any and all skincare tips and tools (like ice face rollers, are gua sha effective, etc), and even body care products recommendations as well!!

I hope this post helps others out too, with everyone sharing their products recs, tips, advice, favorites, and so on!

Til next time lovelies 🩷

Day 27: 90 Day Challenge 🎀

yesterday was a pretty good day. However, I only slept 4 hours last night due to late night caffiene intake, and I am feeling it this morning. Hopefully, I'll be able to get some stuff done today and now rot in bed all day.

🏋‍♀️ Physical Health

gym glute day for 1.5 hours

walked home 25+ minutes

cooked pita bread pizzas for the first time (delicious!)

🧠 Mental Health

I dont remember if I did anything for my mental health yesterday, but I don't think I did

♥️ Emotional Health

again, can't recall anything specific at the moment

📚 Intellectual Health

I know for a fact I did nothing for my intellectual health yesterday even tho I know I gotta start doing something for it

🏘 Adulting

went to brunch with my dad

got my unemployment account unlocked

applied for unemployment

bought groceries

picked up some paperwork from my job about the temporary unemployment

video called my boyfriend

rescheduled two night meeting with my mentors

🥰 Self Love/Care

morning skincare

I litteraly can't remember anything right now omg

my brain feels like it's malfunctioning right now due to lack of sleep and whatnot. If I remember anything else from yesterday, I will edit this post to add to it. get your beauty sleep, girlies, cause lack of sleep is no fun!!

til next time lovelies 🩷

Girlies, help!

I want to get my nails done soon since I'm on break from work and school and I can't decide what color!!! I'm torn between four colors, so help a girly out! I'm going for a coquette, feminine esque nail set but idk if I want light feminine, dark feminine, super girly. I just need to pick a color first! I will be getting some form of a design as well, but I need a color to stick with!! thank you <333

***short medium almond OR medium coffin shape

This seems like a cute idea! Go for it, to anyone who feels like it! Thank you, lovelies 🩷

Reblog if you want one of these in your ask box:

•A compliment

•A story

•Why you follow me

•A cute message

•One thing you want to tell me

•One thing you want to know about me

Daily Check-in Septmeber 14th, 2023 🎀

This was a good day. Busy, absolutely, but good nonetheless. Had a meeting with my 1st dietetics mentor, and she was absolutely the sweetest and sent me an email after our meeting about the projects she wants me to work on currently, as her mentee. Cannot wait to meet my 2nd mentor next week! Also, I got asked to go into work, so I pulled a 6.5-hour shift when I didn't need to, but I need money so it's worth it.

🩷 What I Ate Today -

Breakfast - tuna w mayo and crackers

Lunch - iced coffee, chicken parm, noodles, one garlic bread, some asparagus

Dinner - chik fil a sandwich, medium fries, polynesian sauce

Extra - 3 more coffees in addition to the one I had at lunch

I am overconsuming caffiene so much right now, but I have been understandably so tired, so it's definitely helping me get through my days and weeks right now. I also genuinely enjoy the taste of the coffee I make, so that's always fun. I did just but a matcha set online, so hopefully, I can learn to make my own matcha and cut back on coffee for a bit.

🩷 Personal Achievements -

Attended RD meeting

Had my therapy appointment

Planned out part of my upcoming week/weekend

Studied Japanese for ~15 min

I did not accomplish almost anything school related, but that's okay because I'll have the time to do it all this weekend after work both days.

🩷 Todo for Today -

take Fitness For Health and Sport lecture notes

call embroidery place about dropping off my cooking class's chef coat

Video call with my boyfriend

Complete my Sample nutrition log assignment + submit it (if I have the time)

Study Japanese 10+ minutes

Because of how busy my schedule has been, I've been studying Japanese daily about 10 to 15 minutes a day. I'm starting to remember the hiragana characters pretty well so I've started jotting down vocabulary in a mini notebook.

🩷 Song of the Day - Social Path by Stray Kids, LiSa

This song is on repeat right now. I've always loved both their music and now that they've collabed, I'm on cloud 9. They're voices all sound so good in this song.

That's all for now! Will not be updating the 15th due to working the night shift at my job but will update for the 15th and 16th on Saturday night!

Til next time, lovelies 🩷

Daily Check-in - August 13th, 2023 🎀

I forgot to post my check in last night, but here it is! There may or may not be an update for August 14th later tonight, I'm not sure yet. I will be posting an updated goals/habits list today, and an updated workout split layer this week.

Work has been a bit tiring but I am so happy to be back at my original job with my people. I really enjoy the atmosphere where I work. However, I did get a migraine in the morning at work, so that was not fun. I've been keeping up with my routines a bit so I am proud of myself for that!

🩷 What I Ate Today -

Breakfast - Two slices of thick brioche style white bread with slices of cheddar cheese and scrambled eggs.

Dinner - Homemade cheeseburge with two slices of bacon, lettuce, and ketchup, and a side of steak fries.

Snacks - Two cups of coffee with one sweet n low each and French vanilla creamer, one quesadilla

Sometimes, I feel like I've overeaten in a day, but after I type it out, it doesn't look like I've eaten as much as I used to? Being super busy at work also helps with that since I don't get hungry when working and I'm unable to snack mindlessly at work.

🩷 Workout - Stretching

I wanted to take it easy aince I have been tired from work, so I chose to do this video, and I really liked it! I had to modify some of the movements as I am incredibly stiff and inflexible, but it felt very nice on the body regardless.

🩷 Habits I Accomplished Today -

Made my bed

Morning and Night Skincare

Morning Guided Journal

Read 1 Chapter of a Book

Morning Workout

Stretched

I feel like I've got my.morning routine pretty figured out now, as in what things I want to include and things I still feel like I should be including. I'd still call this a step in the right direction!

🩷 Song of the Day: New Jeans by NewJeans

This song is a bit short but super catchy and makes me feel like I can strut myself on a hot girl walk. I really like how just feminine and hot this song makes me feel. I wouldn't call myself a NewJeans stan but they have an amazing discography and 90% of their songs are a hit for me.

🩷 Current Read - Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller

Took the attachment style quiz on myself and it is exactly what I thought! I have an anxious attachment style that does lean secure at times given the current situations in my relationship. Also pretty sure I have an avoidant attachment style when it comes to friendships as I have trouble maintaining friendships in general but don't necessarily see that as some grand issue.

That's all for the day!

Til tomorrow, lovelies! 🩷

Quick Update - July 30, 2023 🎀

I will not be posting check-ins for today or yesterday, as I have had an emotionally charged, difficult weekend, and I just want to focus on the week ahead and get back on routine.

Thank you, guys, for understanding. I'll post my next check in tomorrow night, and I think I'll post my current morning routine sometime this week as well!!

Til next time 🩷

Daily Check-in - July 28, 2023 (Late) 🎀

I forgot to post my check-in last night!! I fell asleep so early, I was so tired. I got home from work around 5pm last night, and I think I fell asleep around 7pm? Yesterday also was not a good day day for. My supervisor yelled at me in front of everyone for asking a question about work on Saturday, and it's now Saturday morning, and I have no answer. I decided not to go to work today because I feel like my.body can't really handle if right now, so it works out either way.

🩷 What I Ate Today:

Breakfast - One slice of toast with mashed avocado, paprik, a fried egg, and a side of one chopped up gala apple.

Lunch - A small serving of spaghetti with meat marinara sauce, grated parmesean cheese, some broccoli, a babybel, and half a brownie that my co worker gave me.

Dinner - Fried potato slices with ketchup I regret this, but today's a new day and a chance to make new choices

Other - I had 2 cups of coffee with French vanilla creamer

Water ~ 41oz

🩷 Workout - Full Body Pilates

This one was nice and easy and I really enjoyed it ! I actually wish it was longer! 9.4/10

This one was really good, but it was way more advanced than I was hoping it would be, so I struggled a bit with some of the movements. Not a bad workout at all! 8.6/10

🩷 Habits I Accomplished Today

Made my bed

Morning workout

Morning Skincare

Morning guided journal

I fell asleep so fast after work that I didn't even have time to do anything. I'm not very happy about that but I guess my body just needed the rest!

🩷 Song of the Day: Calm Down - Rema ft Selena Gomez

This song keeps me level-headed when it comes to situations at work or with my boyfriend, and just in general, I feel like this is a soothing song.

That's all for the 28th, lovelies! I am so sorry that I've been so inconsistent with my goals. Work has been killing me, and I still have to do this for another two weeks before the university begins again, and I can go back to my regular job and regular schedule. I'm just hanging in there until then!

Until next time, lovelies!!

Daily Check-in - July 27, 2023 🎀

Today was easier than yesterday, but I am still so sleepy and tired. I have to work a full shift tomorrow AND Saturday on top of my weekend chores so I'm hoping to take Sunday as a full self care day! Fingers crossed!!

🩷 What I Ate Today:

Breakfast - One slice of toast with mashed avocado, paprika, a fried egg, and a side of watermelon, and one cup of coffee.

Lunch - ground beef burrito bowl with black beans, shredded cheese, chopped iceberg lettuce, sour cream, salsa, and a low carb tortilla.

Dinner - One plate of spaghetti with meat marinara sauce, grated parmesean cheese, and two pieces of buttered bread

Other - One cup of coffee with French vanilla creamer

Water ~ 30oz I just forgot to drink water today, but using my water bottle has gotten easier and helped me drink more during the work day.

I didn't feel like snacking much today, and I couldn't finish my lunch, but I am very satisfied with my intake today! I love eating healthier and listening to my body. I do track what I eat, but I make sure it's food I like! Given my past, I can't do restrictions, so I choose to honor my wants in a way that works towards my goals and nourishes both my mind and body.

🩷 Workout - Upper Body Pilates (ish)

This one was really good! It was my first time trying it and it had my arms burning in a good way. I really enjoyed it, and I totally recommend. This is definitely going to be a regular of mine! 10/10

This one has been a favorite for a few years, I absolutely love the way it makes my arms feel. The movements are easy and effective, and leave me sore in a good way. Absolutely my favorite lean arms workout, hands down! 11/10

🩷 Habits I Completed Today:

Made my bed

Morning & Night Skincare

Morning & Night Guided Journal

Read 1 Chapter of a book

Workout

I forgot to do my mediation and stretching, and I didn't meet my hydration goal, but I'm taking every day in stride and doing what my energy allows me to accomplish. I believe in self compassion and flexibility in routine, especially given how my energy fluctuates on a daily basis. However, I am definitely doing the full habits list tomorrow, I'm going to challenge myself to accomplish every daily goal I have for myself!

🩷 Song of The Day: Eleven - IVE

This song makes me feel like a badass princess who deserves only the highest level of princess treatment. It's hard to describe how feminine and girly this song makes me feel, even on my most tomboyish, sweaty work days. An absolute bop!!

🩷 Current Read: Atomic Habits by James Clear

Tomorrow, I can do this. I can meet my goals, all of them. It'll take some effort, but I have faith in myself. Once I get the ball rolling, it's just a matter of forward motion with accomplishing each of my goals. I can't wait!!

I also need to budget for next Saturday, as I'm going shopping for some new clothes before my university opens back up for the fall semester. If I'm gonna feel my best, I'm going to look my best too! I'm really hoping to get a few new dresses, accessories (like hair stuff, pantyhose, jelwery, purses, etc), shoes, and maybe some tops and skirts too depending on what the store has. I love shopping, so I'm super excited!!!

Til tomorrow, my lovelies!! <3

Daily Check-in - July 23, 2023 🎀

Today was an interesting day, and it's not over yet! Though I do need to go to bed a bit early, since I'm waking up at 4:00am during the weekdays. I'm very satisfied with the things I did today, and I still have plans to do some more of my daily habits.

🩷 What I Ate Today:

Breakfast - Iced Coffee, One gala apple (chopped), One banana (chopped), One serving of peanut butter

Lunch - Salad, topped with Tuna (mixed with avocado oil mayo), small pieces of sharp cheddar cheese, and shredded carrots, and one bolillo roll

Dinner - One bowl of spaghetti with marinara sauce, a bit of parmesean cheese, and one bolillo roll with butter

Snack - One bowl of watermelon

Other - Two cups of iced coffee with French vanilla creamer

Water ~ 24oz I need to utilize my new water bottle and drink more water on the weekends

🩷 Workout - Stretching

I love this nightly stretch routine, especially because I can do it in bed right before I go to sleep! It really relaxes the body and helps me sleep better!

🩷 Habits I Accomplished Today

Made my bed this morning

Did my skincare

Guided journal morning and night

Stretch 5 - 10+ min before bed

Read 30+ min OR 10+ pages of a book

🩷 Song of the Day: I AM - IVE

🩷 Current Read: Atomic Habits by James Clear

Day One has been a success, in my opinion. I look forward to waking up early and working out tomorrow morning, and the Greek yogurt bowl for breakfast I'm going to have! It's the little things that make the journey beautiful!

Love you all!! 🩷