Latest Posts by insomnias-angel - Page 3

I love you people with PPD, I love you people with SPD, I love you people with StPD, I love you people with AsPD, I love you people with BPD, I love you people with HPD, I love you people with NPD, I love you people with AvPD, I love you people with DPD, I love you people with OCPD.

I love you paranoids, I love you schizoids, I love you schizotypals, I love you antisocials. I love you borderlines, I love you histrionics, I love you narcissists, I love you avoidants, I love you dependents, I love you obsessive-compulsives.

I love anyone and everyone with a personality disorder. These disorders are so heavily stigmatized. We need more love in the community.

i wish there were sparkly otherkin nightclubs that serve drinks named after david bowie and everyone on the dance floor is wearing a tail and all the gods sit at the bar sipping liquid gold and the vampires slink around in the dark corners hiding from the break of dawn and the zombies languish in the VIP lounge but idk

Puki will you leave tumblr because everyone’s acting like it’s dead now :(

oh yeah its SO dead.

1000 notes this post. Now

oh to frolic around and spin and twirl in a large empty ballroom, with rose petals on the floor, while wearing a dark gown, as dramatic music plays in the background bouncing off the walls, making this your moment

There has been a massive increase in the amount of hate and ableism towards people with tourettes that is accepted.

It is now considered socially acceptable and seen as ok to mock, "fake claim," and insult people with tourettes. It is seen as ok to harm us, even by other disabled people.

I have had people close to me make a mockery of my disability. People who have said to my face they think tics are cute or said I looked weird. People who have mocked my tics in front of me. People who have made it clear that my struggles are a joke to them.

Tourettes is a real disability. A scary, dangerous disability to live with. Tourettes has hurt people. Tourettes has killed people.

It is not just saying inappropriate words and giggling about it afterwards. I've gotten bruises from tic attacks. I've spent nights laying in bed, with my head surrounded by pillows, unable to do anything other than accept that I'm gonna get hurt and wait for it to be over.

Tourettes is not cute. It's not fun. It's not something to mock.

It is traumatic. It is painful. It is debilitating.

Please, treat it that way.

Stop partaking in minimizing how serious this disability is. Stop allowing people to bully those with tourettes and mock the disability. Stop fake claiming or asking for "proof" that someone is suffering.

This shouldn't be seen as ok. This shouldn't be so commonly accepted.

HUGE FUCKING REMINDER

“delulu” is not funny or cute. it is an insult to actual delusional people/beasts. DO NOT say it. it is gross

“so psycho” is also NOT funny or cute. it again is a HUGE slap in the face to actual psychotic people/beasts.

a few examples of dumb terms they are disgusting and insulting. if you say them you don’t support the mental ill

Lost a friend today because he refused to listen about how harmful the concept of narcissistic abuse is, despite knowing I have NPD and that I'm a victim of the exact same kind of abuse he was (literally, he described my experience down to the letter).

He was one of my and my partner's closest friends, so today has been really rough.

Please listen to people with NPD about how this harms us. We're neurodivergent people with a largely traumagenic disorder, usually from abuse and/or neglect. We're not monsters, predisposed towards an abusive nature, or capable of a unique kind of abuse. We're just people who struggle with self-esteem because we base our ego primarily on our perception of what others think of us.

We're not saying this can never influence toxic behaviors, we're just pointing out that that's not more true of our disorder any more than any other health condition, from autism and ADHD to OCD to PTSD to addiction to eating disorders to bipolar to depression to anxiety.

We're also not trying to take language from other abuse victims. We're asking you to not be ableist (a form a structured societal abuse) towards other abuse victims. Call it what it is: emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is such a wider category than people realize, and it's important to talk about that. I hear what people are saying when they say they're wanting to describe a specific subtype of emotional abuse, so let's make words for that!

Manipulative abuse, coercive abuse, gaslighting abuse, guilt-tripping abuse, even safety abuse - that last for when people use their own mental health state and threaten self harm or suicide to get their way.

These can all be factors in emotional abuse - what's commonly described as narc abuse is what's standard for emotional abuse, involving a wide variety of tactics to exert control in the absence of physical or sexual abuse - which also can and usually are partly emotional in nature as well.

I'd love to open a conversation about terms that better describe what we went through! I'm just asking that we don't use the ones that further demonize a badly misunderstood disorder, and that people be willing to recognize that their understanding of it is based on a LOT of misinformation.

Just, please, listen to us. Be willing to be open-minded. We aren't your abusers, and we know that you deserved better and deserve a chance to heal to the fullest extent possible. We do too. Please, help make a safe space for us all to do so together.

NPD Resources Masterlist

The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.

Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.

Diagnostic criteria

NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it

Official diagnostic criteria

An explanation of the diagnostic criteria

Recovery resources FOR the narcissist

NPD recovery resources

How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist

Narcissist supply

What is narc supply?

Things that can give a narcissist supply

NPD stigma

The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them

Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)

A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)

Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive

Debunking common myths on NPD

Common disproven myths about NPD

Miscellaneous

How to support someone with NPD

NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)

Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response

NPD terminology (do's and dont's)

NPD safe blogs

@empath-abuse-awareness

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@narcissisticpdcultureis

@nicepersondisorder

@theegosystem

@mischiefmanifold

NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever

Happy NPD appreciation day

Positivity for systems with NPD

Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love

NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)

Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful

Positivity for narcissists who like sex

I love my narcissists

Aromantic narcissists are amazing

Narcissists I love you

Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think <;3)

Narcissists deserve to be loved

As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)

Edit: If you have any resources, please send them to me through an ask or DM and i'll check it out/add it!

for me, it was similar.

from my 'fallen angel' side, my wings were ripped from me as punishment for not being the ideal angel, to which i was banished away from heaven, almost pushed off from there. however, rather than being sent to hell, i was sentenced to a "purgatory" of sorts, which is here, this place on this earth.

from my 'god/deity' side, it was a similar story, with the only difference being that i was seen as an unworthy deity, one that's corrupt, with others not liking me

neither of these had corrupted me (maybe because i was already corrupt?), rather it only scarred me.

i still have retained parts of my divinity, though i am still stuck in this purgatory

hope this makes sense!

alright so fallen angel describes the fall from grace. Though to some individuals its taken literally - angels falling through the sky. Some art depicts broken/burnt wings

Me personally - i didnt fall. My wings (my holiness) were ripped from me as a punishment and it corrupted me, changing me from my angelic form to my demonic, and i was banished to "Hell."

how did yall experience your fall from grace? (Both pychological/spiritual/etc kins welcome to share)

FEMA is doing an emergency alert test on all TVs, radios, and cell phones on October 4, 2023, at approximately 2:20pm ET.

If you live in the US and you have a phone you need to keep secret for any reason, make sure that it is turned off at this time.

Yes, I'm doing this months in advance, and yes, my blog has very little reach, but I figure better to post about it more than less.

Please reblog and add better tags than mine, I'm bad at tags.

sobbing and crying, dedf1sh is real,,,

my friend is experiencing non-binarity and are actively experimenting with it and describing their experiences with me, and i just feel like a proud parent, like, you go fam!!! challenge the gender!!!!!

i've seen people talk about this, and from that perspective it kinda makes sense i'd say? though there are some things id point out

first of all, from just quickly browsing the splatoon wiki and going over the splatfest wins (if i am reading them correctly), other idols have had similar streaks to what shiver has going on right now, and at least i don't recall there being this much backlash (but at the same time, just like you mentioned, two teams get upset at the same time, instead of just one team, so i guess that's where the extra uproar is coming from) but this isn't really the first time that this has happened? with callie going in a 6 win streak in north america, and marina going on a 6 win streak as well in japan and a win streak of 7 in europe

and just to say that, idols have already been on long win streaks, even with regional voting, though i can still see how the worldwide tallying probably is/could be an issue, though i doubt that anything at this point is gonna be done to it at this point, it's already been implemented for a whole year, i doubt that they are going to suddenly change that whole thing, so sure, maybe some transparency of how the votes are split could work? not sure for the fix of it... but i feel like we just have to get used to this system now

and with the shiver being the fan-favourite... for one, i do hope people realize that it isn't, just, about picking the idols? i mean sure, some people definitely do that, no doubt about it, but i genuinely believe that the majority of the player base picks for the theme, like the amount of people that are always conflicted when a new theme drops is hefty, just going to show that, if it were for the idol, they would've just gone with that idol, but instead are genuinely conflicted with what team to pick, so if shiver gets the popular vote, well then so be it, clearly most people preferred that theme over the rest (though i will admit, some of the choices are rather questionable, i mean who would pick nessie over aliens? /hj)

that's all to say that, while i do somewhat understand the perspective, and the fact that all these things can pile up, it is still a bit confusing to me, as to why these results are being taken so seriously, since, at least from my perspective, like, is it because people are so heavily invested in that game? if so, why? is it like a special interest type of thing, a comfort game, etc. or is it something else

(also apologies if anything sounds incohesive, it's rather late and i'm tired lol)

on a semi related note? why are people getting genuinely mad? i am seriously curious

and it doesn't have to be related to be this splatfest, i mean like, for all splatfests, why are people getting this angry

on a MUCH more positive note though.. hearing maritime memory and daybreaker anthem in the lobbies is just... so serene

on a semi related note? why are people getting genuinely mad? i am seriously curious

and it doesn't have to be related to be this splatfest, i mean like, for all splatfests, why are people getting this angry

splatfest? more like shitfest, am i right..?

watching the salt just absolutely pouring in is very funny and wild, but at the same time, it gets to the point where it is very concerning

like, guys, can y'all like, stop calling people racist over not letting a character in a video game win, or even better yet, stop blaming japanese players for your team's loss??? or calling specifically japanse players racist?????? like just some friendly advice, just don't? do that????

i hoped for big man to win but well shucks we lost, shiver won again, and so what? i don't have to have a fucking fit and blaming whoever the fuck over fictional characters not winning a thing?????? you are genuinely being irrational, i hope you know that

idc if your little team in a video game lost and you're not happy about the results, if you're publicly freaking out over it, you are actively part of the problem of making the community a salty toxic shithole

i've seen so much miku content all over social media today and it's actually making me so emotional like. the way fans and producers and artists alike all reference each other..... everything that makes vocaloid special is built from community. a famous producer whose songs you grew up with is likely to have the same feelings about another artist's work. miku's birthday is as much of a celebration of the character as it's a celebration of nostalgia and the fandom's creativity, because miku wouldn't be where she is without us and we're lucky to have her-

ITS MIKU DAY!!!!!! EVERYONE SAY HAPPY BIRTHDAY HATSUNE MIKU!!!! SHES GOING ON HER SWEET 16!!!!!!!!!!!

Friends I am once again asking you to stop reblogging shit like "reblog for luck" or "reblog in 5 min or something bad will happen" etc etc it literally preys on OCD and paranoia and mine spirals when I see this shit so please stop reblogging it I'm begging you

am i being haunted rn?? all the electronics and lights just flickered hard out of nowhere, my wifi even went down fully

my paranoia aint helping the fact now that rn its dark and quiet

npd otherkin culture is actually being god/deitykin due to psychological reasons linked to my npd and feeling hurt when people say "god/deitykin dni." like i'm sorry that i'm mentally ill? i don't know what you want me to do about that.

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messages for those with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HPD

you are loved, valued, and important.

the people in your life care about you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

i'm glad you're here today.

your needs matter. your feelings matter. your limits matter.

NEVER feel bad for doing jack shit. if you didn't get anything done today, that's wonderful. and I love you.

Aside from my seething and raging I will say that I fucking love narcissists. You do not deserve the way the world treats you. You do not deserve being looked down on and shat on and dehumanized and threatened merely for having a traumatic condition beyond your control. You are good and there are people who love you. And I know it hurts sometimes, but that is okay. It’s not your fault. You are not a monster. You are not an abuser. You are not evil or cruel nor are you some unstable unhinged child or whatever other ugly things others or your own brain wants to tell you. I love you, you deserve safety, and there’s always gonna be people in your corner fighting for and fighting alongside you.

big shoutout to disabled people who smell bad. disabled people who cannot shower regularly. disabled people who sweat a lot and it causes them to smell bad. disabled people who cannot apply deodorant due to mobility restrictions. disabled people who cannot do laundry regularly or at all, and end up wearing dirty clothes for a long time. disabled people who cannot clean their living space, and thus end up smelling bad themselves. disabled people who have any condition or disability that causes body odor. and any other disabled people who smell bad for reasons i didn't mention. i see you and i love you.

(this post is for all disabled people, including mental and physical disabilities)

am i the only one to consider horror movies (and in due, some horror games) not scary? and instead just outright gross? like, why are you covering the screen in blood and gutting everyone on screen, it's so unnecessary, you're being dramatic

My fellow narcissists (people who have NPD) are one of the most loyal, resilient, and straightforward people I’ve met in my life. I know that our disorder is terribly misunderstood but here’s a reminder that we don’t have to align with unfair treatment pwPDs receive within the mental health advocacy community.

It’s okay to love your narcissism, it’s okay to appreciate the positive and beneficial attributes and qualities it gives us. A lot of us are incredibly protective of our friends, more than a non-NPD individual will ever be - because our disorder makes us so. A lot of us are helpful and incredibly caring individuals because of our NPD, and those closest to us can feel this blanket of care and protection settling over them. A lot of us are self-sacrificial (shocker.) because of our NPD, passionate because of it, or have other pleasant, beneficial, good qualities of character amplified because of our NPD.

I’ll make a rough guess and say that one of the most pleasant people you’ll ever meet are probably narcissists, because it benefits us to be liked, not all of us thrive off negative attention. So, hold your sanism. And to my fellow pwNPD, I love you.

Shoutout to people who who can't spell

Shoutout to people with with bad grammar

Shoutout to people who use AAC to type but you can't tell by looking

Shoutout to people who use AAC to type and and you can tell by looking

Shoutout to people people who type different because is is more comfortable

Shoutout to people who type different because is is only way way way they can

Shoutout to people who have be made fun of for for how how how type

Shoutout to anyone and everyone one who type different +, no matter the reason why

i love you disabled people with feeding tubes

i love you disabled people with colostomy bags

i love you disabled people on TPN

i love you disabled people with carers

i love you disabled people with rare disabilities who never see themselves in posts about disabilities

i love you disabled people with high support needs

i love you intellectually and developmentally disabled people

i love you disabled people who live with incontinence, need assistance with hygiene, or have other needs that ableist people consider "gross"

i love you homeless disabled people

i love you fat disabled people

i love you disabled people who use AAC

i love you disabled people who don't see yourselves in other disability positivity posts

i love you.