⋆˚࿔ Weekly Self-care Checklist

April Challenge: Self Boundary Setting

I can't believe it's April already! So for this month I'm going to work on making my life more structured, mostly because I've been so relaxed with myself this past month. I read The Secret History, became obsessed, and started backsliding into really unhelpful behaviour patterns (and of course my therapist is on holiday, so I can't talk about it with her). I've given myself March to wallow in it, but now it's time to be a big kid and get over myself.

1. Bedtime

For the past few months, I've been going to sleep literally whenever, but my wake up times have been chaotic. In an attempt to wrangle that into some semblance of consistency, I will be making my bedtime midnight. No exceptions. I've also done this thing a lot where I lie down, thinking I'd get ready for bed later, and then immediately fall asleep. No more of that. I'm going to avoid this by not allowing myself to lie down until after I'm ready for bed.

2. Intuitive eating

One of the bigger things that bothered me last month was that, somehow, reading that book triggered my disordered eating patterns. This month I'm going to have to set more goals with eating enough, even though I'm in that frustrating part of the cycle where I don't really want to. So here's the plan: I'm going to make a weekly meal plan focussing on getting enough protein and fibre, and then I'll do it, because I told myself I would.

3. Self study

I've got a pretty tough thing going on, what with trying to learn 3 languages and an instrument while studying. Giving enough time to each thing so I can actually progress means I'll have to be focussed for at least 1 hr 45 min a day, not including the two hours every other day I've set aside for my actual uni work. Maybe I'll try a rotation of languages instead (that will cut the self study time down to 45 min), especially when my assignments are closer to due. I'm not sure. Anyway, I'll try the first option to start with.

4. Exercise

I've been in an energy crash all of March, so I haven't exercised this whole time. I need to get back into it now. I've wanted to take fencing classes since I was 14, but was always too sick to... until now. So to accommodate for the fact that the class is 2 hours long, I'll bookend it with rest days, and the rest of the week do half an hour of whatever I feel like. Until the next semester of the fencing class starts (when I'll join), I'll replace it with stretches designed to help with fencing.

˚₊‧꒰ა Good morning, angels!! June’s newsletter is here! I went a little crazy. Let me know if you like the extra stuff, the new layout, et cetera. Enjoy, lovelies! ୨୧˚｡

start romanticising your reading

TLDR: choose your read, curate your space, and engage with the text

About three years ago, I was in the biggest reading slump. It was so bad that it had gotten to the point where I couldn't even read one sentence without picking up my phone to doom-scroll. At that point, I genuinely thought I could never ever get into reading again.

However, when I started romanticising my reading, I was able to finish a whole book in just one week. By romanticising my reading, it was no longer a chore, instead, it felt like an enjoyable experience where I could get lost in the emotions of the story.

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"How do you even romanticise reading?"

step #1 - choosing your read

pick something short and easy to read - a short story, a poetry collection, a graphic novel, an old favourite or comfort read

judge a book by its cover and pick something with a cover-art that interests you

pick something that matches your mood/feeling, here are some of my recommendations: want something gothic and eerie, filled with old secrets? We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson want something bittersweet and nostalgic with heartache? Before the Coffee Gets Cold by Toshikazu Kawaguchi want something empowering and thought-provoking? And Still I Rise by Maya Angelou want something whimsical and soft, filled with dreamy illustrations? Anne of Green Gables: A Graphic Novel by Mariah Marsden, illustrated by Brenna Thummler

step #2 - curate your space

replace your main lights for ambient lighting - fairy lights, candles, salt lamps, mushroom lamps, warm coloured LEDs

turn on some background music to build atmosphere for your book - 90s jazz for classic books, orchestral music for fantasy books

have a drink or snack that you love - I recommend an iced mocha or matcha for summers, and hot chocolate or green tea for winters

sit somewhere comfortable or somewhere that builds atmosphere - I have my bed next to my window which means it's comfortable when I read and I can also hear the crickets during summer nights

step #3 - engage with the text

use coloured pens or markers to highlight or underline your favourite quotes, and you can even assign different colours to different emotions

stick custom bookmarks or themed stickers to mark meaningful chapters or sections

start a collection jar with paper notes of your favourite quotes that you can read at the end of the year - you can write down the page, chapter, and book so you can always go back to where these quotes came from

jot down your current thoughts and feelings about certain chapters and sections so you can revisit the book in the future to see how your thoughts and interpretations have evolved over time - I like to date these annotations so I know exactly when I wrote my annotations

Remember that progress is still progress, even if it's small 🧸

Why You Need a “Hot Girl Reset” Every Single Week

by Soleau Club

If you’re trying to look good, feel good, and live a life that’s giving main character on a yacht in Capri—you need a weekly reset.

Not want. Need.

Because no matter how hot, healed, or high-functioning you are, life gets chaotic. Your skincare piles up, your inbox is scary, and you forget who you are mid-week (been there, babe).

That’s where the Hot Girl Reset comes in.

So, What Even Is a Hot Girl Reset?

It’s not just cleaning your apartment or doing a face mask. That’s maintenance. A Hot Girl Reset is a full system recalibration. A ritual. A vibe. A weekly ceremony of self-devotion.

It’s how you become that girl—again and again.

Step 1: Detox Your Space (and Energy)

Start with your physical environment. Because if your room looks like chaos, your brain is chaos.

Strip your bed and do fresh sheets

Open the windows, let the light in

Wipe down everything (even your vibe)

Light incense or palo santo like you’re banishing demons (aka last week’s stress)

Then detox your energy:

Sage your aura with sound bowls or Beyoncé

Take a long, borderline indulgent shower with body oil and scalp massage

Delete those texts. You know the ones.

Step 2: Reorganize Your Life Like It’s an Aesthetic TikTok

Hot girls don’t run on chaos. They run on calendars and rituals.

Plan your week in your cute planner (yes, stickers allowed)

Make a grocery list of bloat-free, glow-boosting foods

Set 3 goals max—because overwhelm is not chic

Put your vitamins in that little pill organizer (we’re grown)

Bonus points if you color-code. Double bonus if you film it for content. Triple if you romanticize the whole thing with a matcha latte in hand.

Step 3: Do a “Look Good, Feel Good” Ritual

This is where it gets juicy. Reset your beauty, baby.

Dry brush, exfoliate, and oil your body like you’re a Greek goddess

Wash your makeup brushes (yes, you’ve been putting bacteria on your face)

Put on a hair mask and pretend you’re in a spa commercial

Pick your outfits for the week that scream rich, rested, and unbothered

We’re not just resetting—we’re rebranding. Every Sunday.

Step 4: Mentally Clock Out of Chaos

Hot girls protect their inner peace like it’s Prada.

Journal: “What am I releasing this week?” + “What am I calling in?”

Meditate—even if it’s just 4 minutes in silence with your hand on your heart

Listen to a podcast that makes you feel elevated, not overstimulated

Sip a sleepy girl mocktail and go to bed early (beauty sleep is a business strategy)

Why This Actually Works

When you reset weekly, you:

Reduce anxiety (because your life’s not a mess)

Boost confidence (because you’re in control)

Show your nervous system it’s safe now

Reconnect with your vision board self (the baddie you’re becoming)

Your Hot Girl Reset is your anchor. Your power source. Your soft armor.

It says, “I respect myself too much to stay in chaos.”

Final Thoughts from Soleau Club

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being intentional. It’s about saying: “I deserve a life that feels like a Pinterest board—because I built it that way.”

So light that candle. Put on your spa playlist. Romanticize the mundane.

And remember: A Hot Girl Reset is not a luxury. It’s a lifestyle.

Follow @soleauclub for daily hot girl health, aesthetic wellness rituals, and biohacks you’ll actually want to try.

WHY AREN'T YOU DATING YOURSELF TOO?

As I sat sipping my morning coffee, I couldn't help but wonder: why do we often wait for someone else to take us on a romantic date when the perfect partner has been there all along—ourselves?

We get so caught up in chasing love from others we often forget that sometimes that you can give yourself the love you need too.

There’s something soooo empowering about falling in love with your own presence. I mean why wouldn't I want to hangout with myself? I'm amazing, fun and smell good too.

When you take yourself out, you're not just spending time alone— you're setting the standard for yourself everytime you get dressed up and go to that fancy restaurant, everytime you grab your tote bag and favourite runners and go exploring in your city, or even monthly spa visits to pamper yourself. make your solo dates pop so you don't settle for less when it comes to romantic partners and platonic friendships

Physical Solo Date Ideas

Sunset Beach Walk: Slip into your cutest sundress and wander along the beach as the sun sets. You could even pack yourself some of your fave sparkling drinks and some fruits! and everybody always feels better after they spend some time by the water.

Picnic in the Park: Pack a basket with your favorite snacks, a cozy blanket, and a good book. Find a shady spot under a tree 🍓📖

Yoga in the Garden: Roll out your mat in your backyard or a nearby garden. Breathe in the fresh air and stretch your body 🧘‍♀️🌸

Gallery Hopping: Spend an afternoon exploring local art galleries. Take your time admiring each piece and journal about it after 🖼️

Stargazing Night: On a clear night, lay out a blanket in your backyard or a quiet park and look up at the stars ✨

Food Solo Date Ideas

Café Hopping: Spend a day exploring cafés in your city and act like the main character in a sitcom or romcom. My fave thing about cafe's is people watching and making up storylines about people. ☕️

Gourmet Dinner for One: Dress up and take yourself to that fancy restaurant you’ve been eyeing. Put on that dress you've been "saving for a special occasion" and order yourself the whole bottle! 🍷

Baking Adventure: Try out a new baking recipe and create some new sweet treats, whatever you have leftover you can share with your girls 🥮🍪🍰

Farmers’ Market Feast: Visit a local farmers’ market and pick out fresh, seasonal ingredients. Then, head home and cook a delicious, wholesome meal just for you.

Ice Cream Parlor Indulgence: Treat yourself to a visit to an ice cream parlor.

Remember, darling, you're the star of your own show. Every moment spent with yourself is a chance to fall head over heels for the fabulous person you are. So, slip into that cute outfit, step out with all the confidence of a city girl in stilettos, and let the world bask in your glow.

After all, the greatest romance you'll ever have is the one you create within yourself.

activities to improve your life

(in no way do you have to do these or all of them in order to improve, these ade just little things to do to help you feel good about yourself <3)

- go on walks outside, or just get outside in someway. in the summers my boyfriend and I would walk a couple blocks to get a snowcone. now that's its spring I walk to the gas station near by to pick up energy drink for my boyfriend (spring semester)

- wake up earlier, now this one is important to me because I am a huge morning person and so is everyone in my family. but some people aren't naturally morning people. so dont feel like im saying wake up at 5am. I more mean wake up with enough time to enjoy your morning and look forward to the day, you don't want to rush to get ready

- drink an appropriate amount of water, I personally aim for about 60oz now, which I don't hot everyday, but when I first started trying to drink more water I started out with 20oz because I just wasn't drinking water. so don't push yourself because you'll only hate the water rather than appreciate what it can do for you

- journal every day. I normally don't journal about my day until the next morning as I reflect on the previous day, because I don't want the day to "end" before it's actually over. but I try to write reviews about episodes of the shows i like or take notes over my audiobooks and try to think about why I like/dislike them. I find that this helps me so that whenever I start getting emotionally overwhelmed to slow down and put into words what's wrong rather than just being overwhelmed

- working out to feel good rather than look good. I've had a terrible relationship with my body most of my life and so by working out to feel good i have different goals and schedules i followed than when I was trying to lose weight, and it's helping like my body even if it's not changing how it looks. I try to exercise at least 3 days a week, but if I don't feel good enough to i don't force myself (the walks outside are exercise too, so thats also helping me feel good even if I eat a snowcone immediately afterwards ^^)

- positive affirmations. I really struggle with this one, but I have a widget on my phone that rotates through different ones and im liking the ones that are good and at the end of the week in my journal I wrote them all out.

- look for long lasting happiness over short term happiness. this one is a lot harder i just wanted to add it on the end because sometimes I put off doing something I know will make me happy in the end because of short term gratification. I normally feal with this by letting them merge if I can (so like everything shower tiktoks while I get ready for my shower)

healing ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

growing ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

accepting ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

learning ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

evolving ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

don’t care, never cared, will never care

dream girl affs ₊˚🦢✩

i'm everyone's dream girl

everyone loves me for who i am

i'm the ultimate it girl

i always shine

i sparkle and bring joy wherever i go

i'm the emulation of everything pink and pretty

i'm the perfect blend of grace and charm

my smile lights up the room

i am adored and admired by all

i am beautiful, kind, and elegant

my heart is as warm as my style is flawless

i am cute and confident

i am enchanting, delightful, and lovely

everyone sees the magic in me

i'm a literal gem among girls

i bring color and happiness to life

my style is always on point

i'm a fashion icon

i am so sweet and alluring

i make the world a prettier place just by being in it

i spread positivity and love wherever i go

my presence is a gift, and everyone appreciates me

everyone dreams of having a friend like me

i'm the girl everyone wants to be around

i turn heads and capture hearts effortlessly

i live my best life every single day

morning greens 🥑🥗