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SHAPING YOUR ALTER EGO:EMBRACING YOUR HIDDEN STRENGTHS

Why an Alter Ego?

Adopting an alter ego offers you a creative pathway for personal growth, allowing you to explore and embody qualities you admire but have not yet dared to live out, effectively overcoming fears and expanding your sense of self. it serves as both a mental strategy for confronting your personal limitations and a practical tool for enhancing resilience, fostering a deeper connection with your potential, and encouraging the realization of an empowered identity.

Discovering Your Alter Ego

Reflect on Your Aspirations: Begin by deeply contemplating the qualities you find admirable in others-those traits you see and think, "I wish that were me." Ask yourself which of these qualities, if adopted, could significantly propel you toward your goals. Imagine the kind of person you would become if you embodied these traits.

Identify Your Challenges: Consider the obstacles that often stand in your way.An alter ego can be designed to navigate these with ease and confidence.

Crafting Her Identity

Name Her: Choose a name that resonates with the energy and essence of this new persona.

Define Her Traits: Is she bold? Creative? Unapologetically ambitious? Outline the characteristics that define her.

Visualize Her Style: How does she dress? How does she carry herself?Visualizing her can help solidify her presence in your mind.

Bringing Her to Life

Choose Her Moments: Identify specific situations where invoking your alter ego could be beneficial. Start small if it feels overwhelming

Act 'As If': Step into her shoes in these moments. Act 'as if you already possess her confidence and capabilities.

Reflect on Your Experiences: Afterward, take time to journal about the experience.What did you learn? How did it feel to see the world through her eyes?

Integrating Her Qualities into Your Life

Gradual Integration: The aim is not to constantly embody your alter ego, but to seamlessly incorporate its strengths into your daily life. It's about slowly blending the qualities of your alter ego with your own, enhancing your personality and capabilities over time.

Celebrate Growth: Recognize and celebrate each instance when you exhibit qualities of your alter ego. These moments mark significant progress in your journey, showing you're moving beyond your comfort zone and embracing personal development.

Your alter ego is more than a figment of your imagination; she's a testament to the unexplored depths of your potential. By inviting her into your life, you're not just pretending to be someone else; you're discovering the powerful, fearless you that's been there all along. Ready to meet her?

study night + angry boy

Essentials for a cosy study day 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Tea, coffee, water. Drink more than you think you should; it will help you focus!! My recent obsession has been chai lattes. :)

Get ready even if you plan on staying home. Take a shower, do your hair make-up, and do whatever you would do on a regular day, too.

Cosy but cute fit. Something comfortable that still makes you feel pretty and good about yourself.

Set some goals. Whether this be a specific page number you want to reach, a set study time, etc etc., keep it achievable, tho!!

Play around with music and playlists when you lose focus. I always switch between studying in complete silence, classical music, lofi, and more gloomy playlists; this helps me stay focused for longer. :)

Take little breaks, stretch, have a snack, open a window, and catch up with your friends for a bit to avoid feeling burned out or overly exhausted.

Make your study space cosy, light a candle, get a blanket, adjust the lighting and temperature to your liking, and keep your desk organised.

Watch something cosy but motivating like Gilmore Girls if you're just organising your notes, school stuff, or simply studying lighter material to keep you entertained.

Here are some of my favourite study playlists 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Back to school gloominess

Old Ivories (piano music)

Rory Gilmore Autumn

My Lofi Playlist

Soft studies

As always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments! <3

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morning greens 🥑🥗

the real luxuries 💐☁️🩰🍃 :

rom-com marathons

beach days

a comfort water bottle

online shopping without fear of overspending

finding the perfect summer outfit

friend dates

self-care days

daily exercise

daily sweet treat

a good nights sleep

seeing colorful sunsets

slow mornings

🌸 Wrapping Up Summer

The last few days of summer are filled summer reading, journaling, baking, antiquing, and going on short trips. Today, I'm headed to Texas for the weekend to attend a conference! I will update you guys on the trip!

How do I stop comparing myself to others and how can I feel fulfilled on my own without needing anyone else's validation?

hiii<3 i feel what you're going through, trust me i do. here are some of my tips that specifically worked for me + at the end i'll include some more recommended things to read/ watch.

how to stop comparing & feel fulfilled without needing anyone else's validation

how to stop comparing yourself:

start focussing and thinking about yourself more. lol ok i realise that may sound like "become self absorbed" but i suppose, to some extent, that is what im saying. you're becoming too interested in others' life around you if you find yourself comparing. its time to focus on you and up levelling yourself to the best version possible.

comparison = wanting their life style, yes? so when you find yourself comparing to others in your life, realise that its because you envy something that they have. maybe its money, popularity, prettiness, intelligence, etc. so its like a signal in your brain which is telling you: "i want this. but i dont have it." so now what can you do, work hard to get it.

focus on what you have. i read a quote once (i think its by Oprah Winfrey) and it goes: "if you focus on what you don't have, you'll always have less. but if you focus on what you do have, you'll always have more." instead of looking at other's lives and thinking "i dont have this, i dont have that", look at your own life and think "i have this, i have that."

feeling fulfilled without needing anyone else's validation:

self love. self love. SELF LOVE. self love will ALWAYS be the answer to this. learn to LOVE yourself. and if you dont, ask why!! i have a whole guide on how to develop self love HERE. Stop looking for love in others, GIVE YOURSELF THE LOVE FIRST!!

It’s you over them. Always. Always always always. Always choose you over them. If they want you to do something but you don’t, then you say “no. I will not do that” it’s scary? Oh boohoohoo, suck it up. Because if you are constantly doing stuff that others ask you to just for the sake of pleasing them, you are disrespecting yourself in the worst way. You are basically saying that what they want is more important than what i want and need. Ew. Don’t do that.

extra resources:

a guide to develop self love & confidence (by me)

vanilla's opinion🍰 edition 1: dealing with hate & not caring about what others think. (by me)

ways to stay unbothered (by @pastel-charm-14)

Self validation (by @prettieinpink )

Tam Kaur's youtube channel

Thewizardliz youtube channel