8 Lil Things You Can Try To Feel Better & Productive!

The Power of Hobbies: Your Secret Weapon to Level Up

Listen, sweethearts! In a world where everyone’s glued to their screens, doom-scrolling into oblivion, it’s time to bring back the ultimate glow-up tool: HOBBIES. Yep, hobbies aren’t just for your grandma’s knitting club. They’re the secret sauce to becoming the best version of YOU. Ready to romanticize your life? Let’s go.

Why Hobbies Are Important

First off, hobbies aren’t just cute little pastimes—they’re mini acts of self-love. They give your brain a break, boost your mood, and remind you that life isn’t just about surviving; it’s about THRIVING. Everyone’s out here living the same routine—work, uni, hang out, repeat. Yawn. Having hobbies, interests, and actual skills? That’s what makes you special girl. It’s like having your own secret world while everyone else is stuck on autopilot.

The Glow-Up Benefits

Mental Health Boost: Hobbies are like mental spa days. They reduce stress, fight off burnout, and give you that serotonin sparkle.

Confidence Builder: Nothing hits like the confidence boost of learning a new skill. Suddenly, you’re THAT girl who can paint, dance, or whip up a killer playlist.

Meet Your People: Join a hobby club or class, and boom—instant community. Forget awkward small talk, you’re bonding over shared passions.

Creative Energy: Your mind loves to play. Hobbies spark creativity, which spills into every part of your life, from problem-solving to personal style.

Hobbies for the Girlies Who Want It All

Journaling: Not just a diary, babe. Think manifestation, gratitude lists, mood tracking—your thoughts, but make them aesthetic.

Pilates or Yoga: Strong body, strong mind. Plus, the cute workout fits? Obsessed.

Baking: Whip up some sweet treats, because why not be the friend who always brings the vibes and the cookies?

Scrapbooking: Old school? Maybe. Therapeutic and fun? Absolutely.

Learning a New Language: Multilingual queen energy, anyone?

Thrifting and Upcycling: Turn fashion finds into one-of-a-kind pieces. Sustainable and stylish.

Photography: Capture your life like it’s an indie film. Bonus: Instagram-worthy content.

Pottery or Painting: Get messy, get creative, and make something with your own two hands.

Gardening (Even if It’s Just Houseplants): Plant mom vibes. Watch something grow because of you? Ugh, love it.

Your hobby doesn’t have to be perfect, productive, or profitable. It just has to make you feel alive. Life isn’t about doing everything perfectly—it’s about finding joy in the little things. So pick up that paintbrush, roll out that yoga mat, or start that playlist. Do it for YOU, queen. You deserve it.

What to do when you can’t sleep 💤 🌌🌙

Hi cuties! It is currently 3am while I’m writing this because I just woke up and couldn’t get back to sleep no matter what I did. This is pretty usual for me I am a chronic insomniac and even though I am medicated for it I still will wake up in the middle of the night and not be able to sleep. So here is what I do to make sure my day does not suck even when I only got a few hours of sleep.

First things first give yourself at least an hour without any lights or screen time.

You might still be able to fall back asleep but you got to give yourself the best chance so keep it dark get comfy and do breathing exercises.

If you need you can put on a meditation or breathing exercises video on YouTube those can help you focus rather than you doing it yourself.

If after that hour you are still not falling asleep you need to get out of your bed.

Your bed should be a place of rest so the only thing you should do is sleep in it. Sitting on your phone in your bed is going to create an unhealthy habit that is going to impact your sleep more.

The best thing I ever did for my sleep was making my bed a place I go to to sleep and only sleep

I like to start by realizing why I couldn’t sleep. Sometimes it’s insomnia. Sometimes it’s anxiety or stress. Sometimes it’s not feeling well (like physically sick)

If it’s anxiety or stress you can journal about it or if you are stressed because you have a big project you can even work on it some more or do some planning to make to make things easier. Or to ease your mind.

If you aren’t feeling well notice your symptoms and maybe take some medicine and try to feel better so you can go back to bed. If you are sick I recommend taking medicine then going back and trying to sleep again because that is the best thing for you.

Once you get up you need to understand that right now is probably the best you will feel the whole day.

You can only get more and more tired and you aren’t going to be able to go to sleep until your normal time (maybe a short five minute nap but anything longer you risk messing up your schedule more).

It’s not the most fun realization but it’s important

If you are like me and you just have insomnia or there is no real reason why you can’t sleep I recommend doing things that will make your day easier.

You are going to be exhausted for most the day probably so anything you can do right now while you feel okay is best.

You can clean your room. Write your to do list. I also love doing my laundry because I usually can get it done before I have to start my day. Anything that you can do that future (significantly more tired) you might need help with.

I also recommend waiting to drink caffeine until you would normally.

The reason for this is because if you wake up at 1am you do a couple things and you start to feel tired again you can still go to bed and get multiple hours of sleep before you have to wake up. But if you drink caffeine at 2am you basically have gotten rid of that chance.

Also because the crash would happen sooner in the day making you feel so much worse.

If you have nothing to do I recommend doing something calming with minimal blue light.

I like to listen to calming music and read. This can also help put you back into the mood of sleeping.

Blue light is the same as caffeine too much too early can make your chances of those extra hours extremely low.

Not sleeping is the literal worst thing to deal with on a regular basis. While my medications do help I still have sleepless nights pretty regularly. This is honestly the best thing you can do it sucks but it’s better to tough it out and be tired. Hopefully the next time you go to bed you’ll be so tired you fall asleep instantly. Also if you do struggle with insomnia regularly I recommend reaching out to your doctor because missing sleep is the worst thing for your health. As someone who had a whole year where I only slept a couple hours a week I know the full effects of sleep deprivation and it is not pretty. It might not be anything you are doing wrong it might be something only medication can fix and there is nothing wrong with that. I know that I will probably be on my sleeping meds my whole life but I’d rather take the pill than have another year like that one.

Xoxo rest well babes 💕

20 traits of an attractive personality

thoughtful and warm affection

self-aware and self-reflecting with proper action

strong understanding and listening skills

a funny sense of humour

having responsibility for your own decisions and actions

being a supporting character

being thankful when others help you

taking pleasure in simple things

keeping promises

connecting with people deeply

treating friendships and relationships as priorities

nourishing yourself with good food

knowing your worth and accepting what you deserve

forgiving people for their mistakes and limiting their access to your life

taking care of your expenses

staying calm when others get angry at you

learning from people who are smarter than you, and not letting your ego interfere

being loyal and trustworthy in any relationship

taking care of your loved ones

always keeping your promises

‎ Preparing for a ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ one week digital detox

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On the 24th of March, I will start a one week digital detox from social media. The rules will be made on a seperate post on Sunday, and I will continue making short updates everyday on how it will be going.

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Preparing

Over the weekend, I'll have to complete this list:

· set a screentime of 0 minutes to all social media apps (including YouTube on my phone)

· set a screentime of 1 hour on Tumblr and Pinterest

· turn off active notifications

· clean out my phone (gallery, usless apps, files...)

· set screen-free zones and hours

· make a new playlist (so I dont have to during the week)

· make a list on paper of things to do instead of using my phone

· plan my week

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Some people should be ashamed of their minds not looks

Always remember that no one, absolutely no one, can close a door that God opened for you

ultimate IT girl guide

a guide to looking effortlessly perfect

"You’ve got the false narrative of a girl who spends 30 seconds on her appearance, when, in fact, you probably spent hours.”

1. basic hygiene:

having clean teeth and good breath

smelling good 24/7. i highly recommend finding a signature scent as a scent is associated with memory, id suggest something sweet yet not too overpowering like vanilla.

being clean in general. regularly shaving and exfoliating your skin to get rid of bodily hair and dirt that accumulates on your skin to make your skin glow.

clean nails. having clean and maintained nails (with a simple design if you wish) looks better than having acrylics that are wayyy too long and appear tacky.

2. hair :

having smooth healthy hair looks much better than dry and damaged hair. take care of your hair by finding the best products for your natural hair. get rid of your split ends as they make the hair appear really damaged.

in my opinion, loose waves look the most effortless yet pretty. but don’t ruin your natural hair by applying too much heat! you can try heatless styling methods to achieve this look.

3. diet and exercise :

being toned is the way to go to fit this aesthetic

avoid oily foods or sugary foods that damage your skin. don’t completely get rid of these as we all have our cravings, but try your best to avoid it

find a workout plan that works best for you, keeps you healthy but doesn’t burn you out! moreover exercise releases endorphins that improve your mood.

4. makeup and skin care :

natural makeup on clear skin fits this effortless aesthetic perfectly!

take care of your skin by finding a routine that fits you the best, consult with a dermatologist for the best results.

having smooth, blended makeup creates an illusion that you aren’t wearing any at all! this appears much effortless than a full face. also try to avoid those really huge false lashes that make you look tacky.

maintain your eyebrows and find a shape that fits you best!

5. outfits :

having a signature style which suits your body type is essential. experiment until you can find what suits you best! you can use a body analysis app for this.

wearing outfits you’re confident in, hot but not too revealing goes a long way. confidence is key. wearing overly revealing clothing might seem like one is trying too hard, but if you can carry it with confidence then that’s great!

jewellery : having dainty, signature pieces is key! find out which suits you better (gold or silver) through an ai analysis and invest in timeless pieces. personally, i think minimalistic pieces such as solitaires, simple pendants, classic hoops etc. look much more effortless.

6. personality :

don’t be too judgemental towards anyone as you don’t know what they’re going through and this makes you seem unapproachable

don’t talk too much or overshare! this creates a mysterious aura which draws people to you more

confidence is key! posture is very important too, carry yourself with confidence and walk with your head held up high.

7. examples and references :

serena van der woodsen (gossip girl)

mia thermopolis (the princess diaries)

cher (clueless)

elle woods (legally blonde)

rory gilmore (gilmore girls)

robib scherbatsky (how i met your mother)

gigi hadid

Big Sister Advice Dating Addition 💋🌹🍷

Here is some of my big sister advice for dating!! Also I am just going to say I am a straight girl so all of this advice is going to be centered on dating men because that’s all I feel I can give advice on!

Don’t play hard to get actually be hard to get

GET A LIFE! BE BUSY!!!

The most interesting thing in your life should not be your dating life.

Get a hobby and have a social life that is not romantic.

You’ll have less time to stress about him not texting you and your self worth will be high because you are not basing it off of the attention you receive from men.

First dates should never be a dinner date on the weekend!

Never waste a weekend on what could be a terrible date with a dude.

Also dinner dates are really awkward and the silence gets so loud. I recommend doing a fun activity like bowling or mini golf. It will let you easy the first date jitters and make it less awkward when the conversation stops because you are doing something. Coffee dates are the same as dinner dates!

Also if you play a game with him on the first date you get to see if he is a sore loser or a mean winner which is a great red flag to catch immediately. No man should be insecure about you being better at a stupid game!!!!

No good guy is comfortable with a woman’s tears!!!!!!!

They should always check on you and make sure you are ok.

I knew my boyfriend was a keeper when he was very concerned that I started to cry cuz I was laughing too hard.

My dad always told me that if a man is comfortable seeing you cry about the small stuff then he is okay seeing you cry over him!

If he doesn’t ask consent for the small stuff then he won’t ask consent for the big stuff.

If the words “it’ll ruin the moment” ever leaves his lips leave immediately.

If you want princess treatment you can’t be shocked when you get it.

Obviously don’t be a bitch about it. But if he buys you flowers don’t be shocked or tell him you shouldn’t have!!!!

Be grateful and tell him you love it!!! POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT let him know when he makes you happy!!

Don’t let them know you are happy with the bare minimum. DONT BE HAPPY WITH THE BARE MINIMUM!

Be vocal in what you dislike

I had an older girl tell me in highschool that a woman’s “ewww” is the most powerful tool she has.

Because if a man cares about your opinion you being openly disgusted is the worst thing possible.

And if he doesn’t care about your opinion he will laugh or make you seem like you are being dramatic.

I also love a good “ I don’t find that funny actually” because then if he tells that joke again around you you’ll know or if he tells you to “lighten up”

How he talks about all women is how he will talk about you!

Even if he says you are “different” from other women eventually he is going to talk about you the same way.

If he calls other girls sluts and hoes the second you do something he doesn’t like he is going to call you that.

No women haters will actually love women!!!!!

Let there be distance in the relationship especially when it first starts.

If you’ve gone on one date you don’t need to text him everyday nor should you be worried if he doesn’t text you!!!

Even in long term relationships some days all you have time for is a good morning and a good night! And that’s ok!!!! Only worry if that’s happening a lot with no explanation.

If you want to date a man with his life together you also have to have your life together

Just like you wouldn’t date a man who does nothing but sit on his phone all day and has no life men are the same way.

Especially guys who have their life together because no one wants a partner who doesn’t fit in with their lifestyle.

Xoxo 💋