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getting out of your own head ✧˚ · .

i've had a topsy-turvy mental health journey in my time and i know that i am really good at self-victimising, self-blaming, and falling into thought spirals where i agonise over events and perceptions that are so tiny in real life.

it is important for me to identify when i am engaging in unhelpful behaviour, so i can find a way to shift. it feels like the hardest thing in the world but healing is a journey unique to everyone.

the info below comes from a single source and i hope to expand on mental health info in the future, but it might be helpful if you have an anxious mind or you're an overthinker.

<image from pinterest, below info source: becoming the one by sheleana aiyana>

BEHAVIOUR THAT KEEPS YOU STUCK IN YOUR HEAD

Responding to feelings by pulling them apart and looking for meaning

Denying how you feel because it doesn't make logical sense

Trying to talk yourself out of feeling sad, anxious, etc

Coming up with a reason for feelings

Overexplaining feelings

Feeling "numb"

Feeling embarassed or exposed by your feelings

Focusing on the "facts" as if emotions have no value or purpose

BEHAVIOUR TO BRING YOU INTO YOUR BODY

Noticing an emotion as it arises and naming it: "I'm feeling sad, angry, joyful, nervous, etc."

Locating and identifying bodily sensations: "I feel tightness in my belly, my chest is feeling constricted, there is tension in my jaw."

Using "I think" when you have a thought and "I feel" when you have an emotion, and knowing the difference

Allowing your feelings and sensations to be there without needing to make sense of them

Creating opportunities to move energy through the body (dance, screaming into a pillow, deep breathing)

 SKILLS FOR THE EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED

Able to differentiate between thoughts, sensations, and feelings

Knowing when to take time and space to process intense emotions before making a decision or initiating a conversation

Trusting the body and exploring the messages it delivers without self-judgment

Being meditative and noticing when the mind is making up a story or being self-critical

Bringing presence into the body when overthinking or spiraling into fear and worry

Having a few favourite self-soothing methods, or reaching out for support when overwhelmed

Valuing both emotion and logic at different times

Making space for a spiritual practice and radical acceptance in your life

Dollies Summer Glow up: Reseting! 🎀☀️

While Overturning this new chapter it’s only right thats i start with a LONG OVERDUE Reset Day to not only clear my head but also not have alot on my mind! 👛

⭐️; Physical Reset

Face Mask

At home manicure

Foot Soak

Everything Shower

Hair Masque

Meditation

Lip Scrub

Deep Conditioning!

🛍️- Environmental Reset;

Clean my Bedding

Throw away anything i don’t need

Clean My Room

Light a Candle or Burn some Incense

Clean my Pillows

Re-Arrange Things

🐬 - Digital Reset:

Clear Some of my Camera Roll

Delete Un Used apps

Clean up my Phone Theme

Delete Old Contacts

TTYL - Love,Dolly ! 🎀⭐️

how to follow your dreams ˖ ᡣ𐭩 ⊹ ࣪ ౨ৎ˚₊

𝜗𝜚⋆ 1. try to get in touch with your dreams. what do you dream about in your life? what future makes you feel alive exited inspired and energized?

𝜗𝜚⋆ 2. read blogs books or stories about other people who are following their hearts or living your dreams. try to get ideas and inspiration from them.

𝜗𝜚⋆ 3. talk to people who will support you and encourage you not to give up.

𝜗𝜚⋆ 4. determine what is important to you and what may hinder you on the path to your dream. for example the opinions of others fear of ridicule or failure the need to earn money and be financially secure. do they matter more and will they stop you from achieving your goals especially when there are obstacles scattered along your path?

𝜗𝜚⋆ 5. start taking steps and making changes in your life. as long as you just imagine scenarios your life will remain the same. you need to plan and take action to change reality.

𝜗𝜚⋆ 6. if something doesn’t work then this is not a reason to give up but this is also not a reason to continue in the same spirit. you need to reconsider your strategy and understand why it isn't working for you. then come up with a new plan and try again.

𝜗𝜚⋆ 7. believe in yourself - and continue to strive for your dreams. what's truly worth will require effort and commitment on your part.

༘˚⋆𐙚｡⋆𖦹.✧˚

⎯ Goodbye Summer⎯

𝜗𝜚 my extensive morning routine - for the girlies who need their alone time ,, especially before a hectic day ++ free printable !!

drink water

this is an absolute game-changer ! bonus if its warm or room temperature, really gets the metabolism going as well as soothes your throat !!

make your bed

this makes my room look MUCH neater, and gives me peace of mind + incentive not to get back under the covers and doze off again TT

meditation

another thing that calms me down greatly and gets me focused and set for the day, i really recommend lavendaire, her meditations are top-tier and she has several lengths to pick from

morning yoga

debloat yoga or stretching is a must for me, it helps aid my digestion as well as reduce bloating in the morning.

exercise

i like to do either shirlyn kim, april han, chloe ting or momomi workouts in the morning ending with a hinafit's full body stretch that's twenty minutes long. i use chloe ting's workouts as cardio mostly and then a set of targeted hiit from momomi and relaxing pilates from shirlyn kim and april han.

i am also trying to go on walks in the morning as well TT

skincare + dental care

my skincare routine in the morning is cleanser + toner + hydrogel + sunscreen + matte sunstick + lip balm and my dental care routine is herbal toothpaste + fluoride toothpaste + mouthwash. i wash my hands between and before/after steps.

shower routine

i use a pumice stone and sugar scrub in the shower to exfoliate along w baby soap and shower gel to clean up. i apply three layers of moisturizer + coconut oil on getting out !!

reading

in the mornings, i like to either annotate classics or read my weekly self-help book or just read educational nonfiction and take notes in my commonplace journal about them.

journalling

i fill out five affirmations, five things i'm grateful for as well as my intentions for the day. i also write down what would make my day great, as well as habits to focus on (at least three)

planning

i plan w/ my planners, notebook and wall calendar spread as well as notion and a habit app, as well as google sheets.

that wraps up this post, and here is the printable checklist spanning four days

The Power of Hobbies: Your Secret Weapon to Level Up

Listen, sweethearts! In a world where everyone’s glued to their screens, doom-scrolling into oblivion, it’s time to bring back the ultimate glow-up tool: HOBBIES. Yep, hobbies aren’t just for your grandma’s knitting club. They’re the secret sauce to becoming the best version of YOU. Ready to romanticize your life? Let’s go.

Why Hobbies Are Important

First off, hobbies aren’t just cute little pastimes—they’re mini acts of self-love. They give your brain a break, boost your mood, and remind you that life isn’t just about surviving; it’s about THRIVING. Everyone’s out here living the same routine—work, uni, hang out, repeat. Yawn. Having hobbies, interests, and actual skills? That’s what makes you special girl. It’s like having your own secret world while everyone else is stuck on autopilot.

The Glow-Up Benefits

Mental Health Boost: Hobbies are like mental spa days. They reduce stress, fight off burnout, and give you that serotonin sparkle.

Confidence Builder: Nothing hits like the confidence boost of learning a new skill. Suddenly, you’re THAT girl who can paint, dance, or whip up a killer playlist.

Meet Your People: Join a hobby club or class, and boom—instant community. Forget awkward small talk, you’re bonding over shared passions.

Creative Energy: Your mind loves to play. Hobbies spark creativity, which spills into every part of your life, from problem-solving to personal style.

Hobbies for the Girlies Who Want It All

Journaling: Not just a diary, babe. Think manifestation, gratitude lists, mood tracking—your thoughts, but make them aesthetic.

Pilates or Yoga: Strong body, strong mind. Plus, the cute workout fits? Obsessed.

Baking: Whip up some sweet treats, because why not be the friend who always brings the vibes and the cookies?

Scrapbooking: Old school? Maybe. Therapeutic and fun? Absolutely.

Learning a New Language: Multilingual queen energy, anyone?

Thrifting and Upcycling: Turn fashion finds into one-of-a-kind pieces. Sustainable and stylish.

Photography: Capture your life like it’s an indie film. Bonus: Instagram-worthy content.

Pottery or Painting: Get messy, get creative, and make something with your own two hands.

Gardening (Even if It’s Just Houseplants): Plant mom vibes. Watch something grow because of you? Ugh, love it.

Your hobby doesn’t have to be perfect, productive, or profitable. It just has to make you feel alive. Life isn’t about doing everything perfectly—it’s about finding joy in the little things. So pick up that paintbrush, roll out that yoga mat, or start that playlist. Do it for YOU, queen. You deserve it.

10 things to do when you’re having a hard day or when motivation is down </3

Take a long shower/bath to cleanse yourself of your negative thoughts/feelings

Make your bed to get your motivation started

Do a quick workout to get your body moving

Write in your journal about how you feel and why, it might release some emotions and make you feel better

Drink water and put intention in it - decide that the water is going to cleanse your energy and it will!

Talk to a friend or a family member and if that isn’t available to you right now talk to an online friend or even a pet

Read a book (if you like reading, otherwise it might not be as calming)

Put on dancy music and dance around your room! Gets your mood up and your body moving

Take a walk, let the fresh air heal you

Put on makeup and a cute outfit because look good = feel good

xoxo, Hannah

A Mini Guide For : How To level Up Your Confidence

1. Reframe Your Fails into Fuel - Instead of letting setbacks crush you view them as training moments. Everyone messes up but confident people use those experiences to learn and improve. Next time you face a challenge tell yourself "This is an opportunity to grow" and watch your confidence soar.

Celebrate Your Strengths - Don't wait for someone else to pat you on the back. Recognize and appreciate your own talents and accomplishments. Make a list of things you're good at big or small and revisit it whenever self doubt creeps in. Remind yourself - I am awesome at speaking and doing conversations and that's something to be proud of!

Fake It Til You Make It "in the Right Way" - This one gets a bad rap but here's the key don't pretend to be someone you're not. Instead act confident even if you don't feel it completely. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak clearly. This outward projection can trick your brain into feeling more confident and over time it can become genuine

Compete Against Yourself, Not Others - Ditch the comparisons! Social media and societal pressures can make us feel like we're constantly falling short. But true confidence comes from focusing on your own journey, not someone else's highlight reel.Track your progress and celebrate how far you've come and set goals that challenge you to be a better version of yourself.

Focus on "what you can control," not the rest: Can't control others' opinions? Let it go. Focus on your strengths and actions and how you want to show up in the world Be your own boss.

Be patient with yourself and know your self more so that you can know in what areas you need to develop more , Message me if you guys want that sheet to know about yourself more 🥰