Hey Random Question, Does Anyone Know If There Is A Word For Romantic Attraction That's Not "sexuality"?

Question for the systems/plurals (or whatever term that beings use for those types of things) that have intentionally created alter(s)/headmate(s) [or whatever term].

How do you actually go about doing that? We are interested in trying to make/create some packmates (our version of alters/headmates) but we don't really know how to go about that.

We hope that we have explained this in a very respectful way.

- Shay 🐾 & Mystery ❔️ (when we started writing this post, Mystery was also in front, but not when posting this)

Edit (we originally just had this in the comments, but it's worth adding to the actual post): Add on to our original post. We have seen tumblr posts of "make a headmate/alter," are those recommended? (Hope this makes at least some sense). We don't necessarily mean using one or asking for one to be made for us. We just mean how they are formatted and all that. But also, would beings recommend using one of those?

We are both transgender (specifically genderqueer/enby) and nonhuman (and we actually would love to use the term transspecies more for ourselves, honestly [more so me than my fellow packmates]).

Transspecies beings are not taking anything away from (other) trans people.

People are gonna hate what they hate. If people really try to use transspecies beings as a reason to hate on transgender people, then they were never really supportive of trans people in the first place.

Remember, be yourself/yourselves as long as you're not hurting anyone!

- Shay 🐾 | The host, who always fronts, of the Wildlife Pack

I'm starting to realize my past views about the term "transpecies" don't align with my current morals and I'm kinda playing with the term. To anyone who uses the term, what are your thoughts about it? Why do you think it's an okay term to use or why not?

I've heard people call it offensive to trans people before but ive also heard that take is pitting two communities against eachother for no reason/one identity doesn't discredit another. I can't think of any actually good reasons against the term tbh. It feels like one of those things I heard about through people being like "have you heard some people call themselves trans species and want to become animals??" And out of fear of being ostracized myself agreed with other peoples views of it. Now I think that's a nothing argument and discredits peoples identities because they are "weird". To be honest, I think the only difference between being a therian/otherkin and transpecies is the label and people only disagree with the label because they are worried about trangender people being ostracized or seen as "just as weird" and transpecies people.

We are now just blocking any donation asks.

We are not gonna change our stance on this.

Sorry, but this is our blog.

- Shay 🐾

We have said it before, but guess we have to say it again.

NO DONATION ASKS

We just end up deleting them so safe the time for everyone involved.

If the same people end up sending multiple, then they will get blocked.

- Shay (They/it) 🐾

Can people send in asks about my memories from canon? Cause I wanna rant about some memories and shit but wanna make sure that people would even be open to hearing about them and shit. [Send in specific asks if you want to or send in just asks about what memories I have, just pls send in asks sjdjjdjejskdks].

DHJDJEJEJRJDJD, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, JDJDND

- Zuki Shay Lupo! :3c

Tw: sexual assault mentioned, and trauma/ptsd. All from past lifes and not explicit.

Talking about this once again, mainly cause I want to mention that it's from both of my "kin" lifes [Zuki and Cyan]. And it was likely more than once in both.

It sucks having to deal with the trauma even when in this body/life I/we have never experienced anything like that.

Anyway, just wanted to slightly vent again.

- Shay 🐾

Tw: sexual assault mentioned, trauma/ptsd, I think that's it? All of this is pretty much just past life, and it's not explicit, just mentioned by name.

Anyone else who experienced trauma in a past life that they haven't experienced in your current life, how do you deal with it?

I haven't ever been SAed in this life but I am pretty sure that I was at least once in a past life [maybe multiple past lifes, Zuki is the one that I am meaning rn]. And I have no real idea of how to go about dealing with this.

I feel shitty cause, like I've said, I have never been through that in this life, but it still affects me about as much as if I had. And I don't really know how to talk about this shit with people cause idk how they would react, even those that support and love me as I am [alterhuman/nonhuman stuff included] but having trauma from my past life that I haven't experienced here is kinda different.

Idk, I just want to know if anyone has any advice or anything for this situation.

Sorry for this type of post, I try not to bring too much stuff like this into my account, but I feel like I need to. I'll try and keep my posts more light-hearted or, at least of course, give trigger warnings or content warnings when they're not light-hearted.

- Zuki Shay Lupo (They/hx/it)

Thanks for the reply!

We definitely think of it as better than the "functioning" label system (cause of what that system was originally for) but yeah every system has flaws.

So medium support needs seems to fit us.

As we don't have a job, and don't have a "caretaker". And we could go on but this is the main bits, lol. Basically, we have more support needs than a low support needs being and less support needs than a high support needs being.

- Shay 🐾

Can any being(s) explain exactly what each "level" of support needs mean? (High, medium, and low are the ones we have seen/heard)

Cause we literally aren't sure what we count under.

Like it almost seems like we are low-medium support needs or high-low support needs (like on the lower side of medium or higher side of low).

Does this make any sense?

- Shay 🐾

We have an alter who is a dragon and used to just go by Dragon at first, lol.

It wanted a name that seemed dragon-like, and we looked up names that meant fire (you can put like any meaning you want or even look up something like "names relating to dragons"). Dragon is now going by Den because of two of the names we found that they liked but couldn't decide between, they both ended with "den" so that's how Den got its name.

Other than just giving the advice to look up names and shit, we don't have anything else to say.

Hope this helps at least a little bit.

- Shay (They/it) 🐾

- Den (It/they) 🐲 | Only talked about, Den doesn't really post

how do i name myself in a way that gives me dragon euphoria help

i don't resonate as much with the name luca now. i kind of like the names jasper and malachite but that might just be steven universe propaganda lmaoo. there's some others i like too that im less sure of

doing name tryouts and stuff

non dragons can answer this too. HOW do you name yourself in a way that gives you creature euphoria ??

maybe i'll decide i actually do want to be called luca. maybe i'll decide idc

Second poem to post.

Tw/cw: abuse but not named. Nothing else I can think of but let me know if you find anymore.

Another canine/dog related poem.

Trying something different with the read more thing being after the title of the poem.

I love like a dog

I love like a dog

Always going back

To people who hurt me

Cause that's what I

Was taught that love is

I love like a dog

Always letting people

I love hurt me

Cause that's what I

Was taught that love is

I love like a dog

Always waiting for

People to hurt me

Cause that's what I

Was taught that love is

I love like a dog

I hurt the people

I love just the same

Cause that's what I

Was taught that love is

:3c

- Shay 🐾

rb to have a super gay 2023

What is meant by "lower" fronting is not the main/primary fronter. Basically, more of a "backseat driver" type of fronting in a way. We just didn't know what to really call it at first.

No real clue on the planning things in the back often.

Maybe? We aren't entirely sure how exactly memory and stuff works with our plurality.

- Shay 🐾

What’s it like when an alter has planned something in the back? Do you just get a fully formed plan popping into your head, or do they talk you through it? Do you just switch?

Hello!!!

Considering I am, as far as we can tell so far, always fronting in some way (sometimes I am just technically "lower" fronting but still fronting). The switch part isn't really true.

It's probably a mixture of the other 2 things, though. Also, sometimes they join front or take over the "main"/primary fronting, and I go into "lower" fronting, but that's not as common.

Usually, when the others join me in front, it's as a secondary (tertiary, etc) fronter rather than the primary fronter.

Hope this answered your question!

- Shay 🐾