INTJ Relationship Goals

Portal Icosahedron by Anthony James 

Jim Thorpe, Pennsylvania.

A day filled with train rides cuddles, good food, hot tea & rainy autumn night walks through this perfect little mountain town.

A New Day a New Adventure

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“I struggle with a lot of the books/youtube channels on this subject as they tend to relate to people that focus their entire life on sustainability, rather than people that incorporate sustainable habits into their normal life.” 

^it’s about being mindful, not giving yourself grief every time you forget to bring a reusable cup with you. Love this.

Do you have any tips for someone who's interested in a more sustainable lifestyle but not sure where to start?

I would suggest spending a bit of time watching some youtube videos and reading some books about it. The book ‘Zero Waste Home’ by Bea Johnson is a good starting point, and the ebook is inexpensive. I will paste a link HERE to a list of youtube channels that talk about living low waste / sustainably. 

When you are ready, you can start making small changes like carrying a water bottle or coffee cup, and buying products in less packaging. 

Just remember that you don’t have to make every single change at once, and it’s also totally okay if there are certain changes that you don’t want to make at all. Use the resources for ideas/inspiration -  not as an exact guide! 

(I struggle with a lot of the books/youtube channels on this subject as they tend to relate to people that focus their entire life on sustainability, rather than people that incorporate sustainable habits into their normal life). Small changes can still make a huge difference, don’t underestimate them :) 

I hate it when people say technology is taking away kids’ childhoods If anything, it’s actually giving kids more of an opportunity to let their imagination out

A lot of times when I let kids play on my phone, they go for the drawing app. I watched a girl on the bus write a silly poem about her friends and then laugh as she made Siri read it I hear children say to their friends “hey, FaceTime me later” because they still want to talk face to face even when they’re far away. I see kids sitting, who would feel lonely and ignored if it weren’t for the fact that they’re texting their friends who are far away. Children still climb trees. They might just take a selfie from the top to show off how high they’ve gotten. They can immediately read the next book of their favorite series on their Kindles. Most kids would still be up for a game of cops and robbers. Or maybe they’d google rules to another game they haven’t played yet. When children wonder why the sky is blue, they don’t get an exasperated “I don’t know” from tired adults. They can go on Wikipedia and read about light waves and our atmosphere. They show off the elaborate buildings they created on Minecraft.

Technology isn’t ruining childhoods, it’s enhancing them.

An Intro

Hello, friends!

I initially planned for my first post to be an introduction to my life. However, something has changed the course of my fitness journey, a major part of my life, for the time being and, as such, has altered my mental health journey, too. 

Here’s what’s up: I have mono. No biggie, really, except that means I can’t exercise like at all for at least one month. Also no biggie, right?

Well, it wouldn’t be except for the fact that I genuinely struggle when it comes to physical fitness. I’m a Type A and an ENTJ, which means I don’t know how to rest. Period. I go hard. I get results. I push myself to be the best. Consequentially, I’ve hit rock bottom several times, both mentally and physically. I’ve had eating disorders in the past and am currently getting over a binge eating disorder/unhealthy relationship with exercise. I also have issues with depression and anxiety, to put it lightly. Since I started college, I used exercise as a way to increase my self-worth---terrible, terrible idea. I tried to convince myself I was doing it to better myself, and to some extent, I was. Mostly, though, I started lifting because I wanted to show my dedication to the gym, to not be ashamed when parts of me jiggled a little when I walked, to not want to avoid social interaction for the fear of being called the “fat friend.” (Sidenote: I realize I’m not fat. I’m proud of my big thighs and big booty because I worked my ass on.)

But I digress.

The comparison game has been torturing me---stress weight, stomach ulcers, major depression, horrible anxiety... the list goes on. This mono hit at the right time, honestly. I seriously broke down when I realized I couldn’t work as hard in the gym as I’d like. See that? That self-worth-depends-only-on-gym-results BS? Yeah. That’s been killing me for years. And I’m sick of it.

Since I can’t lift weights, I’m completely adapting my fitness regimen and learning to love myself right now. In the grand scheme of things, no one gives a flying frick that I don’t look like a Gymshark model. So what if my exercise is walking thirty to forty-five minutes around downtown every other day? I might throw in a light bodyweight workout if I have the energy. 

I’m learning to eat intuitively, despite the fact so many girls who lift swear by tracking macros. My history of eating disorders makes this so much harder than it should be (heck, I eat 85% paleo, even when it comes to desserts). But, you know what? I’m a quarter of the way through my life right now. I’m tired of being afraid of eating certain foods. I’m tired of not being able to go out with friends to eat because I don’t know the macros for the items on the menu. 

I’m learning to eliminate everything that increases my tendencies to become depressed or anxious---that means following things on Instagram that motivate me to be healthy, not to look healthy. I’m going to start training for a half-marathon when I get better and use weight training to supplement that for strength. 

In short, I’m learning to live. To not set such rigid standards for myself (as freaking difficult as it is). To not give a flying frick about what other people think of me. To not let food or the gym interrupt making memories with my friends. To realize my self worth lies in my talent, ambition, kindness, and humor. 

Who would’ve thought a virus saved my life?

“MOON DRIVE”

The types as I know them

ISFJ

-wants to cuddle always

-loves fuzzy socks

-gives you gifts when you’re sad

-wonderful baker

-SO BOOK SMART

-takes ten minutes to get a joke

-super athletic

Istp

-tough as nails

-doesn’t really care about humans

-would take a bullet for a dog

-really loves food

-super smart but won’t admit it

-good at literally everything, but gets bored and drops whatever it was.

-SUCH A GOOD WRITER WOW

-has such an edgy dark vibe

Entp

-Vegan (not for animals just to be different & “healthy”)

-gainsss fanatic

-obsessed with plants

-probably a psychopath

-hyped when around friends

-tries extremely hard to get their crap together, but their organization fades away.

-we share the same humor

INTJ

-so, so many puns

-sends the most bizarre IG videos to the group chat

-everybody LOVES her, but she hates 99% of people.

-loves vanilla shakes

-reads so freaking much

-has at least 5 guys in love with her and her reaction is “meh”

-blushes a lot

ENTJ

-such a douche, honestly

-SO GOOD AT LITERALLY ANYTHING

-wants to own a coffee shop one day

-finds everyone inferior

-never tries because there is no competition

-got a 32 on the ACT and isn’t going to college just cuz

-actually really romantic

-has your back like nobody else

INTP

-in his head ALL the time

-actually cares a lot

-snarky comments constantly

-really logical

-can figure anything out

-he is impossible to read

-told me he hasn’t cried for 4 years

-can’t figure out what to do in life

-LOYAL AF

ESFJ

-Done with bs before it starts

-such a goober

-really easy going but a lot of fun

-mediocre intellectually, but could get amazing grades if he applied himself

-has been saying he’s gonna break up with his gf for months and still hasn’t

-plays baseball

-JOCK®

ENFP

-makes weird noises constantly

-so sweet to everyone

-every girl I know is in love with him

-very protective over family/friends

-has a good heart

ENFJ

-just wants the world to be a better place

-in color guard

-so smol

-blames herself for anything that goes wrong

-the SWEETEST

-posts wayyyyy too many heartfelt IG pictures

-loves to paint

-cares

INFJ

-SWEET

-feels awkward

-when she gets mad it’s really funny because she doesn’t look mad at all

-loves nature

-SUPER SMART

-so humble