Strongshape - Mishmash

Arthur Rimbaud (b. 20 October 1854)

“Childhood trauma trains us to anticipate other people's needs while ignoring our own. As we heal, we rediscover ourselves.”

— Thema Bryant, PhD

Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

things to not dwell on:

people who treated you badly

things you can’t change

comparing yourself to others

things to think about more:

baby animals

people who love u unconditionally

good things in your life that make you happy

days and times to look forward to

You will get farther in one week paying close, nonjudgmental attention to the unmet needs underlying your "bad" behavior than you will in a year of punishing yourself and demanding you become a different person. I'm right shut up.

you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.

If someone is critically watching your every move in order to punish, judge and shame you, it's because THEY are abusive, not because YOU are a bad person.