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I’m so scared to tour. The thought of being alone in another state scares me. But I want some REAL money and my city is such a cheapskate

give me sex tipz

Water

Bite his dick

Boys like it when you bark in bed

Fart on that nigga

If you wanna get kinky eat a snickers bar while you suck his dick

Put your whole fist in his ass

When he chokes you unexpectedly….choke that nigga back

Piss on him…its 2k19…we peeing on thots now

Just in case you were feeling discouraged.

I’m such a idiot

I was a hour late to see my favorite regular and now I’m scared he won’t book me again. He didn’t seem mad but i can tell he was kinda pissed. He forgave me after I gave him this bomb ass head but still I’m such a dumbass. Pray to the universe he don’t book another bitch

best advice you’d give a girl?

Get your money. 

Write your book. 

TRAVEL!!!! 

Have kids in your 30s if you want them, see the World first. 

Make a vision board and put EVERYTHING you want to have and touch in this lifetime on it. 

Make an annual goal list and demolish that shit. 

Don’t take dating in your 20s seriously, 32 year old you might not fuck with the same partner energy and/or qualities as 24 year old you. 

Apply to jobs you don’t feel qualified for. 

Buy lots of sex toys. 

Take yourself on bomb ass dates.

Take your friend(s) on bomb ass dates, movie nights and spa days.

Do something once a year to get your heart racing.

Race a car!

Learn how to shoot a gun and then buy one. 

Invest in a lifestyle that encourages your impossible dreams. 

Get rid of friends that are not growing with you. 

Learn to say no and communicate with people to tell them you don’t fuck with them. 

Be selfish.

Live by yourself at least one year before you move in with a partner and/or get married. You will save yourself so many lessons by living alone first. 

Tell people when you don’t have an orgasm. 

Buy lots of shoes, art and plane tickets. 

My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them.

How do you start escorting off bumble and tinder and other dating apps?

Okay I’m going to answer this publicly because you probably aren’t the only one wanting to know this..

I just have my normal cute pictures on the app and I have a normal bio..some of the guys just flat out say they want to pay for sex and some want it to be more “dating” type of feel but it’s still money for sex what you can do is do it two ways : be straightforward or act like the money is for something else Now make sure you do it after you get his number and unmatch him on the app so he can’t report you if he says no but you text him and say “I’m an escort is that okay with you? I would like to meet for drinks with no obligations and if we like each other we can head over to your place or mine.” If you’re freestyling at a bar or hotel wherever you make it seem like the money is for something else and never for sexI tell them I’m a student and I need help paying for my books each one is 350 and I need to pay for 3 they’ll agree and hand over the money

Also you make way more money this way I know a girl who makes like 1-2k an hour just doing this daily

Honestly I know a bit more but don’t feel like typing the rest if you need more help I’ll be glad to message you privately

Sugaring 101: Upping your bedroom game with some sensuality and simple escort tricks.

*** Warning: Only try this with the sugardaddies you actually like and feel some attachment too. And definitely trust ***

Please heed the warning or you will crash and burn if you attempt the following.

PREPARE YOUR MEETING PLACE: If you’re regularly meeting at a hotel room, get daddy to get you a prepaid card so that you can go ahead and rent the room ahead of your visit. This will save him the trouble of doing it and allow you a chance to control your interaction. A lot of escorts do this for that very same reason: control.  For him, the businessman or exec who’s dealing with all kinds of shit this takes some pressure off him. What you have to understand about a successful man is that he’s always under pressure. He’s getting beat to shit daily from work, life, and home and he’s probably middle-aged meaning half of daddy’s life is already gone. Daunting. You need to be the calming voice in his life. When he gets there, of course be in your best lingerie, smelling good, etc, with the sheets pulled back on the bed. Or, answer the door naked, in a pair of red bottoms, etc. Or, ask to keep one of his ties for a souvenir on a previous date and when your next visit at the room arrived, have it on and nothing else.

If you host your visits at your residence, then ask daddy what kind of snack he likes. Fruit? Have some strawberries or grapes waiting for him when he comes over. He likes wine, etc.,? Have a glass poured. You can enjoy glass too. Its ok. If you have a problem drinking with daddy, refer to my warning above. :)

RELAX HIM: Give daddy a massage. Not an hour, just 10 minutes to break him down. This is a good time to ask for shit. If he has dry skin, bring some oil in your purse. First rub his back, making sure you’re getting in between those shoulder blades, etc. Skip the legs, lower torso etc. Unnecessary. He’s tense from meetings and conference calls all day. Turn him over and rub him briefly on his chest before you work your way down to his love zone. Rub his dick and don’t forget the boys. When he’s nice hard, start fellatio (if you do fellatio).  If he doesn’t want a massage or doesn’t have time that’s cool. You need to put it out there anyway. 

Time taken: 7 - 10 minutes

LAY YOUR HEAD ON HIS CHEST: After sex, cuddle up next to him and lay your head on his chest. If he has little or no hair this will be easy. If he’s a hairy bastard you might find another place to lay your head but the goal is to cuddle him. Use the hair to your advantage and play with it as you lie there. Twist it in your fingers or some shit. Make him feel like he just pleased you in every way possible. He probably didn’t, but it’s all about the fantasy. This is easy to do if you like him. Refer to my warning above! Say something meaningful like, “That was good daddy.”  If you have psychological hang-ups about calling him daddy then say “That was good baby..”  or “Mmmm I needed that.” All too often chicks are just lying there side by side with him in her own world. You can remain in your own world just do it cuddling him. This is also a good habit to have when you get married. :) 

Time taken: Not applicable

CLEAN HIM UP: Grab a warm damp warm towel, and remove the condom. Wipe up his penis and go put the condom in the toilet. If no condom was used, you can still clean him up if his penis is about stick to his leg. If  he’s caught off your guard, or ask what you’re doing, tell him “I’m just taking care of you daddy…” I got this one from several Escorts I’ve seen over the years. Trust me. You want some brownie points? Try it a few times. You can even be cute about it and say, “Gosh, you had a lot in there.” Or my FAVORITE “….I see you’ve been saving up for me. You had a lot!” The latter is perfect for you babies seeing daddy once a week. When you’re done cleaning him up, lay back on him. This is also another good time to ask for shit. 

Time taken: 30 - 45 seconds

TASTE IT: Now I might lose a few of you here but it’s my duty to put it out there anyway.  While you cleaning him up, put a forefinger in your mouth and say, “Mmm you taste good.” He might pass the hell out. If you’re good at this he won’t know you don’t actually have some cum on your finger. Hopefully, some of you catch what I mean on the latter. :) Or, if you swallow anyway then nothing is wrong with a little protein on your finger and tasting it.

Time taken:  2 seconds

PUT HIS SHIRT ON: If you’re going to be in the hotel room awhile, try this one out. This will kill him. If he wears good smelling cologne capitalize on it. With the shirt on, pull the collar up to your nose and say, “Mmm I love your smell daddy…” You won’t be lying if he wears good cologne. Chances are you already noticed his cologne but you were too much of a bitch to say you smell good. This is the sexiest shit EVER though. Nothing cuter than your 110, 120, 150 lbs ass in his big ass shirt. One of my previous sugarbabies used to do this. Drove me crazy.

Oh and congratulations!!!! Now he’s going to be thinking about you the rest of the day. You’ve inadvertently left your perfume on his shirt. Now he’s gonna be smelling your pretty little ass the rest of the day. Just don’t leave any lipstick!

Take a selfie with the shirt on. Send it to him days later in between your visits.

Time taken: 10 seconds to put on his shirt. Time elapsed before he wants to take it back off and fuck again: 60 seconds. Likelihood of you getting that Celine purse: High.

HELP HIM GET DRESSED: This one is especially important for the busy executive, businessman or man that works in a professional setting and he’s on his lunch break, or on his way home to his vanilla life. No, don’t help him pull his trousers up. But you can help with the belt as you kiss him on the chest. I’m saying as he buttons his shirt, go help him. Help him button the ones on his sleeves as well. And most important help put his tie back on and straighten it and his collar afterwards. Then finish it with a kiss. If you don’t get a chance to do all that, then collect his shoes and socks and bring them to him. Don’t’ try and put those on - that’s just corny. You’ll love his reaction I promise.

Time taken: 30 – 45 seconds

CUDDLE HIM: Recently, I learned something about myself. I read somewhere that one of the reasons why I cheat is because I as a man want to be cuddled and held. I thought this was bullshit but it’s quite true.  I know this is contrary to all the SD advice you’ve been getting but take it from a long standing member of the sugar community its true. I’ll explain this one better by giving a real life example. Now when I would first come over, Nebraska and I would sit on her bed and talk and she’d find some way to wrap her legs around and hug me like I was her long lost boyfriend. I was going through some things and it felt good for somebody in this world to seemingly take an interest in my plight. Then, she’d just sit there and stare at me like I was a big piece of steak. Staring at my mouth. When I’d talk too long she’d start taking off my clothes. While she was getting me undressed, she was always say one of these 3 things:  “ I know you didn’t’ come here to do all that talking…” or “You just gonna talk?” or my favorite “Or we gonna fuck or not daddy?” One day, after sex I was sitting on the bed and she climbed on the bed, sat down behind me so that I was in between her legs. As I was talking so she kissed me gingerly on my back and also laid her head on my back as we talked.  This shit made me feel like a king. When Nebraska and I ended our arrangement she said, “Well I was actually genuinely interested in you…” This is why I mentioned only try these techniques when you have some type of genuine attraction to daddy. Its easier to do and you won’t be faking which will speak volumes.

Time taken: none. You were going to be doing all this talking anyway, just on one side of the bed or side by side as you sat on the bed. The difference here is you’re cuddling him while you do it.  

Now, I’m about to drop half of you right here.

LET HIM CUM TWICE: You’re laying there in his arms, listening to his bullshit. Reach down and play with his love while he’s talking. After a moment ask, “You got another round in you daddy?” Regardless of his answer, go down and start blowing him again. It should be cleaned if you followed my advice earlier – clean him up. Anyway, if he said no, he’ll appreciate your dedication and let you try and revive him before he stops you. If he says yes, then its self explanatory.  Relax though. Your middle-aged daddy most likely won’t have a second round in him anyway. This METHOD is extremely effective with the sugarbabies that only see their daddy once a week.  But, for other arrangements its works quite well too.  

A lot of chicks are jumping up, cleaning up and rushing out the door, saying how you have so much to do today. Nothing kills a relationship like feeling like you’re being used (even though you actually are!). But remember, you want him around awhile. This is definitely a powerful tool to make that happen. Sends a clear signal that you’re all about pleasing him. (I hope the latter doesn’t get me in trouble). Trust me. An extra several minutes is cheap time to spend if you knew you’d be getting another 4 - 6 months out of daddy.

Time taken: 5 – 7 minutes

FINISHING TOUCHES: Put the finishing touches on it. When you’ve helped him finish getting dressed, and you know he’s on his way back to work or back to business, when he heads out the door say something encouraging like, “Go get’em baby.“ Or if he told you about some crap going on at work, take the opp to regurgitate it. “Fuck Bob. He’s an asshole. You should have got the promotion.” blah blah. You get the point. The latter can be applied even as you both do a last kiss before you head out the door. Again, it’s all about the finishing touches.

Time taken: 2 seconds

I know some of you are saying, “I ain’t doing all that shit.” But remember you are selling a fantasy. You’re giving the most precious part of your body away. Only to have your average sugardaddy relationship end in 2 to 3 months? All because he’s had his fill of your kitty. I assure you incorporating these techniques into your visits with daddy will go a long way and add months onto your relationship. This will help keep him coming back for more and more. Another way to put it, why not hook daddy for several months or even a few years and milk him dry (no pun intended) with just a few extra things?

I put the time on the end of these sections to show how long these little techniques actually take. Like I always say just a little extra goes a LONG way. These simple yet EXTREMELY effective techniques WILL prolong your sugar relationship. So why not incorporate them into your experience? I GUARANTEE daddy will respond to this stuff. I know because I’ve had it all done to me before and it blew me away then and it blows me away now as I type!

Damn I’m horny now. And my visit with sugarbaby isn’t for a few days.

Time to close the office door and get in a little pornhub and redtube.

Only fans 🙄

Only fans really didn’t approve me. Should I just make another Twitter then try again?

Thank you guys for 143 followers ♥️

My 2020 smells like:

Your flight confirmation is...

You’ve completed your savings goal!

“The tab’s on me.”

“Do you want me to Zelle or CashApp the deposit to you?”

Your order has been shipped.

New loft, who this?

Your trip is in 10 days!

Your balance has been paid in full.

Your autopay enrollment has been completed.

Dubai or Maldives?

Your new credit card is on its way!

Congratulations, your debt has been cleared.

I paid for your half!

Can be used for escorting too!

Sugar Baby Guide w/ 200+ tips!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Suggested sugar reading list

The Jetsetting chick and IT girl guide

This is a guide for girls wanting whale daddies and long term relationships or to live like a Russian IT girl. This is for girls who are interested in the jetset lifestyle. Yachts, parties, international travel and galas.Who want to do more than date men.This is by no means easy. And not for the faint of heart

1. You

You are your biggest investment. And if you want investment then you invest in yourself!!!!You’re much more likely to go to a store that is clean and presentable cause it shows they’ve actually put effort into making the place look decent for customers. Same with you.

You are best your asset so read the following

2. Your look

Looks matter. But you don’t have to be beautiful, just attractive and captivating. We all like things that appeal to our senses. Notice how some dudes have fetishes for legs, heels, tight dresses and long hair, that’s how powerful the physical is!

Ideally, you are likely to be a show stopper, luxurious flowing hair, good skin, you look amazing in your fitted clothing and your body looks great. You dress to accentuate your best features. You do not neglect details and your nails,makeup and scent are on fleek. You look expensive and alluring.

3. Career

A lot of your mega successful SB’s hide behind their businesses and careers.Most successful men are career driven so this is a fairly easy way to meet them & owning a business no matter how small gives you endless excuses to go to networking events and business socials all over the globe.

 Any job can be turned into a goldmine Here are some industries and careers you can look into.

Real estate/property

Makeup and fashion

Chef and waitress

Realtor, designer

Personal shopper

Air hostess

Dancer and musician

Hair stylist

Adult entertainment(stripping for example)

Personal assistant

Oil and gas industry

Hostess

Jobs in business district

4. Socialize

Socializing is at the heart of everything. Knowing the right people is essential if you want to get invited to a yacht party in France.

A lot of these sites are trashy and the men have no tangible assets. It is not like it used to be. These men often do not live lavishly. Do what Russian women do and go outside. They practically plant their selves where rich guys are. They’re not sat down waiting for a inbox message. Its basic mathematics, the more options, the more chance you stand of getting what you want. Your social life needs to be a daily thing. You could

Go to auctions

Exclusive nightclubs

Take art classes

Volunteer

Get involved with local politics

Visit country/ private members clubs

Investment seminars

Dine and drink in exclusives wealthy areas

Learn sailing, assistant, skiing, tennis, golf

Black tie events- make an effort to go to galas, races and balls

Opera, galleries, theater and ballet

Move, travel and or live a wealthy area

Gyms in rich areas

Dance classes -some rich folk love to dance

Art classes

Hotel bars

Upscale supermarkets

5. Perceived value

You need to be good at something. It is a market place out here. We are conditioned to want the best and be surrounded by it. And when you’re someone who is successful, you’re gonna be drawn to success in others

Put yourself and talents on the limelight. If you are beautiful and tend to stand out, act as if you are the perfect eyecandy. Maybe you are domineering and bossy which may be a good thing for someone tired of having their ass kissed all day.Maybe you are super intelligent and a real  delight to a hardcore scholar.If you are super funny and nice to be with, show it off. Own the hell out of your skills and best attributes and you’ll attract the right people, It has been proven time and time again that’s there’s no real different between some expensive brands and regular ones. Only the perceived value.

Your reputation, attributes and persona makes your perceived value. act royal , get treated royal

6. Fit in

Ancient courtesans groomed their selves to fit in with the upper echelon. They would train for months to years. Nobody questioned their motives cause did what the rich did and as a result became one of them. They were often accepted into the toughest of circles and able to gain access to wealthiest of men for this reason.

Learn luxury living inside out. Learn about watches, cars, property and expensive and fancy shit.Eat what the rich eat if you can afford to. Go where they go. Party where they party. Read what they read.Don’t lie and say you’re accustomed to luxury living when you don’t know your Chanel from Cartier. Which brings me to….

7. Etiquette

Learn how to speak, act and present yourself. Learn your basic etiquette. You’ll be amazed at how simple things can be perceived as rude or classless.Always be learning and be in motion. Learn several subjects and do courses. Expand your vocabulary.

8. Social skills

You need to master social skills from eye contact to tone of voice. You need or be an amazing conservator. You need to learn how to diffuse tension.You need to be friendly and approachable, You need to be able to discuss some topics with  passion at any one time.

Then you can move on to heavier things like manipulation, seduction and persuasion.

9. You

don’t force yourself into a lifestyle you may not enjoy.Take care of number one. always take time off to look after yourself.You don’t need a man to live a fancy lifestyle, you may just want to network.

How do you manage all your clients?

I have a reminders app on my phone. Plus I don’t take as much clients because I prefer to be low volume.

I’m not a sugar baby anymore (hence the name change).

Formerly sugarbabynola, After almost 2 years in the bowl and 3 SDs later I’m giving up the whole pretense of the bowl. I started escorting last year and was mixing the two but I’ve finally decided to just settle on being a full time paid whore. I don’t have the patience for being a sugarbaby anymore, I don’t have the patience for men in general. Being an escort is fast, freeing and to the point. Men know that if they want to see me they HAVE to pay and they HAVE to pay whatever my rate is. No more trying to get money from men who don’t want to give it and it’s like pulling teeth to get a small £100 for groceries. Escorting has been a much better way for me to get money from men and we immediately both know what the stitch is. They’re here to have sex and a good time and I’m here to get money and leave. Two people leave happy and most of the time will see each other again, and again. Until I’m looking for something serious, I won’t be entering the bowl again. For now, I’m sticking to freestlying and escorting.

I freestlye for clients too. I go to hotels and get a drink at the bar and just wait. When I’m approached I lay the sexy on thick and get them talking about sex. I show them a few pictures on my website and say something like, “trust me I know every devilish way to make your toes curl” simultaneously showing them a picture of me with my nipples peaking through my lingerie or something. 8/10 the men give in and ask how much it’ll cost to spend the night with me. I double my rate and they pay it. They’re way too horny to turn me down. After they cum and the realisation sets in that they’ve paid for sex I’m long gone and probably onto the next hotel if the night is still young. Obviously sometimes it doesn’t work this well and they either haggle on price or say no that they don’t pay for sex, sometimes I press harder or I give him a kiss on the cheek and tell him to enjoy his night, depending on the vibe.

Anyway, was just keeping you guys up to date with what this whore is up to. Do what works for you darlings. The bowl is over saturated at this point in time. It seems that when you pretend you don’t want money men think you’re in it for just them and they get offended when you ask for money. But when you put yourself in a position where you demand their money off the bat, they’re more than willing and eager to give it to you.

Men are dumb. Just take their money anyway you can.

Sex during your period

If you have an appointment with a client or a SD, or just feel like having sex, the triangle sponges can be your life savers!!!

I am leaving to my country for 2 months and I was seeing my bf for the last time today (I cried😭) and it was my first day of period soo very heavy. I drank 2 teaspoons of coconut oil mixed with tea and took 2 Ibuprofene to regulate my blood flow at least. And then I used the triangle sponges.

So here’s how it works : - you buy triangle cosmetic sponges at the drug store they cost like 3.5$ - you get it wet and then you boil it to sanitize it - run it under non boiling water after - stick it up to your vagina, aaaall the way up

If you want to remove it, push out like you are pooping. Its better to wait a little after sex to do it so that your vagina has its original size

Source: Google

AND IT WORKED. HE DID NOT FEEL ANYTHING AT ALL AND I HAD AMAZING BLOODLESS AND MESS FREE SEX 😍

Real shit about being a sugar baby/escort.

EVERYBODY CAN NOT HAVE A HUSTLER MENTALITY

I’m tired of this shit. My friend recently got scammed by a dude that messaged her on a social media site claiming he can buy her cars, houses and jewelry. He don’t know her or never met her AT ALL. He proceeds to say if she wants proof he can send her 650. Her dumbass gave out her Email address and routing number. Even though I told her to never give out any bank info she still does it. In a few days the bank will recognize that money as a fraud and take her money out.

But you want to know something even crazy? I DONT FEEL BAD. Some of y’all not ready for this game. You got to be on your A GAME AT ALL TIMES. SOME OF YALL DONT GOT WHAT IT TAKES TO HUSTLE. These men will eat your asses alive if they smell a little of naivety. You can not be desperate for money when you want to become a sugar baby/ escort. Because then you will settle and get scammed by dumbasses like him. I’m tired of y’all lowering your rates and values to cater to these men. You got to always have standards within yourself and who ever you seek. If you can’t uphold your values and be smart about your decisions then go the fuck home.

Period!

I saw a post that was regarding the dynamics of freestyling, essentially saying that to be successful, you either had to look like a Victoria’s Secret model or to simply be “Asian”, which is not only false, but incredibly stupid, ludicrous, and outright racist - demonstrating that the original poster likely has little practice freestyling and has quite possibly no idea what she’s talking about. Was it written out of frustration of other’s success, insecurity with one’s looks and body type, or was it just an utterly false generalization to justify your failure? Or perhaps all three?

In regards to the content of the aforementioned post:

No.

Absolutely not.

You get to freestyling by embodying a look, by holding a very strong, palpable physical presence, and by implying subtly with your body language that you are sexually available. You freestyle successfully by observing your surroundings and seeing where you can employ your feminine capital best, ideally where you observe men looking for a sexual partner, where there is a greater proportion of men to women, and where you pay attention to those who desire you. The dynamics are not particularly complex. You should always remain unfazed by rejection. There is a very, very, very steep learning curve and you either follow the learning curve, take the hits, embrace the struggle, and demand better from yourself - shape yourself - sell yourself - or you fail and don’t bother improving or acquiring any success.

To imply that by being of a certain look or being a certain race is to automatically acquire success is just to demonstrate complete, utter, and blatant stupidity, an inability to learn, and total absence of attention to the power dynamics at play. The absolute ridiculousness - I would be embarrassed to write such a thing. Those who freestyle most successfully are those who are not only opportunistic and highly observant amongst their surroundings but also ruthless with the standards they put amongst themselves. The best people who freestyle exert extreme and utter discipline with their looks, their body type, the way they move, the way they dress. They put everything on the line. They’re willing to suffer. They do all or nothing. They might starve themselves. They might restructure their whole face. They might buy a whole new body. They might fly across the country, wherever the money goes. They’ll do anything, anything, everything, to get that bag. Do you do that? Do you act the way they do?

There is no “try”. There is no “potential”. There are no “maybe’s”. You either do, or you do not. You either will, or you will not. You either are ready, or you are not.

Stop making excuses for yourself and false statements to justify your mediocrity.

I hate to break it to you, but this lifestyle is highly, highly competitive and it isn’t for everyone - and if you’re not ready to make major sacrifices, regarding your appearance, regarding your diet, regarding your wardrobe, regarding your personality, you may continuously find failure.

And if you continuously find failure, perhaps, the problem, may in fact be you. Perhaps, at your present form, you may not just be good enough. I know, I know, it hurts to admit that after coddling your ego for so long. Simply put: you’re just beat out by the competition. You’re just not invested enough or observant enough to truly enter the game. You’re just not inputting the right effort at the right time. Scrambling to put the puzzle together under the clock, and missing every time. Running in the rat race but failing to take the short cut and wondering why you continuously get outperformed. You say you want it; you talk about it all the time; you think about it. But at the end of the day, what do you procure? Nothing.

Bag remains unsecured.

Run your mouth about acquiring “sponsors.” Tell yourself you’ll be a billionaire trophy wife. Dream and write fiction about becoming an heiress. Fantasize about the peak wealth in Dubai, Monaco, Moscow. But in reality, you could barely even acquire an entry-level benefactor. The average $50K arrangement I mentioned prior, has never, ever, ever, even come close to your personal orbit - and with the way you act now, the way you look now, the way you are now, would never, ever, ever come your way. Ever. In reality, the upscale men in those premier locations wouldn’t even fuck you for free, let alone pay you for sex. In reality, you’ve never even met a billionaire, never had a billionaire even look at you twice, never even been acquainted with a billionaire, never had an arrangement with a billionaire... what makes you think you could marry one again?

Rather than making blatant and inaccurate generalizations or attempting to falsely justify your failure, your resentment and obvious envy may be better channeled into self-improvement. A desperate attempt to salvage a wrecked self-esteem, as you wonder and wonder and wonder why nothing big comes your way. As you wonder why every time you go out, you get ignored and come home with nothing. You get one pathetic simp to follow you around, you get one beta buck bit-player to abide by you, you get one man to entertain your entry-level luxury requests, and you feel like you know everything - and you couldn’t even entertain them for long; they left you soon. Then talk big talk online, spew false information from your desperate insecurities, act like you know it all, act like you’ve seen it all - when really, all you know is the tip of the iceberg.

Or maybe, just quit.

How do you freestyle as an escort? Do men get the hint, do you explicitly say pay me for my time when you meet them, and at what point do you name your hourly?

I went from wanting to be married, pregnant, and with a mortgage by the age of 30 to wanting to be a business woman with 2 fully paid houses and $1 million in liquid by the time I’m 30. Fuck the idea that women have to live the suburban dream and have a timer to do so.

Shoutout my regular ♥️.

He wanted to book a duo but I was a bit hesitant because I’m bi sexual but never actually had sex with a girl. So I didn’t want my first time to be a session because I’m a bit shy and I know I might freeze up. So instead of getting angry he actually made me feel better about it and was happy to let me say no. Regulars like him make my job so easy and happy.

How do you stay safe while being a sugar baby. That is my biggest concern.

Normally I’d just send you a link to A-Pinch-Of-Sugar-Please’s blog, buuut since she’s a psychotic bitch, I’d be happy to help you out.

BEFORE MEETING:

Invent fake facts about yourself. Create an email address specifically for sugaring and only email them there. Get the Google Voice App and create a phone number to text/call men from distinct from your own. Use a fake name for the first few dates. List the next town over as your location on your profile and never tell them the actual college that you go to — especially if it’s small! If they ask what your parents do for a living, make it up or be vague. Once you’re super comfortable with them, you can tell them “Oh my name’s actually Katherine, not Katelynn” or even give them your real phone number if you want to as I often snapchat with NASA. But he’s the only one of my SDs who knows it as Google Voice works flawlessly and the others don’t really need it. 

On an opposite note, get as many details as possible about him from him or through background searching. If he tells you he’s the CEO of Apple, go to Apple’s website and confirm that. Also, invest in a Spokeo Account. Don’t be that annoying SB who begs girls to look men up for her. A lot of girls only buy the monthly plan which has a search quota so if these girls are kindly looking men up for you, that’s less POTs they can search for themselves. I think it’s like $49.95 per year and it’s well worth the money for the amount of information it gives you. You can reverse search his phone number, email, name, etc. to find out his address, income, family members — anything! I love to find their children’s names then look them up on Facebook to see how they live. Riding horses on vacation in Santorini as your cover photo? Okay, I’ll break bread with your dad tomorrow. Little Ashley’s making duck faces and wearing Abercrombie? Sorry, John, I’m actually no longer searching for an SD — best of luck!

Get as many photos as possible (5+) from a man you’re talking to so that you can reverse search them and find out company info, criminal history, or if he’s on any other sites to cross-check age, location, and other facts on the profile you first saw him on.

Before a first meet, Skype with him (for 5 to 30 minutes) to again make sure the photos he sent are of him and not some handsome model on JCrew’s website (guys on SD4M do this all the time — you’re not slick)! While you don’t want the skype date to replace the first date, it is a good way to keep and/or build up his interest and by revealing yourself in 3D and decreasing his chances of cancelling/flaking on you. New SDs in particular often get nervous by the whole process, especially if they’re married, so if he sees “Wow! She’s gorgeous/real/funny/witty/ and excited to see me Thursday!” he’ll be more at ease not only to go through with the meet, but to spend more chedda. Moreover, a Skype date can show you “Wow! He’s an asshole and begging me to slide the camera down to my boobs.” So you can know way before you spend hours on hair and make-up that the date will be a waste.

NON RED-FLAGS:

Need for discretion. If a man doesn’t tell you much about himself, his job, or his life, is using a GV number or a fake email, is going by a fake name, it does not matter at all. 9 times out of 10 I show up to POT dates knowing the results of their latest colonoscopy while they think I don’t even know their name. Focus on the steps above and let them think they’re slicker than you. Nigerian Prince never told me his real name. I knew it from 5 seconds after he emailed me, but I played along and feigned ignorance because I knew he was safe and rich and whatever other secrets he kept from me were irrelevant. After our first date, he revealed his real career, location, (still not his real name) etc. and I’d already known it all, but, like us, he was simply wary of giving too much info to the wrong person. My favorite is when a guy emails you from his real email using a fake name. “Inbox: New Email from Steve Jobs” “Hey it’s Mike!” lmfao Hey Mike! Whatever makes you comfortable enough to meet me for dinner and pay me. All this being said, sometimes a man’s “need for discretion” makes it fucking impossible to find out anything from him. In that case, I say “While I respect your need for discretion, it does not trump my need for safety and I would not feel comfortable meeting you for dinner without…(at least a skype date)(as many photos as I’ve sent you)(information about XYZ)(etc.).” If he refuses to accommodate, he’s blatantly disrespectful of your safety concerns and he’s not worth your time.

RED-FLAGS:

Asks for sexy photos. You really need to make sure your profile photos are serve their purpose and depict what you look like from head to toe. If you only include iPhoto face shots, that’s dandy but you need a full body shot of you in a cute outfit and I also always include a bikini shot. Nothing raunchy, just a fun day at the beach. If they’re asking for sexy photos and you already have full body shots on your profile, then kindly end it because they’re 12 year old horn dogs stuck in 45 year old bodies. But if your photos suck and they just want to confirm that you’re not Shrek, then you need to amp up your profile and oblige.

Asks your favorite position, kinkiest moment, sex history, what you’re into etc. There’s no space for immature, tacky, desperate rapid fire sex questions in the sugar bowl. At its core, sugaring is about companionship, chemistry, and fun times. If he needs a rap sheet of what you will and will not do in the bed room, then he should call up a pimp and ask for a very specific hooker. Even if you tell him this and he apologizes and stops, you still know that that’s his main incentive for joining this site so he’s probably looking for pay for play but has too much pride to admit to wanting a prostitute. If you’re fine with 4 hours a month with this man for however much you agree on, then boom! You just landed on easy money. But if you’re looking strictly for a sugar arrangement with outings, dinners, etc. then you need to move on. But be mindful that a lot of these men might be into BDSM, so if they ask specifically if you have interest in that then that’s not necessarily a red flag so much as them not wanting to waste either of your time. If you do say yes, however, and he presses you with sex questions, he’s equally guilty of the above offense.

Sleezy username/bad grammar. If “Hotsex69” messages you, you already know what he’s there for. He’s not a sugar daddy. He’s blatantly looking for pay for play.

Takes offense to your precautions. A lot of men will quickly realize that you both have iPhones and that your messages aren’t coming up blue. If he questions it, let him know straight up, “I’m using an app called Google Voice so that I don’t have to share my real phone number with strangers. Once I’m comfortable enough with you, I will give you my real number and you can reach me there.” 99% of guys completely get it and think “Damn, I wish I’d thought of that. She’s smart and safe and not full of shit! I can tell a lot of guys have wasted her time and I don’t want to be one, so I better step it up if I ever want the honor of using iMessage with this hottie!” The other 1% will cry like little bitches and be like “We’ve hit it off thus far! Don’t you trust me?!?” If he honestly thinks trust can be fostered after a few email messages, he’ll be equally pissy when you don’t have sex on the first date or when you reject his marriage proposal on the second date.

Insists on meeting for just drinks. 10:00pm drinks at the hotel bar so you can get drunk and then go upstairs? Um no. In a fun way, tell him you’d rather meet for dinner at this great restaurant you’re dying to try yada yada. I had this one guy come back at me with “How about we start with drinks and if we hit it off, then we can get dinner?” Lmfao why?! I literally see no incentive to that besides wanting to roofie me. If you’re that awkward and can’t be around a younger, more attractive woman without drinking then let’s drink at dinner. Have 10 glasses of wine with your food. I don’t care. But if I’m getting dolled up, I’m eating food. You are not skimping out on buying me dinner and you are not roofie-ing me and you are not getting me drunk so you can drag me back to your lair. I do too much damn cardio to drink my calories. Buy me dinner, you fuck.

MEETING:

Meet in a public place and STAY in a public place. Stroll in Central Park? Awesome! He wants to wander past the “DO NOT ENTER” sign and show you this ‘amazing view of the river’? Nope. Restaurants, coffee, theater — doesn’t matter as long as you’re surrounded by witnesses.

Have your own transportation to AND from a first meet. And from. And. From. AND FROM!!! Not “Oh I took a taxi here, but let me save $10 and go home with him — he was so funny and obviously legitimate!” Even if that’s true and he’s a sweetie and who he says he is, these men never need to know where you live. (Notice I did not say never should know. Doctor knows where I live and that’s fine. But he doesn’t need to.) If you ultimately decide you’re comfortable with having an SD over at your apartment, then that will come after several dates, not the first. Plus, the chase is half the fun for him. Don’t reveal all of yourself too quickly. For this same reason, never get into his car on the first date. Besides just safety reasons, you don’t want him to feel like (physically and mentally) that he has you 100%. Leave something to be desired.

Tell someone where you are and who you’re going with. If you’re close with a friend or relative who is non-judgmental, make sure they know where your date is and when you’ll be back. Otherwise, find a resource on here (I’ll gladly help you out)and text them (from your GV number) where you are going, when you get there, when you leave, and when you are home. Whenever I get in an SDs car for the first time, I always text my sugar friends his license number.

Some SBs insist on staying sober. I like to drink and I can handle it, so I do. But definitely don’t get drunk. It’s sloppy and unattractive but will also distract you from your goal of setting an allowance/arrangement in place and getting to know this man better. Plus, it will impair your judgment and prevent you from remembering the rest of these safety tips.

NON-RED FLAGS:

Doesn’t bring a gift or cash to the first date. Stop being so entitled. At this point, he owes you just as much as you owe him — nothing.

The car he drives. The $3000 allowance of a man who drives an Aston Martin is just as green as that of the man who drives a Jeep Grand Cherokee.

Offers you a ride there or back. He might genuinely want to save you the hassle of travelling. Most of these men are fathers and have that protective instinct. It’s 9pm, dark out, she’s waiting for a cab, this is nonsense, I’ll drive her. It’s not a redflag that he’s trying to be a gentleman, but either way, maintain your stance and politely decline.

Awkward behavior. Steve Jobs gave brilliant speeches, but outside of that, the dude was awkward as fuck. Nonetheless, he was richer than God. If a guy reaches to hold your hand on the first date and you don’t want him to, just say, “John, I’m having an absolute blast but I’m just not comfortable with that yet.” There’s no need to flip out and write a post saying OMG THIS GUY WAS SO CREEPY HE LIKE TRIED TO RAPE ME BLACKLIST!!!!! Doctor is the most awkward guy I’ve ever met in my entire life. Like him, many of these POTs were valedictorians of Harvard who went on to spend the next 8-12 years of their lives accumulating degrees in the dungeons of the Ivy Leagues. They lack sunlight and social skills. It’s okay. That doesn’t mean be wishy-washy when he tries to cop a feel. No. Be firm and put him in his place. If he makes you excessively uncomfortable, end the date and don’t pursue another. But if he stutters or can’t maintain eye contact or holds eye contact for too long or snorts or recites how beautiful you are or has a creepy smile, that doesn’t necessarily make him a potential serial killer.

RED FLAGS:

Talks about hotel time, private time, intimate time, ‘getting away’. There will be no sex on the first date. There will be no sex on the first date. There will be NO SEX on the first date. If he thinks dinner and a few hundred dollars gets you two “alone time” at the Ritz Carlton, then send him packing. Be blunt and embarrass that loser. Literally say, “John, I’ve had a blast getting to know you thus far but I have zero interest in trading sex for lobster and a gas money. I’m a lady who is looking for a gentleman with the means to provide for her and support her. If you’re only interested in sex in exchange for money, then you’re looking for an escort, not a sugar baby, and a second date would be a waste of both of our time.” Scare the shit out of him and make him realize just how crass and pathetic he’s being. You wear the pants. He’ll straighten up very quickly, or realize that you’re right and head down to the corner of main street instead.

Cringes at the bill or what you’re ordering. If he can’t afford lobster, desert, or how many drinks you’re getting, he can’t afford you. This is an absolute no brainer. Even if he says he can afford your $3000 monthly allowance, if it means he’s going without food, laundry, or anything else just to afford it for you now, there WILL come a later when he leaves you hanging. A real SD loves to treat you and doesn’t care if you buy the bar!

Switches stories. It’s one thing from initially stating he’s in finance to getting more specific about which sector or region he works in, but if yesterday he was CEO of Apple and today he’s a professor, he’s probably full of shit. Don’t be afraid to call him out on it. “I thought you said —-?” Learn the dynamics of body language and be able to discern when someone is lying or hiding key information from you. He could very well be the manager of the local K-Mart hoping to spend as many free dates with you as possible before you catch him in his lie.

Insists on anything. If he’s choosing your meal for you, forcing you to ride home with him, or backing you into a corner in any way, ditch him. If he’s that pushy on the first date, he’ll be even more pushy on the second or on the third because you let him win this time.

DATING:

Use a condom.

If you don’t use a condom, get tested regularly together and show each other the results.

RED FLAG 

Doesn’t meet allowance. If he owes you $500 per meet and misses a meet, he needs to bring it to the next meet, or else he’s breaking the terms of the arrangement. If it’s the end of the month and he shows up without allowance, he needs to send it to you/bring it to the next meet, or else he’s breaking the terms of the arrangement. Do not let him get comfortable and think of you as a friend or girlfriend. This is a SUGAR ARRANGEMENT. Do not let him treat you like something that you’re not and get sloppy with the reason why we’re here.

Wants to meet your family. Doctor still insists on introducing me to his sisters. Eck. Whatever. But he’s never meeting any of my family. I am not your girlfriend. This is not a relationship. We have no real future together. Read this haiku. It is the anthem of the bowl.

Insists on not using a condom, trying XYZ in bed that makes you uncomfortable. As always, don’t do anything you’re uncomfortable with and let them know. A real SD will put his desires aside for your safety and comcort. If he’s being pushy in bed or otherwise, he’s not there for your best interest.

NON-RED FLAG

Asks about your personal life. It’s not weird for a man to want to know what classes you’re taking or what’s new in your world. He’s not being creepy or nosy, he’s just curious about what makes you tick. He shouldn’t be prying into if you have a boyfriend or anything super specific, but don’t get weirded out if he asks a lot of things about you.

Asks for sexy pics or texts suggestively. After you’re intimate together, this really is fair game to ask. As always, you need not oblige, and if you do, play it safe and don’t include your face or use SnapChat. But just because he’s thinking of sex more doesn’t mean he’s still not invested in being a sugar daddy. If it makes you uncomfortable, say so. If he’s a true SD, he’ll respect your boundaries and get over it.

Is affectionate in public. Just because he likes to hold your hand and kiss you, doesn’t mean he’s thinking of you as a girlfriend and less of an SD and forgetting your arrangement. If PDA makes you uncomfortable and you need a bit more discretion, let him know. But just because he likes your soft skin doesn’t mean he’s going to propose and leave your arrangement in the dust. He might just like your soft skin.

Hates shopping. Not surprisingly, a lot of men hate shopping, especially for women or with women or in women’s stores. So just because he’s not buying you louboutins doesn’t mean he won’t give you the money to buy them yourself. 

IF YOU REMEMBER NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER THIS:

Your token line is: “I’m not comfortable with that (yet).” Don’t be wishy-washy! If he wants to have sex and you lie and say “Oh uh I’m on my period” he’ll just ask again the next time. Instead, be honest and be firm saying you’re not comfortable with sex, riding in his car, his hand on your leg, meeting his mom, etc. etc. etc. Drop this line WHENEVER you need to say no. It sets the tone that you are the one who sets the boundaries of the relationship and that those boundaries will not be crossed. If a man ever persists against something you’ve blatantly stated makes you uncomfortable, then you know it’s time to end things.

Never let the prospect of money trump the prospect of danger.

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Woke up to 103 followers

I just wanted to say thank you to my followers. I know 103 followers is low but I don’t care. I’m grateful for you all following my journey into escorting. ♥️♥️

I now have a favorite client.

250 deposit and 750 in cash later.

Not only did he comply with my screening. He sent over my deposit. The only pet peeve is that I had to ask for the donation up front. (Which is annoying) but other then that it’s all good. He was awkward at first but I slowly warmed up to him and we had an amazing conversation.

Thank you Mr L. Hope to see you again soon ♥️

Screening

Here’s the information I request on my contact form, and how I use it.

Required information is marked with an asterisk*

*First name

*Middle name

*Last name

*Email address

*Phone number

*Do you prefer texting or calling?

Texting 

Calling

Either

*Provider References

Please provide the name, email, website address or ad link, and contact number for AT LEAST TWO currently active companions, and the dates you last saw them. 

Age

Employment Verification (REQUIRED if you have less than two provider references, STRONGLY RECOMMENDED otherwise)

Employer’s name, your position/title, company phone number, your direct line or extension, and story for me to use when I call (or other way for me to verify employment, such as an employee photo ID badge)

*Appointment Date and Time

*Appointment Duration

P411/TER/localboard/Datecheck Info

Outift request (not guaranteed)

*What are you looking to get out of our date?

*Where did you find me?

Is there anything else you’d like to tell me?

RECOMMENDED Driver’s License Upload

OPTIONAL Face Photo Upload

How I use this information:

Google their name, both with and without quotes around their name (quotation marks tell the engine to search specifically for that exact phrase, not similar phrases)

Google their email address, both with and without quotations

Google their phone number, both with and without quotations

Plug their phone number and email address into the search feature of my local board to see if they’ve ever been blacklisted

Go to your state’s courts website, and search their court records database for his name. If your state separates their database by county, search for your county, his county, and a few surrounding counties. In my state, all superior court cases are available to view. You can see what pleading/motion was filed, and when, as well as the final judgment. You do have to pay to request the actual documents to see their contents, and you probably cannot do this anonymously (in my county, you have to call the county clerk’s office). In my state, district and municipal cases cannot be viewed, but they will still show up in the search results. Your state may be different. 

Search for them on Facebook. Often their wives or children have much more of their profiles publicly visible. 

Search for any information on their family members. 

(I will be buying a Spokeo subscription soon, so I can plug all their info into here, as well)

Google the providers (normally Googling their name and city will pop them up if they have any sort of online presence). Or just find them based on the info he gave you.

See what kind of reputation those providers have. What to they charge? Do they have any rob reports or bad reviews posted of them? Do they look like they have their shit together? Do they have their own website? Does it look nice? Are there a ton of typos? Having your own website legitimizes you. Do they have professional photos, or are they bathroom selfies?

Contact the providers. I start off by emailing them. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. Billy Joe is requesting a date with me and used you as a reference. Can you please tell me if he was safe, clean and respectful? Would you recommend him to another provider? Anything else you can tell me about him and his personality I would very much appreciate! Best, Foxxxy.” I follow up with a text. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. I just sent you an email with a reference request. If you could get back to me promptly, I would really appreciate it!” 

See what they say. Duh. 

Contact his employer. The one time I called a client’s company, it was quite well-known and Google-able. I called the main company line, and asked to be connected to the president of _____. He was already en route on the plane, but I was able to hear his voice during his voicemail recording. A simple phone call to his cell phone would match up his voice, verifying he does work there. I have had a few clients send me photos of their photo ID badge (military personnel, for example). 

Obviously check to see how many Okay’s they have, or if they’re on the whitelists for the hobby IDs they provided you. Search their usernames/IDs to see if anything negative pops up. 

If they sent you a photo of their driver’s license: search Google Maps for the address on the card. Do they live in a nice part of town? Google the address. Has it popped up on Zillow lately? Any homeowner info pop up? You might be able to search their driver’s license number, either by Googling or going to your state highway patrol site, though I haven’t tried this myself.

If they sent you a photo of their face: reverse Google image search that shit! Also reverse search for it on TinEye. Do they look friendly? 

This sounds like a lot, but doesn’t take all too long once you get the hang of it. This doesn’t guarantee your safety, but it sure does reduce the risk of an assault or an arrest. 

Ughhh

I have a 4 hour appointment tomorrow and I don’t even know what to wear. I have so much shit in my closet it’s ridiculous.

What’s the Game Plan?

Disclaimer: This is purely for me, do not come on here with any judgement about how I’m choosing to conduct business. If you see anything here that might be helpful to you, then by all means, implement it. If not, move on.

Escorting Persona

Changing (Back) My Wardrobe

I’m going back to dressing how I normally did when I was freestyling and just in my regular life for events and such. Dressing how I originally did. Time to bring out the Victoria Beckham, Cushnie et Ochs, Brandon Maxwell, Milly, Roksanda, Stella McCartney, and Jason Wu pieces that have been just sitting in my closet. I’m also going to hold back on certain shoes because they look so trashy now.

New Photos & Photography Styles

Black Lotus — For sultry images. Will be doing in the next 2 months with very dark and classic pieces.

AT Glamour London — For glossy and polished photos. He’s lovely to work with and I can’t wait to collaborate with him again. I can’t use the past photos he shot of me (even though they’re sooo amazing) for privacy reasons. I’ll be doing so when next in London in the next couple of months.

Hello Miss - For the really light and vibrant style. I’ve sort of just missed his Canadian tour since I was away. He’s still available for another week, but our schedules are conflicting, it’ll have to be if he’s back next year (unless I tour Australia early next year).

Inamorata Photo - For the pov aesthetic. Specifically “The Date” package. I’m thinking February 2020 since I’ll definitely be in NYC.

Strategic Engagement

I currently try to follow all SW’s that follow me, however I really can’t relate to some of the content on my timeline. I feel like it comes across as rude to not follow back a SW that follows you, and I feel almost guilted into following back girls that are new and have no following. I genuinely would love to RT and support everyone, but some of the content does not match up with my intended branding and I’m 1) not trying to get shadowbanned for RTing nudity/profanity/pretty much anything that goes again twitter guidelines and 2) the content is not something that MY targeted audience would appreciate or interact with. Yes, this totally sounds like a whorearchy thing, and maybe it is. I feel like no one is willing to admit it, but I simply can’t relate to a lot of the people on the platform. As terrible as it sounds, I have to stop interacting indiscriminately. Perhaps I should start utilizing the mute button.

Advertising

I still have to figure this one out since I’m not a fan of advertising. I made a lot last year and I basically never advertised. A good chunk of my income this year has come from monthly “arrangements”, my regular clients that I met last year from not-advertising, and touring Asia & Europe. I’m thinking I’d like to start advertising in the US as a large percentage of my North American clients are from the US and far outweigh my clients from Canada. However, the well known sites are not an option for me considering there are raids with Eros and I’m not interested in providing my ID to multiple sites. Tryst works locally and in Asia, but it’s otherwise useless elsewhere. Slixa is a waste of time and gets almost no traffic, plus they’re very discriminatory (that’s a conversation for another day). I really like Scarlet Blue for when I’m touring Asia & Europe. I got the required vouches for P411 but I’m not sure if I want to give up my ID to use it; I’ve heard varying feedback and opinions from providers, some love it and others absolutely loathe it. I also can’t guarantee that they won’t have the same issue as Eros or TER. At this point, Twitter might be my best bet which brings me back to my dilemma of hating social media. However, I’ll try my best to push out content and build a following.

Escorting and Social Climbing

Touring Internationally For Events

This is general advice and can be implemented by anyone. It’s tried and true, I did this. This, by far, has been the most lucrative aspect of this industry. It’s extremely tiring both physically and psychologically, but last year I toured for 2 months, took a two month break, then toured for another 4 months; I was basically a shell of myself by the end, but I made a tremendous amount of money and made great connections for personal life and work life. I did a similar thing this year, but the longest I’ve gone is a month and a half straight without a break, and I think for my own sanity I’ll try not to over exert myself going forward. I’ll probably make a separate post about touring.

One thing to keep in mind, touring is VERY expensive. Not only are you paying (or getting someone else to pay) for flights and accommodations, but you’re also paying to get into these events. There are expenses attached to going out to meet people. You can’t just go and stay in your hotel room all day. The only reason I can justify spending what I spend is because I almost always make back 4x what I spent, typically more.

Touring somewhere specific two or three times, possibly more, is a good idea. Once when there’s a known event or influx, and another time when it’s devoid of travellers or event-goers. I’ll give examples of what I did last year and this year. For Singapore, go during April for the Yacht Show, in September for the Grand Prix, and then also going in June/July and November when there is essentially nothing going on aside from locals, expats and business travellers.

Try to diversify where you go and coordinate the events so you can constantly tour for prolonged periods of time. If you’re crazy like me, you can try this and I guarantee you’ll make an absolute killing. In fact, this is pretty much all I’ve done this year and I’m making good money. Expect to be away for 2-3 weeks. Go to Hong Kong end of March for Art Basel, head to Singapore afterwards for Yacht Show. You can go back home at this point to rest and gather yourself and prepare for the next phase. Expect to be away for 4-10 weeks. Head to Cannes/Monaco for the Film Festival and Grand Prix. Head to Paris straight afterward for the French Open. Take a one week break then head to Switzerland for Art Basel. Take a 2 or 3 day break then head to London for Royal Ascot and overall heauxing in the city. Take another one week break then head to Paris for HCFW. Leave on the last day and head back to London for Wimbledon. By the end, that will have been about 8-9 weeks. You can vacation or just go home at this point. I came home after Wimbledon this year and didn’t work for the rest of July or August. Basically, this has proven to work since I’ve don’t it twice so I’m thinking I’ll be implementing it again for next year and possibly the year after if I’m still in the industry.

More After I Exit

Attending Events For Personal Reasons

TED is something I’ve been going to for fun and because I personally enjoy it. It’s mostly dominated by men and they’re everywhere. A lot of people within tech and other industries. I’ve met a few “clients”, who don’t know they’re clients through attending. It’s somewhat of a mistress or part-time girlfriend situation with them. I want to start attending more conferences and events of this nature. I’m going to look into doing anything having to do with the non-profits, NGO’s, and charities. I’ll have to find a way to attend more galas and invite-only fundraisers. This is, however, more for social climbing for personal and business relationships.

What Makes Her Classy?

When it came to refining my image, I knew instantly what persona I wanted to portray: The Classy Lady. I wanted potential clients to take one look at my photos and know automatically that the purchase of my companionship would not be cheap. 

But I also didn’t want just any client either. Just because he has the money doesn’t mean we would be a great match. For example, I’m not great with young guys or partiers. So I wanted guys of that type to take a look at my pictures and know that we most likely wouldn’t be a good match as well. I’m most compatible with romantics and laidback, professional types. 

I knew my persona. I knew my ideal client. But there was a problem:

I wasn’t quite sure how to depict this in my photos.

I need my photos to do most of the “talking” for me (because we know men don’t always read your blog, site, ad, etc. but they always look at the pictures). 

So I begin browsing various providers’ sites that I felt emulated the persona that I wanted to portray. And were most likely getting the type of clientele that I’m aiming for.

Once I gathered enough pictures, I asked myself, what is it about her pictures/album/gallery that makes her fit this persona? 

Or to put it bluntly: how the hell do I look high-end in my pictures?!* 

Here’s what I noticed: 

She picks one asset at a time to show off (if she’s showing off her breasts, every other asset is covered up)

The lingerie always matches. And there’s usually stockings and/or a garter belt added as well.

Professional/Quality photos. Even the “candid” photos are clear with lots of lighting. 

Adding “feminine” touches to the pictures like flowers.

Having name brand/designer items in the photos. The red bottoms are shown off (literally). The Chanel bag is in her hand. The Agent Provocateur box is on display. I noticed that this is never “over done”. There’s usually only one noticeable luxury item in the picture and it’s never the focal point. 

Makeup is always kept neutral/natural. The boldest I’ve seen is a red lip.

Hair is styled simply and always looks “touchable”. It’s usually lightly curled.

The surroundings are neat and clean.

No explicit posing (no “spread leg” shots).

Nude pictures are done more “artistically”. Less Playboy. More Italian Vogue. 

Business attire. This is one that I hadn’t really noticed but it’s everywhere. Dresses are knee length or longer. The clothing is “work/office appropriate”.  

Plenty of clothed photos. In some cases, I’ve noticed some providers would almost have as many clothed pictures as lingerie or nudes photos. Almost. 

Few casual pictures. Obviously if you’re going for “girl next door”, this wouldn’t apply. However, I’ve noticed that there will be one, maybe two pictures of her dressed “casually”, i.e. jeans and a t-shirt. The majority of the clothed pictures will be taken in skirts, dresses, business attire, etc.

Robes. This was another one I hadn’t really noticed at first but almost every provider’s site that I visited there was at least one picture of her in a robe. And it was usually long, flowy and “feminine” (light colors, lace, etc).

Simple jewelry. Or no jewelry at all. 

If anyone else is using this persona (or plans to), feel free to add to the list!

*Yes, I’m aware that there’s more than one way to look “high-end” and that not every provider wants to portray this image. There are multiple personas that a provider may embody such as Playboy/bombshell, girl next door, bad girl, etc. However, because this is the persona I’ve chosen, this is the “look” that I’m focusing on.

Goodbye Tumblr

I wanted to give a 10 page letter but fuck that let’s keep it short and sweet. 

As of today, @strategicho, SbCaribbeanBeauty and @beneficeduvagin will be laid to rest. In my heart, I think this is a perfect time to say bye. Ever since last week,  I had this feeling and I’m ready. Thank you to the people who let me be myself without censorship and embraced me. I went from a curious mind, novice, sugar baby, confident failer, spoiled girlfriend, to a woman who is with a man who sponsors me/gets on my last damn blood vessel nerve and I created a business behind his back and now he wants me to return to being a basic beech again. 

I was offered an opportunity and yeah…THE SUITCASE MUST BE SECURED. 

I didn’t expect this to be emotional but it is. I will genuinely miss you, even the beeches who hate my guts here…I will miss you too.  I’ve intentionally removed myself from my comfort zone and I’m seeing a side of me I always thought I could be but never thought I was worthy of being. My word of advice is to always put yourself as a priority. The situations you have with men/women, make sure you always have something to look forward to when it’s over. Don’t ever take directions from someone who doesn’t know the address to your destination. (me being fake deep) 

If you see anyone who writes in behalf of me or claims to be me issa damn lie. (packs large bag) Meh leaving and meh fah never come back! Poopa Geezus! Kiss mehhh rasssssssss (starts catching the spirit in the bathroom)

 mi hav to leave mon. M'ap kite ou cherie. I LOVE YOU GREEN CARD. Menzami map dispose nan LIRR. Wooooooooy Jezu!

(Vitamin C song starts playing)  As we go on We remember All the times we Had together And as our lives change Come whatever We will still be Hoes forever