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how do i stop questioning if i’m attracted to men. i think i’m a lesbian and i really like women and only want to be with them. but i’m constantly going “what if you do like men and you’ve brainwashed yourself into thinking you’re a lesbian.” i constantly test my attraction and i try to imagine myself with men and it makes me feel sick to my stomach. i know it’s easy to say that i’m gay if i’m repulsed by men but for some reason i just can’t accept it. i just want to feel better about myself

It really does sound like you’re a lesbian, but having some difficulty with that. It could be internalized homophobia. We’ve been raised our whole lives in a society that basically forces heterosexual ideology on us, and it can make us doubt our own feelings and comfort.It’s going to take some time. It’s going to take introspection and self-affirmation. You’re not alone; others have gone through this and are currently going through this. My advice is to just mentally and verbally affirm to yourself things like “It’s okay if I don’t like guys.” Just remember: society’s hetero-normative. It can be hard to overcome the way we’ve been conditioned, but it’s possible and you’re more than strong enough to discover who you are, one way or another.

hey if I may ask for some advice..( I'm not the anon who sent u whether they could ask you for advice but how do you deal with the constant fear that ur friends don't actually like you and all hate you?

1. communicate with your friends. tell them something like “i have anxiety and one of the ways it manifests is that i have a fear all my friends secretly hate me, so can i get some reassurance about our relationship, and if you ever did want to stop being friends would you tell me?” opening the lines of communication is super important bc u can get validation that they like you and validation that if they didnt like you they wouldnt pretend to keep being your friend

2. love yourself. a lot of that anxiety comes from insecurity, so once you learn to love yourself and have faith that you are a good person worth being friends with, you wont fear that everyone hates you, and even if they do hate you it doesnt matter bc ur a rad person and can find new friends

3. understand that these thoughts are probably a symptom of anxiety, and anxiety is treatable in many ways w therapy and a change in mindset. once you figure out how to calm your anxiety in other respects you should be able to apply it to this too. thinking constantly about negative “what if”s takes you away from the present moment and reality as a whole. instead of saying “what if my friends hate me” say “i should go see one of my friends to make sure things are still good between us”

so like. ive been identifying as a lesbian for almost a year now but recently ive been questioning it so much, to the point where it (negatively) interferes w my daily life WAY too much?? idk im just. VERY scared tht im faking it and im actually into men. i do have crushes on fictional men but when it comes to real life i only wanna date girls - but i fear tht im doing it for attention or smth,, its probably th 583938th time youve gotten an ask like this but hhhhh ;;;;

Faking something is an intentional act, you can’t accidentally fake anything without your knowledge. The fact that you are even scared of faking tells me that you are not. These feelings are very real and, dare I say, common for lesbians dealing with internalized homophobia. Even if in the future, you realize you are into men in some way that doesn’t invalidate your feelings right now. I know it’s hard to go through this but just know that your feelings for girls are valid and you aren’t making this up. Wish you well anon!

mal bertha + looking at evie: d3 edition [descendants 3 (2019)]

Come get this dick-fil-a

You also have these baby teenage mutant ninja turtles to protect you.

Disney:Look at how straight this movie is Ben and Mal are engaged, Evie and doug had true loves kiss, Carlos and Jane are together just in case anyone was confused, and Harry and Audrey totally have a thing.

Us:...

.... Where

Wearing men’s deodorant and watching the straight girls I work with faces’ become Confused and Attracted because I smell like a Hot Guy™ (their words) is a bisexual power move and you can’t tell me otherwise.

you have been visited by the seven magic dragon balls your biggest wish will be granted but only if you reblog

this is, no exaggeration, the funniest thing i’ve ever seen

Ellen: So I hear you’re a fan of Zootopia

Me: Yeah it’s my favorite movie

Ellen: *shoots me in the neck with a night howler pellet*

Me: Omg Ellen you didn’t

Generalizing is so much fun.

https://imgur.com/gallery/04qigzy

anyways read animorphs all 54 books are available online for free with the authors blessing

you have been visited by the seven magic dragon balls your biggest wish will be granted but only if you reblog

did you know there are bisexual flowers and they’re perfect

Me explaining why Evie and doug aren’t a good couple for the millionth time:

My dad and brother:

The I love yous that mattered

Decendents 3 characters as pictures I found

Mal @ Hades:

Evie:

Carlos and Jane:

Jay and Gil:

Uma rising out of the sea:

Hades:

Harry:

All the new VKs:

Doug:

is it really that much of a surprise santas reindeer are girls? they have the most lesbian names ive ever heard

I am not a straight people.

Reblog if you are also not a straight people.

this image can only be shared on Thursday, Sept. 12

They put fanon hearing issues and canon clean freak in the CERN collider and this post popped out

my sense of humor: getting birthday cards with the wildly incorrect age on it for people

Day Five! Partners in Crime ~~ for the #klanceweek

Edit: A little continuation here

Edit2: Now there’s a fanfic

Cat discovers oranges and discovers that he doesn’t like them. (via nevermndthealbatross)

fathom enchants a hat

A bunch of people showed up to the march today with meme themed signs

And honestly

Is there anything more gen z

Than showing up to a student led protest with a fucking meme?

Public elementary school gen z things:

Songs about killing barney the dinosaur

Abcdefg gummy bears are chasing me

Gross pizza but its better than no pizza

Red ribbon/say no to drugs week

Pajama day

Chewy tortillas

Pizzas and grilled cheeses and pb&js in plastic packages

Gendered and/or assigned bus seating

Party in the usa during gym

Treasure chest/prize boxes with cheap erasers and pencils in them and maybe a toothbrush if youre lucky

Off-key singing happy birthday and grocery store cupcakes on your birthday

Bunching up/twisting the swings to set them higher

After school program with going outside + watching Netflix later

60 second times tables

5 finger rule for books (more than 5 words you can't recognize on a page = too advanced for you)

The first school day after Halloween being a MESS of trading candy and being little shits

Very low quality education about non Christian holidays during December in the first few years, then never learning it again

Zapping each other after going down the slides

The 100th day of school being VERY important

Silent reading time

Instead of As and Bs amd Cs, it was E (exceeds standards), M (meets standards), P (progressing), I (insufficient)

Oh I'm a gummy bear yes I'm a gummy bear

FUCK teletubbies, FUCK cailou, FUCK frozen, and most of all, FUCK BARNEY THE DINOSAUR

Field day being insane and everyone getting covered in water

Being too loud at lunch and making the teachers have to clap a rhythm and you repeat it to get your attention

Silent lunch

Foldables that you fill in for notes

No movies over the rating of G

*laces hands together* open the gate *other person "chops" them open* who do you hate

Shame, lemonade, concentration, among other hand clap games

Cheese touch

Bone, babymouse, dear dumb diary, diary of a wimpy kid, dork diaries, etc

That awful lined paper with pink lines and blue dashes in the middle to help your handwriting

Use your finger to size your spaces between words

Kahoot

Those awful "plays" that were standing on risers and singing off key and weird dancing and crappy dialogue

*makes weird hand shape* if you looked at this you're gay

Sharing takis at recess

Show and tell

Being jealous of the kids who got the newest iphone despite them being 9

Being the line leader was very very important and kids would push and shove each other to get to be the front

Playing either horses (pretending to own and ride horses), cats, or wolves depending on if you were a horse girl, a warrior cats nerd, or furry in training (yes I know there are cat furries)

Monthly or weekly assinged classroom jobs like line leader, paper passer outer, school lunch or home lunch counter

Scholastic book fair

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