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This goes out to the survivors who haven't spoken up because they're afraid of not being believed,

I believe you.

To the survivors who have been called a liar, or been told things like "maybe you just misunderstood,"

I believe you.

To the survivors who haven't been believed because the other person is so well loved or well respected by others,

I believe you.

To those who have been silenced, shoved aside, or ignored,

I believe you.

To any and all survivors,

I believe you. I believe you. I believe you.

Thanks🥺💕

and is your shame helpful? is it inspiring goodness and change? or is it keeping you frozen in time unable to move on and be everything you have expanded to be?

Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

Things that are easy to forget:

some days are just bad in every way, but one bad day doesn’t mean your life is bad.

there are good days and good people too.

it’s easier for your brain to focus on bad things so do your best to concentrate on the little things that make u happy.

mistakes and no obvious progress doesn’t mean you’re not improving.

things do get better. bad things are temporary.

you deserve to relax, it’s not a waste of time.

you are more loved than you know.

If someone is critically watching your every move in order to punish, judge and shame you, it's because THEY are abusive, not because YOU are a bad person.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov Chapter 4: A Hymn and a Secret (1880)

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Would you ever tell another survivor that their triggers are stupid?

Would you ever tell another survivor that their experience wasn’t “bad enough?”

Would you ever tell another survivor to “get over it?”

No? That’s what I thought. So, why are you an exception? Why are you not as deserving of your compassion and understanding?

Please show yourself that same compassion, because you are worthy of it.

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“I don’t want you to save me. I want you to stand by my side as I save myself.”

— Unknown

forgive yourself for making the wrong choice during a tough time

your purpose and existence and value do not depend on the satisfaction of others

how to deal with going from talking to someone every day to reverting to basically strangers:

don’t build them up in your head and idolize them as more than another human being. take off the rose colored glasses.

talk to new people and be open to being vulnerable again.

slowly learn to enjoy the time you spend with yourself.

write down things you want to say to them but can’t and just keep them for yourself to go over later.

go places you used to go to with them and make new memories.

be patient with yourself.

remind yourself that some relationships aren’t meant to last but that doesn’t mean you have to forget them completely.

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